How do you cope when you loose a doll?

So sorry to hear this :C I had a similiar thing happen to me years ago - lost some very precious blown glass ornaments. It's too bad that some people, especially relatives, find themselves able to be this way.

 

I currently have a doll...um..."in limbo"? I'd rather not go into details, but basically, I know where he is, but his future is uncertain. It's extremely stressful and I worry about him a lot, if he's okay, when he'll be home, if everything will come out in my favor. But short of filing a police report, there's nothing I can do (and in my situation, that's a bit extreme). How am I coping? I'm just trying to not think about it too much. Focus on other things, and convince myself that he'll be okay, he'll be home and safe.

Midknight, in your case, I would post in the Missing and Stolen Dolls thread. IF the thief tries to sell the doll online (or even to a bjd collector), your doll might be recognized and reported or returned to you. Some of the dolls listed in this thread have been recovered and returned to their owners. It never hurts to get the word out! You might also file a police report in the area in which she disappeared. I wish you the best of luck in getting your girl back home.

 

Um, I file a police report? The only way I could lose a doll is if it was stolen.

 

I did everything I could to track down my two dolls that was lost/stolen during transit or after being delivered to a face up artist.
As with anything that gets lost/stolen, you eventually just have to give up and move on.
I didn't "cope" persay, but I just let go.
I exhausted my options and there was no more that I could do other than hold onto hope that one day they'll show back up at my door.

They shared a body, and I held onto it for the past few months. It sat still dressed sitting on my shelf, waiting for the heads to come back, but I finally sold it a few days ago.
It was just the final surrender to accepting that my heads are gone for good.
A lot of people told me to just get replacement heads and start again, but I didn't like the idea of a constant reminder sitting around. For me it was just better to completely let go and move on.

So it still sucks, and I think about them every time I go to mail something, but there's nothing more I can do.

The police often don't care and have "better things to do" than track down lost "toys." Unless it's a whole collection that's gone missing, you're going to have a hard time convincing a policy to prioritize it.
You're most likely going to wait months before they even start investigating, if they even bother.

 

I looked at your post in the Missing thread,so if I see anything I'll tell you. Nothing like that ever happened to me,but I worry about losing my dolls or someone stealing them all the time.

 

If I lost a doll I'd probably just panic and cry initially. After that I'd probably go to my police department and make them hunt it down by explaining I just lost $400 to theft. The only way I could see myself losing a doll is to theft because I guard dolls like I have some kind of secret government document in my bag, haha. Overall though I'm really not good and handling losing objects with sentimental value, especially ones I would never be able to get again.

I'm really sorry to hear about your doll too by the way. I really don't know what to say, I just hope they turn up again or you eventually go back to your old home and find them.

 

I'm so sorry for your loss! That's terrible. I haven't moved since I started collecting BJDs, but after hearing your story, I imagine they'd be one of the first things to get moved so I know they're kept safe. I've moved many times and never had a problem with leaving anything behind, but my neighbor told me that when she and her husband were moving into their place, someone went right in the front door and stole her purse. It's hard to open doors when you're lifting boxes though, so you kind of have to prop them and turn your back on them... I think the next time I move, I'm going to ask a friend or family member to stay inside the door to keep an eye on things. I can definitely see someone being that much of a jerk. That's so sad. I'm really sorry you lost your doll. I don't know what I'd do.

 

This has never happened to me, but I worry about it all the time. I'm extremely sorry for your loss, as I can only imagine how it would feel. I really hope something works out... maybe your relatives really did give your doll to their kids, in which case you might be able to get her back.

I would literally freak out. I know I would be a basketcase... like Knibitz said, unfortunately it would probably be difficult to get the police to take it seriously, so I don't know if I would file a police report at all. >.>

It depends on the situation: if the doll was stolen from the car or something in a city far away from home, I would have no hope. But my sister likes to hang out with a girl who happens to be a complete kleptomaniac, and though I doubt she'd have any interest in my dolls, after a situation recently, it's become clear that she has a sort of personal vendetta against me, so... she's not allowed here, no matter how much my sister seems to like her. We've been waiting for an opportunity to 'catch' her so she can finally get some professional help, as she's already slipped by the police numerous times. But if she were to do something to my dolls, I think I'd be the person going to jail, for murder.


SO not funny... but that is the only situation I can really see one of my dolls might unexpectedly vanish. Unfortunately I am not one who lets things go very easily. My immediate reaction would be disbelief, then blinding rage, and gradually this tide would turn into desolation. The anger would return periodically. I wouldn't feel like replacing the doll, but if I didn't, I know I would find myself flinching every time I saw that sculpt from that point on. I would simply try not to think about it too much, and ask God to give me peace about the situation. But it would be hard. I am very sorry.

 

Im so sorry for every ones losses. Just reading the missing/stolen dolls thread makes me cry. Im so terrified that I would loose one of my precious friends, that I dont take them to anime conventions. They are little hermits at home. I should make them a couch so they can be couch potatoes. This year Im tempted to take Fawn to Ikasucon. She would most likely be chained to my person at all times. But still the thought of someone stealing my dolls, I would go on the rampage, then turn into the biggest cry baby ever.

 

I'm sorry to hear about your loss, midknight, but I don't know what else you can do other than buy another doll.

I lost a doll head that I sent to a modder here on DoA. The head belonged to one of my 60cm girls, but it was a second spare head, not the head she came with. I wanted it to have an expression with half closed eyes. The modder has since disappeared and hasn't been online here since Oct 2011. The head wasn't very expensive, but nevertheless I was upset I lost it. I'd never had a bad transaction with BJDs before.

All I could do was buy another head and send it off to a different modder to be worked on. I've since had the project completed the way I wanted it... but I still wish the first head would turn up someday. It was very upsetting. But I am sure I would have been MUCH more upset if it had been the only head of one of my dolls instead of just a secondary one.

Linda S.
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