Benefits of Having Kids and Dolls

Mar 4, 2019

    1. Hey, sorry if a post like this already exists. I found a couple in search, but they were locked. Hopefully this is ok :)
      So when people talk about having kids and collecting BJDs, it seems like they're mostly focused on the bad, or on worries. Either collecting makes them feel guilty for not spending every spare dime on their kids, or having kids makes them nervous that their dolls will be neglected or broken. So I'm curious, does anyone else think there are benefits to having kids and dolls?
      For example, I have 2 girls, 2 years and 7 months old. Of course my 7 month old doesn't really know what's up, but my 2 year old loves dolls and I think my hobby benefits her because I know how to sew clothes for her dolls, fix them when they get broken or dirty, and I'm always eager to get her cute new dolls. Having her is great for me because I don't have to feel self-conscious about scouring the toy aisle anymore haha. Also sometimes I steal her doll clothes, which is how I now know that some Lammily clothes fit ResinSoul single-jointed msd. (And wellie wishers/glitter girls shoes fit, and Calico Critters clothes are a reasonably good fit on Pukipukis) Basically, I love having a little buddy who enjoys dolls as much as I do.
      Anybody else feel the same?
       
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    2. I do feel the same. I started collecting BJD's when my daughter was 10, and she was always a gentle and conscientious girl so I easily could have had her around them earlier. I took her to meetups with me, we surfed the websites together, and when she started to want one of her own she started saving up her own allowance to buy it herself. She would do extra chores and squirrel away birthday money from Grandpa, it took a whole year but she did it. I think it's a great lesson in saving up, and a great lesson in treating things with respect. If you have to work THAT hard for something you're going to treat it well
       
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    3. I started in hobby 12 almost 13 years ago and my daughter not a kid anymore joined for a couple of years. But then daughter in law joined and has been a great friend too to share hobby with. Now granddaughter is slowly joining. She's now five and I have high hopes she will join us on trips to meet ups in a couple of years.
       
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    4. Aw, this is a sweet thread. And yes! There are certainly pros to having children in this hobby. My child loves to stroke my dolls' hair and touch their hands. Just a simple thing, but it can be very cute to watch the careful attention. <3
       
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    5. Yes, I have come across some not so nice things towards people who have kids and dolls. So this is a refreshing take on the subject. My eldest doesn't seem to like the dolls, he finds them weird, but he likes his dolls (a.k.a. action figures). But he enjoys miniatures, and wants his own dollhouse for them. So we get to share that aspect of the hobby.

      My youngest is 11 months and he LOVES my dolls. I was showing him my 60cm Obitsu girl, which he loved and held her hand! Her wig was being finicky (it's a size too large) and during the course of trying to fix it, her head popped off, and he stopped and frowned. He wasn't happy until I put her head back on. XD The Little Fox also likes other off-topic dolls that I have.
       
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    6. That is such a good point! I hadn't even thought of that but it is a great lesson.
      Wow, three generations! That is so cool. Life goals, right there.

      Oh my gosh, kids loving on dolls is the cutest thing! I love seeing that affectionate, nurturing side in my toddler.
       
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    7. Two of the people in my local doll group are a grown mother daughter pair. It warms my heart that they have a hobby they can share, especially as two grown ups!
       
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    8. I have no children myself but from the other view side of coin I followed my mum into doll collecting granted mum didn't have BJD's but it taught me to respect the doll and was a great hobby to be both involved in and she it was an ideal way to start to learn about price of things and to be patience saving up to buy a doll of your dreams. I still have some of my mum dolls
       
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    9. I am the daughter of a doll collector. While my mother does not collect bjds specifically (currently only has one), she did help me know that liking dolls when all other girls started saying "barbies are dumb" was okay. She showed me that there is more than just the toy isle in Target and the beauty of artist-made dolls, but also that play dolls like Barbies and American Girls were fine too. I love that my mom is a doll collector and raised me in a way that helped me grow into the hobby. She has always been supportive and never looked at me weird when I sat one of my dolls with me during a family movie night (because sometimes she would do it to). I think this also helped with my dad. Since my dad was already used to my mom being a doll collector, he has never bat an eye at me playing with my dolls or whatever (of course, he does not know how much some of my dolls cost either, lol).
      I am so happy I am the child of a doll collector, because when I felt I had to hide my love of dolls from my peers, I could always gush about them to my mom, and she could do the same with me!
       
