Do you care if other people like your doll?

I asked a doll for my birthday once. My mom said "Well, these dolls are ugly but whatever" or something like that xD It kindof upset me, because I'd rather she get me she liked herself aswell.
But otherwise, no I don't think I really care. They're my dolls and no one else's. I'd prefer if people I care about like my dolls, but it doesn't actually influence anything at all. It's just an ego boost I guess.
In your case, if you pay for the doll with your own money, I would just get it. You buy your dolls for yourself right?

 

My dolls are purchased because they make me happy. No other reason.

 

No, I don't care what other people think of my dolls. If I did, I might not have about half of them, as I like odd and "cheap" dolls as well as the more expensive ones, and the majority of mine are sort of odd and/or gothy, which a I know a number of people don't like. I buy my dolls for *me* and I could not care less who does or does not like them.
I would definitely buy an unpopular sculpt if I liked it, since, again, I do not care whether other people like my doll or find it the most hideous thing in the world. If I were you ,I would, quite honestly buy the doll and tell your husband and daughter to get over the fact that they don't like it. You aren't buying it for them, you're buying it for yourself, and *you* are the only one whose opinion really counts. Having something they don't like around is not going to kill them.

 

I personally don’t care if people don’t like my dolls – I appreciate nice comments from other people for my dolls,
just like most other people do. However, I am not into following trends or buying things just because other
people like them. I am not into popular sculpts either, I usually prefer sculpts that other people don’t normally find
“appealing.” My collection so far pretty much consists of dolls that were so unpopular, they were discontinued. XB

If I were in your place I would buy the doll/sculpt if I truly loved it, regardless of others’ opinions (however, I am a weirdo). ^ ^


- Enzyme

 

I don't care that much, because my dolls represent my characters, and if the character looks a particular way, then I had a reason for it. I would probably be sad if someone decided to really trash one of my choices, but when it comes down to it, either it's the right doll for the character or it isn't - no matter what anyone else thinks.

 

Generally, and to people not living in my household, I really don't give a rat's rear end about whether they like my dolls or not. I don't live with them, most of the time I don't talk to them, and I don't have to deal with the on a daily basis. So, it's really their own problem when they don't like something of mine.

However, in the case of the people living with me, I do try to accommodate their likes and dislikes, just as they do me. If I fell for a doll that no one in my house liked (more specifically my girlfriend, since our boyfriend doesn't like the hobby at all), then I would consider the potential consequences of getting the doll. In my case, my girlfriend is my biggest collaborator for stories, art, and pretty much everything creative. So if she refused to work with one of my dolls because she didn't like the sculpt (unlikely, but for the sake of the topic), then it would hamper me going anywhere with the doll. Which is to say nothing of how she might feel if I so blatantly ignored what she wanted or liked, which would impact our relationship.

Basically, what I'm trying to say is that I try to consider the feelings of the people I love and live with. If their dislike of something is to the point of causing problems in the relationship, I'd rather ditch it than create drama none of us need. Just as they would for me. In any relationship, it's give and take. You can't just decide to do things simply because they make you happy, especially if it makes someone else unhappy.

BUT! If said doll sculpt is only marginally disliked for some reason (such as aesthetics), and the people living with me can handle it, but just don't like it, then I'd get it. This whole keeping peace thing is a two-way street, and I'm not about to sacrifice something that makes me happy simply because someone else doesn't like how it looks.

TL;DR - I don't care what people think of my dolls, so long as I and my peeps are happy. If my loved ones are made unhappy (significantly, as opposed to marginally), then it's not worth it. If it's only marginal (like they don't like the style, or skin color, or some aesthetic reason) then I'd go ahead and get the @#$% doll, and be happy about it.

 

I have to say that I do care if other people like my dolls! At least to the point that it stings a bit and makes me sad. I share this hobby with my daughter, so I very much care what she thinks and would probably not get a doll that she really disliked. I've been to doll meets where one of my dolls that I thought was beautiful was ignored, which kinda hurt my feelings, and I've since traded her for an SD, but not because of anyone else - I just wanted an SD. My daughter's best friend thinks one of my dollies is scary and I think he's adorable! But we joke about it all the time - I tell her when she spend the night I'm going to set him up right next to her while she's sleeping! So I guess it hurts a little if my dollies are disliked, but not enough for me to get rid of them or not buy them, unless it was my daughter!

 

Well if worst comes to worst, then you put the doll up for sale in the Marketplace/on E-bay/what-have-you. It's not an irreversible decision. ^_^

 

I don't expect everyone to like my doll - or the hobby in general. It's selfish for me to expect everyone to want to conform to something as trivial as a hobby. This being said, though, I would like at least one person to like my doll, because... at least one person likes my doll.

 

I don't expect everyone to like my dolls. But it does hurt my feelings when I post photos of my dolls in threads and get ignored. I make sure to try to comment on other's dolls because I know what it feels like to have my dolls complimented for whatever reason. My Dollstown girl is my number one doll, but the Dollstown people are mostly art oriented so my general photos often get ignored, which hurts a lot because I love her with my life. The minifee threads are not art oriented, they're just straight ignorant. There are discussion threads, however, that are extremely warm and welcoming like the Iple threads and Elfdoll tiny threads. And I enjoy my stay on those threads. I wonder if it influences my doll obsessions. We all need a place to feel comfortable.

Sorry if I got a little off topic. I went back and read your concerns. DO NOT, EVER, go against a particular doll because of what anyone else says or thinks. In this hobby - it's about US, the doll is for YOU, not them. Don't let them influence your decision.

 

To be honest, I definitely overly cared at first. In fact, I cared so much that I regretted buying Rai for a bit. I bought Wing-2 because he fit Rai's character so well and I found him so absolutely beautiful. But, the more research I did into him, it felt very much like his sculpt was just not liked all that much. Which, honestly, shouldn't bother me but, it did and still does to a degree. I got over regretting him, though. Now I absolutely love him and wouldn't replace him in all the world. But, I have to admit, it gets depressing feeling like he's not liked. But, I would never change him and I'm so glad I bought him. In the end, it should matter what YOU want. People can have all the influence they want on you but, at the end of that day, you have to love the doll you bought or you've wasted your money. *nods*

 

I did that with Emma! I put the company pic on my iPod to remind myself what I was saving for. But then I began to bond with her from the photograph, and I can't dream of giving her up.

 

I was going to say the same thing as others.."It's your money, you should buy whatever sculpt you like.", but when i read again about your situation, maybe you could convince your family that that particular mold is versatile enough, they might like it if you customized it differently..

As for myself, i don't care about what others think, that's why my collection is consist of both popular and unpopular molds. Some of my wishlist dolls are discontinued dolls (since they're not popular). But then again, my family and friends doesn't really involved, or even interested, in BJD world. They just shrugged off and let me be, since they know i got weird taste (yes..that's included owning BJD).

 

I, generally as a rule of thumb, don't give a good ______ _______ (insert vehemently spoken expletives here) about what anybody thinks concerning me, be it in this hobby and my dolls or anything else, for that matter (But I'm also a bit agressive and highly confrontational, and will tell someone where to stick it in a wink)
However, I'm sure that doesn't apply to your family.
So, as said before, this hobby, like anyones hobby of choice, is about what brings you joy, and how you want to get enjoyment out of it. Even if they don't like the sculpt, seeing how happy it makes you could make them love it simply for that reason.

 

I bought it with my money, with my interest, why should I start caring what people like my dolls or not? I really don't.

 

Well, I think that your husband and daughter will change their mind when time passes~
Your doll may not attract them in the first sight, but when they meet it everyday, I think they will accept it as your family's new member very soon! (o^-^