How do you know?/Buying Anxiety

I have 2 RealPukis now but am really only able to devote my time to one. There is another sculpt that I really like but am having that thought that maybe I shouldn't get another since I can only play with one. So the indecision is there too... Usually I let a few months pass and if the urge is still strong then I may go ahead and purchase but if not, then eventually I will just forget and be happy with what I have.

 

How do I know if I'm going to love it...hm. One sign for me is if I like it enough to make up a name. Once I name it then it's a matter of Wish List Like and Gotta Buy Like. WLL for me is a lesser feeling of urgency. GBL for me is finding myself looking at the page, thinking of how it would look in my case, and feeling less like I need to bring it home and more like I'm waiting to bring it home.

If it's worth the money that means I've already named it and like it enough to feel like I'm waiting on it already. If the price doesn't bump me back to "it's nice and I'd like to have one day" it's worth it. Doesn't matter the price.

 

I think that if you have dreams about getting a doll about every week for half a year, get the doll :P At least, that's my method.
I just obsess and obsess until I can't go 10 minutes without thinking about my doll. If you think you're going to lose interest in your doll, you probably will one day, but if you crave having it to the point it makes you (or me, in my case) crazy, get the doll and resell it if it's not working out in the future. Also keep in mind that these dolls keep their resale price well- I think you'd resell your bjd easily if you wanted to.

 

It's funny but do you feel such anxiety over buying a new outfit, phone etc...? They will not hold their value like a bjd. I have chosen to get my dolls over other things as I feel I want them more and will get a lot more out of them than some cloths I will probably get tired of or a phone that will last a couple of years. I know they are expensive but it is your money and you have a right to spend it on what you want. No one can predict the future and say whether you will still want something in several years time but if it is something you really want then I say go for it

 

If you have the money, I wouldn't worry about it. Like others have said: dolls usually keep their value. I always feel nervous when buying anything, solely because of the fact that I'll be spending money. I'll worry that I might need the money for something else. That feeling usually goes away after the purchase though. And if it's a doll and I end up don't liking it, I just resell it .

 

To be honest I never know if a doll is going to be a keeper or not until I held it with my own two hands and seen it in person. My first doll was beautiful and so delicate and got me started in the hobby. Nevertheless we're not bonding like we should be at the moment so I've set her up for adoption at the moment. If I feel like I don't want to sell her at any point then I know she's going to stay with me. My second doll was a sculpt I've admired for a long time, when she arrived I was a little dissapointed and not too sure about her. After working with her for a few months though we're really getting along now and she's a definite keeper at the moment.

I currently have a tiny sculpt in mind that I'd love to purchase and I've been mulling it over for about 7 months now. I want her more than anything but I'm still having doubts. I figure that's because I hate spending money on something as trivial as a doll. They means a lot to me but it's a lot of money I might be better off spending somewhere else. If I do buy her I'm pretty sure it'll be the last female doll I'll buy in a while. I don't rule out the possiblity of a male doll somewhere in the future though.

I guess we'll always have a little bit of buying anxiety but you never know if the purchase was worth it until you're holding it in your hands.

 

I don't know if I have buying anxiety but most of the time I really want to buy something lol I have to remember that I have no money, just me.

 

I have the same issue. I also worry about the future, and also not liking a doll. I'd really hate to have to sell one as well. Another thing is that I'm worried that if I buy a doll that I want, that another doll will come along in the future that would fill that role better. But as for choosing, I'd only want to buy a doll that I know for sure that I love it. Like a "I need this" kind of feeling (not on impulse, but liking the doll that much), feeling no apprehension about not liking it. I only feel that way about one doll right now. Like I'm so sure about it that I already got clothes for it. It would be two, except the other one I have some nervousness about it given that it's an SD and I'm not sure I'm ready to own a bigger doll yet (I only have a tiny right now)

But yeah I feel like there are some dolls you look at and just know. I'd be nervous about buying a doll that I didn't get that feeling from.

 

My first doll was easy, I love Drow/Dark Elves and my first was a Dark Elf male, perfect! The 2nd one will be an elf too. I already have him picked out but my first one hasn't even arrived yet plus I don't have the money at this time and it just wouldn't feel right for me to buy the 2nd without my 1st getting here. But, I'm extremely picky and haven't seen any other Dark Elf/Elf sculpts that I really like so 2 could be it for me. I knew I wanted those 2 right when I saw them (mainly the Dark Elf, no second thoughts on him).

 

I'm still in my "quest for my first doll" fase. I have seen so many sculpts that i like/love. My taste is very wide i guess. But i'm doubting if i wanna go big and buy a 700+ euro doll or start small with a +/- 300 euro doll. I'm sure i would love them either way. But yeah the doubt is pretty apparent here.

 

I didn't know if I was going to love my first until I made time to bond with her. I have a wish list of the few I keep obsessing over time and time again. I try to picture spending time with them and if that time would make me happy even in the future. I think I'm looking for an experience, a long-term relationship even,when im choosing a doll, not just an obsession.

