I feel so alone with out a doll! Did you?

Hello, I got my doll before I joined DoA. But I hear you, I hope you can make your wish come true very soon. Please don't worry so much in general what others will think of you.

 

I had a doll before I knew of Den of Angels so not really but my doll was a 60cm Obitsu. I did feel a little left out because my doll wasn't resin..but I remedied that quickly.

 

I don't have a doll yet, either. I'm still researching and saving up.

I think it's great to have the forum as a resource before buying a doll. Focus on finding and saving up for the right doll for you; it's best to put in the time now to maximize your chance of loving your doll once you finally purchase one.

ETA: To more directly answer your question: No, I do not feel alone. I am a doll collector and own other dolls. I know that I will one day own a BJD so I do not feel "out of place." You admire BJDs, too, so please don't feel out of place or alone. Soon you will have your own doll to enjoy and discuss more directly.

 

I agree I'm waiting for my girl to arrive and I feel like I have nothing to contribute until I get her. Making 40 posts without a doll so you can see the whole forum is kinda hard with no doll yet. I love the pictures people post and I can't wait to contribute.


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Nope! I joined DoA and then spent a couple of months doll-less, and it didn't really bother me. I enjoyed reading the discussion threads about dolls I was interested in, and so felt I was part of the community even before I ordered my first doll. I think sometimes it can feel lonely if you don't have anything to talk about with other people, but luckily people who own dolls really aren't fussy about whether you own a doll or not. Ask questions, share ideas you have for your own dolls, and talk about which dolls are your favourite and why, and you'll fit right in, whether you have your first doll home or not

 

I didn't join DoA until almost 2 years after getting my first doll, but I actually think it's a GREAT idea to be here before buying. I made so many mistakes on my first two, because I didn't realize there were places with so much information and help for newbies. My poor boys had faceups with resin-damaging materials, I made their poorly fitting clothes in really difficult ways without knowing tips or tricks, I didn't restring them for two years because I was scared, I didn't know there were other doll owners in my area that could have helped me.....I think I would have treated my first two so much better and kept them so much safer, if I had just known of this place.

Also, I was so limited in choosing sculpts because I was only looking at what was in stock at JunkySpot and I had no idea there were so many other options out there, or that I could actually have afforded many of them. I don't think that would have changed my choices on my first two, but after them and before discovering DoA, I did go through about a year of buying sculpts I didn't love because I didn't know where to look for better options.

So, while it may be lonely or sad to see all these pictures and read all this stuff without a doll in hand yet, I think you made a really smart move, and your first doll will be so much more enjoyable, with prior knowledge of what you're getting into, what doll you love, and how to properly take care of him/her.

 

Nah. I didn't join DoA until after I'd ordered Harumatsu and Tien Jen (my first pair), and they arrived not long after I'd started to become an active poster.

 

I also am a member with no bjd. I have ordered my first one but they will not be arriving for another few months. I understand your feeling about not being able to participate in all aspects or threads on here; however there are lots of threads that can be participated in without having a doll. Most people here are very friendly (as I've found on my short time here) and are very willing to share information and experiences with newbies (like me). Just try to find threads talking about things you're already interested in. Like if you think you might want to sew for your doll there are lots of sewing threads where you can ask questions. Even ones that seem like they might seem silly to you, no one will judge harshly

 

I have to say, I had my first bjd on the way when I joined DoA, so this didn't really apply. But DoA helped with information (checked things out before I officially joined), and helped during the wait.

I hope you don't feel alone! There are lots of people here who don't have bjds. I think it's great to find out all about things before buying, anyway. Even without a doll, you can learn things and can comment helpfully about things you do know about and can tell people you like their photos, etc. You definitely are not alone.

But I do understand that not having a doll at home keeps you from a lot of the experience of doll-owning! Just try not to feel alone and have fun here finding out about dolls, discussing the ones you like, and finding others in your same position (which, I guess, is what this thread is all about!).

 

My first bjd isn't here yet, and I've just gotten a notice that my shipment will be delayed until next Monday, but I don't feel alone.

 

I remember feeling alone here. A lot of post revolve around topics that kind of require you to have a doll. So, I didn't feel like I could talk because I couldn't talk about the dolls I do have, and I didn't have a BJD to talk about. Now that I have a BJD, I feel like I can participate more.

 

I didn't even get a DoA account until well after I had my first doll.

I pretty much spent my first year 'in the hobby' before I got her doing research and stuff from the shadows xD lurking in the public forums on here gathering info. It was kinda lonely I guess! But I am a loner by nature, so.

In fact even now I'm not really all that involved, but I like community in general so I'm trying to be moreso.

 

I was a lurker here for two years before I got my first bjd. Yeah it is kinda lonely and there's just not much here besides doll chat which you can't really join in on without a doll. But it's definitely a great resource (plus you can admire other people's gorgeous dolls in the meantime.)

 

I joined four years ago, didn't have a doll, it WAS lonely. My first doll buying experience back then went badly. IF I had read the forum more, and not felt so lonely for not already having one, I could have saved myself a lot of heart ache. When I decided to buy my first one (still on order now) I decided to use the forum. I should have done so in the first place! Within days I found local doll owners and soon after went to my first meet! I've made so many new friends in such a short period of time! My new friends have helped me out so much!!!! Don't let not having a doll stop you from finding new friends. Everyone didn't have a doll in the beginning.

Just explore the forum, ask questions and when you see something you like, compliment the owner. Everyone likes compliments. There's also pen pal threads if you can't find a local group in your area. Have some patience and it will be worth it! It's a good idea to learn as much as you can before you decide what doll you would like to have. It doesn't matter how long it takes to find one because you will have a chance to be ready. Please don't let it bring you down.

I'll talk to you! Just use the pm.

 

I feel like Elsa just said above at the moment. I've done months of research on them, but haven't bought one yet because I have a big move planned and I don't have time to devote to a bjd at the moment. It makes it a little hard to participate here since I don't have one, but I do try since I'm interested in the community.

 

It's kinda lonely but I have so many great ideas for her when she does arrive that it kinda balances it out. It's fun to see what everyone has and it helps get your creative juices flowing.

 

I've joined the forum around 1 year before I even got my first doll. It was a bit lonely but I just spent the time to do research so that when my doll arrived, I was ready

 

I remember feeling awkward before I got my first doll (I used DoA to research). But you can always comment in the galleries on others' dolls, or discuss your plans or ask for advice on options. I hope you find more people to talk to about these or other things! Feel free to message me if you'd like to chat.