I have pondered this question since I first learn about bjds and learned a great deal more on D.o.A. I hear owners say that they did not bond with the doll(s) or when they got to see bjd(s) they knew the bjd would not be a good fit for them. Also, I saw videos of owners with super hard to find rare doll(s) that they truly wanted/like and in addition, took quite a good bit of work to receive but decide to sale later (not because of financial problems either). These situations lead me to ask the following: Is the reason for bonding or not bonding because of bjd(s) choosing or your own? Why or Why not? Do you feel as if your doll was meant for you or felt when you had the doll it was meant for another? *If this is in the wrong place or repeated, please move or delete. My apologizes if so.* Thank you EDIT: All of your wonderful comments made me think of more questions! Do doll collectors that have their bjd(s) for display do the choosing or do the doll(s) choose that option too? For example, a few dolls give me the instinct impression that they DON'T want to be social at all or at least not often. Do your bjd(s) make you more or a great deal more social because they want to be out in the public a lot than you care to be? Did your bjd(s) not like your face-up, even though it is really beautiful, and cause you to change it till that bjd(s) felt it is right for them and/or did similar actions happen with clothes choices, fashion styles, shoes, wigs, eyes, etc.? Has your bjd(s) ever changed personalities, (like complete change from your original character creation), and/or their fashion style and refuse to wear the clothes they don't like anymore? I have pondered this when bjd's style do change from time to time and owners talk about how there bjd(s) is/are being a brat(or brats). I am just so amazed how different everyone's bjd(s) acts even with the same sculpts and companies.