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    10. I wouldn't even have my bjd hobby if I hadn't had my daughter. I started out by sewing clothes for her American Girl doll when she was little, just because the official AG clothes were so expensive. Then I discovered I was pretty decent at making doll clothes and that I really enjoyed doing miniature fashion design. From there I went to selling AG clothes on Etsy, and that was fun for me and my daughter too...she liked to help me dress up the dolls and set up for listing photo shoots and so on. Eventually I came across bjd on Flickr when me and the child were looking at AG and Pullip pictures, and I was drawn to the idea of sewing for such big, realistic dolls. I ended up buying my first bjd with money I made from my American Girl Etsy, and when my second one came with a free event yo-sd size doll, I gave the tiny one to my daughter. So we've pretty much always had this hobby together. When we started and she was still a kid, I painted all of our dolls...years later, she's become a ridiculously good faceup artist. All of my dolls are painted by her; I still make her dolls all their clothes. So yeah....dolls are kind of our thing together.
       
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    11. I was thinking of you and your mom when I saw this thread! I met you guys at a meetup several weeks ago, you're both so sweet and your mom was adorable. I wish my mom was into dolls!
       
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    12. Though I don't have any children myself, I'd say that they can be used to teach children the delicacy of certain objects and to be more careful
       
    13. I got into ball-jointed dolls because I thought I was never going to have children of my own and I craved something that I could fuss over and express myself through. I apologize if this might sound creepy. I never meant them to be a replacement for a child so please keep that in mind. ;)

      But, low and behold, miracles do exist and despite what several medical specialists told me I am now the proud mother of a 2,5 year old son. He loves my dolls so much. He already 'plays' with them as if they were his. He brushes their hair and fusses over their clothing and enjoys moving their limbs to make them sit or stand or kneel. I know some might cringe over letting my son play with such expensive works of art but he is so very careful with them. Children are pretty clever really, if they see you handle items with great care they usually figure out that they need to be careful as well before you can even tell them to be. It's great knowing that for now I can enjoy the hobby together with my little boy. He makes me proud each and every day.

      I'll be the first to admit that there is practically no free time to spare anymore to actually be productive with my dolls though. However, I'd much rather have my son with me 24/7 than have more spare time to excercise my hobbies. I understand why some parents might complain but I choose not to because the combination of my little boy and my hobby give me more pleasure than the hobby alone would have ever provided. I hope that when he grows up he'll never have to deal with the stereotype that dolls are for girls and if he does get confronted about it that he'll be strong enough to stand up for himself and honestly believes that each individual is free to decide what they do or do not like despite their gender.

      TLDR: Young toddler that loves to play with his mommy's BJD collection and a proud mommy that her son loves dolls and treats them well.
       
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    14. My son was 9 when I ordered my first doll, and he was supportive and interested, though very hands off. Over the years, he has helped me choose between sculpts and cheered on my sad sewing projects. After our family dog died, we even worked on a doll together to help us heal, creating a character and aesthetic that reminded us of our dear River.

      There’s been a lot of eye rolling along the way—especially now that he’s a teenager—but whenever he’s been part of my doll hobby, it’s been a good thing.
       
    15. I also am the daughter of a doll collector. She collects antique dolls, fashion dolls, folk dolls, pretty much anything that she liked, other antique toys too. Her favorite was Lenci felt dolls. She doesnt have any asain balljoint dolls but she likes to see what i do with mine. When i was growing up She had her collection on shelves aroud the house and she always said toys were to be played with, we just had to ask and follow the rules. Different toys had different rules, some were "breakely" so we could only play with gently on the bed. Some had rules like dont take their clothes off.Others like her vintage barbies or Dawn dolls we could play with however as long as we didnt lose or break them. I am doing the same with my kids, one is still to you to care but my oldest really likes all my dolls. He gets excited whenever i buy or make something new. He knows the dfference between mommas toys and his toys. And when he asks i let him play with any of them as long as hes gentle.
       
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    16. I started this hobby when my daughter was nine. She loved looking at the company websites with me while I was pondering what to buy as my first doll...and she was such a responsible little girl that when she fell madly in love with a Risi from the Soom Little Genie line (now defunct) I bought one for her as a gift when she brought home straight A report cards for the year. It was the first BJD that made it home, about six months before I bought my first. :XD: Since then, we have shared this hobby with a lot of joy and excitement. She is in college now (still owns her beloved Risi, which has mellowed a tiny bit, but is otherwise in perfect condition) and has graduated to minis, while I frequently favor the large - but we take a lot of pleasure in one another's dolls, and I know that I would not have had nearly as much fun collecting if she hadn't been along for the ride. I guess it depends entirely on the child, because as parents we know that each is unique - but if they are captivated and not the type to break everything that they touch, then I can't stress enough the added happiness that comes from sharing the dolly experience with one of the people you love best in all the world. :)
       
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