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A Guy with dolls?!!

Sep 16, 2014

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    1. As a guy in BJD hobby, I would like to start this thread about how it works for all the guys at this hobby, how is it accepted at different societies and how people are looking at it and treating you including family and friends
       
      #1 Moor Romeo, Sep 16, 2014
    2. My hubby actually has a doll it was our first bjd we got and we got him her cause I knew it would let me ease into the hobby- He isn't on doa though. No one really cares in my family what he collects, I buy him a lot of art figures too like Shunya Yamashita figures.
       
      #2 sweetandsourluna, Sep 16, 2014
    3. I have a male friend on here and I hope he finds this thread!
       
      #3 dollieaddict, Sep 16, 2014
    4. My brother is saving up to buy his first doll and is actually slowly easing himself on the forum, lurking right and left. My mother was quite apprehensive -especially because the trial doll I wanted to give him was a girl and Greek people are sadly verY homophobic-. But he's chosen a Dollzone Brant as his first that is a macho man if anything and when I attempted to pitter patter around the matter with her she seemed to not mind all that much if it was going to be a guy doll. Again, though, we live in Greece and here it is considered VERY weird for a guy to be interested in dolls or pretty much "anything" even remotely "feminine" or even just targeted at women such as boybands or "shoujo" manga or even games like the Sims, for example. It's really silly, if you ask me.
       
      #4 Soenatte, Sep 16, 2014
    5. I'm a guy and I've been in the forum for a while and owned my own doll for over a year. My friends mostly pretend he doesn't exist. I haven't told any of my family mostly because I don't want their judgement about the cost. I live in the southern US and most guys think it's feminine to "play with dolls" so I generally only talk about them with my closest friends.
       
      #5 chrstphrl, Sep 16, 2014
    6. #6 Cynthia in FlintHills, Sep 16, 2014
    7. I love that my best friend(male) is as much in love with BJDs as I am. ^^
       
      #7 Maeve Kaninchen, Sep 16, 2014
    8. Wow, it's so fantastic when guys collect dolls)
      Really, this means he is not callous, patient and can see and enjoy beauty.

      But unfortunately I know (in real life) only one guy who collected dolls. He sold me mine Soom Euclase. And, I should say that tho' the doll was really old, the condition was p-e-r-f-e-c-t. I was impressed). Seems he loved his doll and cared about it a lot.
       
      #8 Meliarn, Sep 20, 2014
    9. I'm a guy in the bjd community who lives in Texas which is closed minded in my and they don't get it. But I don't care. I love this hobby, these dolls bring joy to my life and I love love love the creativity of changing them up. But yeah I got into this hobby recently and I love it!
       
      #9 Kryslin, Sep 20, 2014
    10. My doll hasn't arrived yet, and i didn't tell anyone that i ordered one, but i fully expect people to give me a hard time when they find out. The idea of guys owning/being interested in feminine stuff does not compute for a lot of people, and they tend to be quite vocal about it, too.

      But i don't really care. I just think of this as an additional boring topic to cover right before: "why does an adult need a doll?", and "you spent how much on a doll?!" XD

      edit: so i re-read my message and i think it can be misinterpreted: i didn't mean that this topic is boring here, i meant that it will be a hassle to have my interests questioned over and over again by people IRL.
       
      #10 Alton, Sep 20, 2014
    11. One of my best DoA friends is a guy, maybe he'll stop in here to comment :) It's sad to hear that a lot of members are afraid of being judged for being a male in the BJD community. I think it's cool that there are quite a few guys who are into dolls!
       
      #11 AmberLeigh, Sep 21, 2014
    12. I don't think it's a bad thing if a guy wants to collect dolls ^^ It's not harming anyone so it shouldn't be a big deal. American society, however, instantly chalks up a boy with dolls as being gay. Some are, yes, but not every single one and it's just mean to throw them all into one condescending stereotype.
       
