Feelings about giving up a doll

While I have not sold any of my BJD's, I had terrible feeling the first time I sold a doll from the family of O.T. dolls I collected.
You are not weird at all, many go thru similar feelings.

 

I've gone through the same thing- it's not unusual. I recently sold a doll and I'm sort of regretting it, sort of not.

I suggest putting the doll away in her box somewhere you won't see her every day, and leave her there for a few weeks at least. Take her back out afterwards and see how you feel. What also helped me was thinking about what doll/stuff I would buy with the money I got for selling the doll- did I feel more excited about the new stuff, or sad about the old?

 

I felt the same way about my first doll - a Bobobie Tony. I really liked him for a couple of years, but then looking at him started to make me feel unhappy. When I finally decided to sell him, he sold really fast, and I felt no regret whatsoever when I sent him off. The money I got for him wasn't even that important (it was only $100 or so), but I just wanted him gone. Also, what amphetamine said is excellent advice for deciding if you want to keep or sell the doll.

 

Yes, I think also as amphetamine, that is the right way. And when you decide to sell her, do it quickly.
Hugs Sabine

 

I'm also struggling with this. When I started collecting I started with SDs. Now that I also have MSDs and YoSDs, I find I like the smaller size dolls better. My SDs have been wearing the same clothes for over a year and I have hardly touched them. I want to send them to loving, new homes, but I feel terrible about it. I've been waffling with a decision for the better part of 8 months and still no definitive answer.

 

I'm in exactly the same situation I am collecting different dolls now and I really need to think about thinning out my collection. I have two dolls I keep thinking about selling then I look at them I change my mind!!!

 

I started the doll hobby with a lot of emotional bonding and investments towards my dolls. That's just the way I was/maybe still am. I created a bond with almost anything. It was really hard to sell my first doll, but I knew I had to do it. I wasn't doing anything with her. Now I try to justify myself, and I just tell myself that somebody else will give them a lot of love that I can't. And it's completely true.
When I start wondering if I should sell them, I usually put them away in a box and if I don't think about them for a week or two, I just proved to myself that I won't miss them much. It sounds cruel, but it works for me.

 

you are definitely not alone...I've been thinking finding one of my dolls a new home for some times now...but with the emotional bond that we share it just makes me too sad about the idea of giving her up... She spend now almost always in her box but the connection between us never get better...every time I open the box to see her it just makes me feel evenly awful...

 

Same here. There was a doll that I just couldn't do anything with though I liked him a lot.
After two years I finally traded him.
I love the new doll I got but I still miss him sometimes.
I don't regret trading him though.

 

Hi Kain,

Unfortunately, this is not a situation where others can provide you with the answers you seek. Of course, giving up a doll is a very tough decision, and many of us have struggled with it before! One way to think about it is: it's more than likely that you'll be able to purchase the same sculpt in the future, especially where markets are headed these days [unless she's very rare!].

Ultimately, the decision is up to you. This subject is much more appropriate for a personal blog or lj, so I'm locking it up.

Hope it all works out,
Laelen