 

> how do you know if you should buy the doll or not?

For myself, YMMV, I've found my dolls are most successful if I fell in love at first sight. So I only consider the ones that really grab me immediately. Then I take a picture or three of them, and put it as my computer wall for a while to see if something starts to annoy me if I stare at the doll too long, or if I just start to get bored with it after looking at it for a while. If it passes both of those, then I'll go ahead and get it.

 

I'm just...really good at figuring out which dolls I am going to like? I have only been disappointed once, when the sculpt of a head turned out to be less nice than I had been led to believe based on the photos. The crucial thing for me is that I need to have the money ready and I need to feel (or know, haha) that spending that money on a doll is not going to get me in trouble with anything else. I also have a spending limit, regardless of whether I could technically afford to spend more. Beyond a certain price, I begin to worry that I may not enjoy the doll as much just knowing how much it has cost. Then my simple rule is not to buy, no matter how much I (think I) have fallen in love.

 

I guess it's that feeling of: "Your mine, your mine, your mine." You get when you see The One. I've had set dolls I was looking for and guess what?

Only a handful of my dolls were exactly as intended. Some being my OT dolls, others... Like my MSD's... Just fell into my laps with a clear cut of who's coming home.

Kazumi's body was up for trade on another forum's market place. I could get money for her head and eyes and even find a cheap wig on ebay. Did the trade, bought the head, wig and eyes and she was just... Kazumi. I felt this need to bring her home... She was The One... And she had come home after I had a really crappy time in my life and I made myself a promise that when that time in my life passed I'd get another doll, a doll meant to symbolize my new life's start. That was her. She is also the only MSD of mine to never and probably will never get a faceup.

Avalon he was my 17th birthday present. I was looking for a Kid Delf but instead saw the thread for a Song... CLicked it... Took my breathaway... He was the first MSD to come home and he was also my teddy of sorts during really hard times... I even slept with him sometimes. There was a lot going on in my life when I got him that just... Made me need him more then I realized.


Noah... I was just searching for a boy because I wanted to do a new trade and I wanted a new doll. I found a girl, I did the trade and she was just... Noah. She was everything I wanted... And even though she doesn't have the same symbolics or sentiments as Kazumi or Avalon... She's still the most spoiled of the three. I take her out more then the other two at times. She's just... Fun...She's also really yellowed so I tend not to worry too much about her as I do my other resins.


Then Vala... Well... I wanted another Resinsoul... And Bei was a doll I wanted for a long, long time so... I just got her... And I got her exactly as I wanted for Christmas.

Avery... Was a tad different... I actually was saving up through out the year, never stated what I was saving it for, but it didn't mean I didn't spend it every now and then. When I got Christmas money, I had an official tally and I realized... I had enough for her. I waffled about it for a day or so but... Then I decided I was going to do it. I bought her, bought a wig (the wig was the longest debate to be honest. My mom and I spent almost half an hour looking at different wigs for her before we decided she was to be blue/blond) And she was actually one of the first dolls I wanted so she was a grail... And I am so happy with her even if she needs work. It was just an...Aha moment with them all.

 

Well, I have never sold any of my BJDs, and the reason is this: I am the opposite of an impulse buyer. It took me two years to decide to buy my grail doll. I spend months looking at a company's photos of a doll, I look at owner's pictures here, on Flickr and other photo hosting sites. I make sure I like everything about a doll or I do not buy it. I look at them every day, if you do that for at least a couple of months, you are pretty certain that you really love a doll. It works for me. I am also willing to buy many different eyes, wigs, and shoes for them, to make sure I have it right. I sew them a lot of clothes in the process of figuring out what their style is. Basically, you have to put some serious time and effort into them, so they become the ideal doll you had in mind. I am so firmly bonded with my dolls that I will NEVER sell or otherwise get rid of them.

 

For me I think 'would I be devastated if this doll sold out tomorrow and I didn't get it?'. If the answer is yes, then it's time to start saving!

 

I try not to shop for dolls unless I have a healthy doll fund set up. My doll fund is change and money I have set aside after bills are paid and all other needs are met. Sometimes its 50 cents and sometimes its $50 I am able to donate to the fund. Once it is healthy I begin to shop and wait for one to jump out at me. If I close out the sight and want to go right back and look again I know that is the doll for me. I can then buy the doll guilt and anxiety free knowing everything else came first.

 

I can't say for sure. I finally bought the doll I've kept coming back to since high school and I plan on buying the others I wanted back then soon, but obviously, no one wants to wait years to decide if they want a doll! lol

 

Yes, I do have a lot of purchase anxiety, it often happens when the doll isn't the 'right one'. (I only buy when I think I can afford it).
Choosing a doll is all about 'knowing thyself' with me. They have to pass several 'must have'. If one is missing, I'll keep looking.