      #12 skipperofotters05, Sep 21, 2014
    13. It's an unusual thing for sure. Probably because most of the guys with BJD prefer not to tell any one to avoid stupid questions mentioned here above.
      I personaly was really impressed, when I first time found out that in our comunity there was a guy with a doll. The doll was a girl, and he has a house for her. And I was a step before asking him something idiotic like "What do you need her for?". But I pulled my self together))
      What I'm trying to say is - that I think it's ok for a guy to have a doll and whatever stuff he wants for him/her. It's just very rare :XD:
       
      #13 Anch-Shi, Sep 21, 2014
    14. wow best thing ever to have a partner in the same hobby

      That's cool, I wish I could have a male friend into BJD

      yea I'm living in middle east and I know how people thinks about guys with dolls, but this should be changed I mean is there is any law stating that dolls should be strictly for girls?? :) it should have nothing to do with sexuality ,I'm sure not all the guys with dolls are gays and not all gays are having dolls

      That's so funny :) my friends also doing the same ignoring my dolls, but I keep talking about BJD to them and enjoy their face expressions :)

      sorry if my post was a duplicate, I will check all the other liked threads as it is an interesting subject, Thank you for the links

      That's super cool to have a male friend in the hobby or any friend at all interested at BJD, I don't have any

      Yea I totally agree about your opinion about guys with dolls, I wish all people can know and see how amazing and artistic is BJD hobby so they could appreciate people in it regardless of their sex, maybe it's partially our mistake that we don't spread more awareness about this hobby, for me I talk about it to all my friends and invited some of them even to check my dolls

      I know how it feels to live in a closed minded society, but hey you still at USA you can travel for conventions and meet up, but for me at middle east, I'm latterly running after my friends with my dolls to explain to them what am I doing and mostly they runaway screaming :)

      best feeling ever receiving your first BJD hope you will enjoy it and have lots of fun with it, regarding comments and judgments from others, I used to deal with it in a funny way, I even use my dolls now to tease my friends because that makes me laugh :)

      I wish everyone can see it as cool as you see it that would be great

      If guys with dolls have to be gays, then why girls with guns aren't lesbians :) anyways it's not a bad thing to be gay or lesbian it's nothing that we should be ashamed of, but it's just not fair to connect sexuality with a hobby

      your question to the guy was so funny :) I receive this question a lot from my friends but after they saw my dioramas and dresses and photography work with the female girls they accepted the fact that those not just dolls
       
      #14 Moor Romeo, Sep 21, 2014
    15. I haven't personally met any guy in this hobby before but I think they are cool and see nothing strange at all. Girls love dolls, why can't boys also like them? For me, both genders have the right to like things equally.
       
      #15 Hallowie29, Sep 21, 2014
    16. yes thank you, you have just translated all what I want to say in two lines
       
      #16 Moor Romeo, Sep 21, 2014
    17. Dolls give guys a chance to care for a small human and practice nurturing and other things they'll need if they become a father. There was a recent episode of Sesame Street where Baby Bear was embarrassed at first to tell his best friend that he had a baby doll he liked to care for but by the end both guys were tending to the doll.
       
      #17 DollyKim, Sep 21, 2014
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    18. Thanks :) // That so sounds like something i would do XD
       
      #18 Alton, Sep 21, 2014
    19. I dragged my boyfriend to a bjd meet once...at first he though they were "creepy as hell". Two days later, he asked me where I'd bought my doll Azrael from. One week later, he'd already ordered his first doll - a female MSD. He now also has another girl (this time an SD) as well as a male SD head. On top of all of this, my boyfriend has even spoken at a convention panel about what it's like to be a (straight) guy who collects dolls. :aheartbea
       
      #19 Quiet and Insane, Sep 21, 2014
    20. wow well-done that's awesome, now both of you will have a lot of things to do together at this hobby and he will never complain about you spending on your dolls :)
       
      #20 Moor Romeo, Sep 21, 2014
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