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How do I fall back in love with some of my dolls?

May 16, 2015

    1. I've been away from my dolls for a long time, doing other things out of necessity, and they were lovingly packed away. When I was finally able to unbox them a few months ago, I thought I'd feel a rush of excitement - because I do love them and think they're beautiful. But I wonder if the spark is gone for me with at least one or two dolls. Maybe I ought to put them back away for a while?

      I redid Sooah's faceup (I didn't like it, even when I put her away) and had all sorts of problems with it (still am not thrilled with it), then had to restring her three times. So I think I'm understandably frustrated with her. I can't find a wig, eyes, clothes or patterns I like for Wu and he's the one I feel the most irritated with. :| I didn't really know what to do with him or my boy AR LF before but for some reason, I thought I should have a boy to balance out each girl. I don't know what to do with boys!

      I'm sort of depressed right now so it's probably not a great time to be to be upset about not being able to bond with my kids but I need to have something to keep myself busy, I want it to be sewing because it's relaxing (ha, usually!) but I'm not sure how to go about it when I look around and feel sad about these lovely dolls.

      Has anyone else been through this? Do you have any suggestions for waiting through it, helping to reattach or knowing when it's time to let them go to a new home?

      *I got a new Mystic Kids Tiny yesterday and I've been toting her around, trying to get to know her.
       
      #1 Barbara in WI, May 16, 2015
    2. Oooh, me! me!

      I've gone through this. Especially when depression strikes -- it's just hard to enjoy the things we used to when this happens. So don't feel frustrated or sad about feeling disconnected from your resin kids. It happens.
      I'd urge you not to sell your dolls when you're frustrated with them, but give yourself time to mellow. And when you're feeling better about them, you can then address whether or not it's time to let them go and get new resin in your collection, or you might even want to keep them!

      Things I do to fall back in love with my dolls: I redo their faceups. I'll buy them a new wig, or a new outfit, or new eyes. I'll try to involve them in my other hobbies, like photography. Or writing! I love to write, so my dolls are shells for characters I've made over the years. Sometimes I'll rethink their canon story... sometimes I'll completely redo it! I'm doing that right now with one of my dolls. :D

      But then, there are some dolls who just want to move on. It's not that you aren't a good owner, because they love you as any doll could. You made them real for a while using your imagination and love. But some dolls have journeys, and they have other people they must spend time with. Don't feel upset with yourself if you can no longer feel a bond with your dolls. It might just be them gently letting you know that it's time they move on. This happens to me, too, and I make sure to part ways with them amicably, and wish them well on their journey. :) (Then... I use the money to buy new dolls! Hahahaha.)
       
      #2 koka, May 17, 2015
    3. For me, being a very hands on owner, the longer a doll is out of sight, the more detached I become. I once sent a very loved doll to stay with a friend, and after a year of not seeing him realized I couldn't care less if he was gone. I ended up selling him. I don't think it's bad to lose interest in dolls, or change your mind about what you like. If a certain doll no longer holds your interest, and you don't think changing their look will fix that, I think it's fine to sell it and use the money to get one you like better, or buy things for the ones you do still love. It's just plastic. Regardless of what it meant or how special it was at one time, you're under no obligation to feel that way forever.
       
      #3 CloakedSchemer, May 17, 2015
    4. Thank you both for the comforting advice!

      @koka - redoing my Sooah's face was a good start (which went a little wonky, but it was a start). I need to get back on that, plus I have a mountain of supplies to make my own mohair wigs that I've been avoiding because I'm so distracted. I need to sit down doll by doll, I think. First, maybe I should just accept temporary defeat and put the boys away again until I'm in a better mood?

      @CloakedSchemer - I was one of those weird kids who had to make sure every one of my two dozen stuffed animals had an equal amount of covers on the bed, whether I still liked them or not. :lol: It's so hard for me to let anything go, the guilt is going to kill me but there are so many other dolls I'd want to move on to, I know. The owner may have to promise me they live on a big farm and the doll will have plenty of room to run with other big dolls (a joke I hope a lot of people get).

      A weird twist to the story this morning - while digging through some boxes looking for some sewing trims, I came across a small Elfdoll box. Inside is a Reminisce Sooah head that I got back in 2006. She's still wrapped in tissue and bubble wrap, it doesn't even look like I even touched it. Maybe this is the extra bit I need to make me connect to my Sooah - a new head!
       
      #4 Barbara in WI, May 17, 2015
    5. Barbara, maybe boys just aren't your thing! But try looking at owner pics of Wu and your other boys to see if you get more inspiration. I believe he has a more slender and shorter body than is popular right now, so mature clothes may be more difficult to find for him, especially depending on how you like to dress your girls (since I imagine you'd like them to look appropriate together).

      Redoing faceups and changing styles of clothing may give your girls a whole new look you love and reignite your interest.

      Koka is right -- if your dolls aren't "earning their keep", money from selling them is great to have for new dolls who DO suit you! I think it's like trying to find a style of clothing that suits you, you have to keep shopping til you get the right "fit".

      Linda S.
      galatia9
       
      #5 galatia9, May 17, 2015
    6. galatia9 - I'm floundering a bit because I don't know what style I want my big dolls to have and that's unusual for me. I thought I wanted wearable and contemporary, then I was more inspired to do something funky, then I wanted something with a story, then I was thinking I'd sew with the idea of eventually selling either patterns or the clothing. In other words, I got way ahead of myself. SMH

      My smaller dolls are no problem, I have fun with them. I was looking at them all again in my sewing room today and I think it's that darn Wu that's dragging me down. I love your idea of looking at other people's pictures to see if I can find something that'll help. Maybe if I stop thinking of him as part of the Wu-Sooah couple and let him be his own character. Something dark could be fun.
       
      #6 Barbara in WI, May 17, 2015
    7. I think that treating Wu separately instead of half of a couple may be just what you need to bond with him. It doesn't mean they can't be a couple any more, just that he doesn't need to only be thought of as part of a whole. Couples are always two individual people who have lots of differences. (And hopefully some things in common too!) Maybe it's time to figure out who he is when she isn't part of the picture. Who knows, maybe that will help you find out more about her too, especially if they decide to stay together!
       
      #7 quidam, May 18, 2015