If something were to happen to you...

1. If something were to happen to you, what you want done with your resin folk?
I'm eventually going to have it in my will that Devlyn, Phineas and Booker are buried with me. Finny and Dev are my most beloved characters so they're the only ones who really get the special treatment. I know that kind of sounds horrible, what with the fact that they'd basically degrade right along with me but I can't stand the thought of someone changing them.

2. Are there certain people who would get certain ones, or would you send them all to one person?
I'll probably leave instructions to either sell them or donate them to people who'd actually want them. I know a few friends of mine who'd take them if something happened.

3. Would it upset you if the person you entrusted to care for your doll a) sold him/her b) changed their name c) changed their style, personality, or character. Why?
Nope. The ones who would be sold off wouldn't be as special.

4. Does it really matter to you what happens to them when you're gone?
Except for the three mentioned above, nope.

 

I wont care, I'll be dead. If I died right now, I think my mom would hoard my dolls for a while as a reminder of me and perhaps eventually give them to my niece (who is a baby right now) as normal dolls to play with or when she's older as heirlooms or something. As pretty as they are and as much enjoyment as we may get from them, they are not sacred they are just items and we can't take them with us.

 

1. If something were to happen to you, what you want done with your resin folk? I would want my husband to keep my first girl to be with his one bjd. Even if they just stay in their boxes together for all time, I would want them to stay together as the couple that they are. (In talking with him about this he said he would buy them a special case to they could be displayed together )

As for the rest of them, I would leave it up to him. If he planned on selling the rest of them off, I would love to see at least one be given to a friend of mine.

2. Are there certain people who would get certain ones, or would you send them all to one person? It would be up to my husband, but I would let my friend have her pick of the litter before he sold them if that is what he chose to do.

3. Would it upset you if the person you entrusted to care for your doll a) sold him/her b) changed their name c) changed their style, personality, or character. Why? I would not think my friend would sell the doll given the circumstances, but I could see a name or style change being okay if that is what she wanted to do.

4. Does it really matter to you what happens to them when you're gone? In the grand scope of eternity, no... but because of the fact that I have invested so much into them, I would hate to see them treated as junk (which I know they will not be ).

 

I kind of had a conversation like this recently with my hubby ^.^ If I died or became a vegetable or whatever I'd probably want my dolls to go to good homes where I know they will be appreciated for their beauty and such. Although my husband told me that he would more than likely keep all of my dolls. The reason behind him keeping them is as he said "I know how much work, love and attention that you put into them and that all of your dolls are essentially a piece of you. If you died I would still be able to keep a few pieces of you with me." Isn't he such a sweetheart?!? But unfortunately life doesn't always work the way you want it to... If my husband wasn't around to keep my dolls I'm sure that they would end up with my parents who know how expensive they are. They would probably either sell all my dolls or they would be put into boxes and forgotten about... They might even be given to any nieces that are born... My family unfortunately isn't exactly one to care about my feelings or some as "stupid as dolls". My mother used to collect dolls at one point but I highly doubt she'd want to keep any dolls that need any upkeep. I'm not going to say it wouldn't upset me that all my dolls would've been sold, or thrown into darkness, or even thrown away and or treated like an average cheap barbie... but it would no longer be of use to me and I don't think that I would be able to have my family or anyone else respect me or my wishes. I don't think it would matter much once I'm gone but now as I'm living and breathing it does make me feel terrible about where they might end up and who would get them. I know some people talk about writing out a Dolly Will or even get buried with them... I love my dolls but I don't think I'd want them to be spending the rest of their "lives" laying next to my smelly, rotting corpse... I have considered a dolly will but even then it might not be respected etc... (unfortunately I have a very rude, greedy family...)

 

I'm so glad I was not the only one thinking about this! My dolls are very special to me, and like it had been said above, I would hate to see them treated as junk or that-crap-my-relative-gave-me-that-I-don't-want. I'm only eighteen, but you never know. I only have three right now, and I have no idea what I'd want done with them, other than having someone enjoy them like I have. On one hand, I'd hate to see them changed, but on the other, I'd like it if some other person loved and appreciated any of my dolls, even if they weren't who they are now. I have several ideas about what I'd want done. For my third doll, she could probably be sold or I'd have her given to a friend of mine that really, really likes her. For the first and second... I think that I'd like them to be kept together. They are, after all, a married couple from a story that I spent two years developing. But I don't want to burden anybody with dolls that they don't want. Maybe, if my brother continues to love them when he's older, I'd leave them to him. Or give them to a friend that knows the storyline. And, this goes for any dolls, I've always considered just giving them to Goodwill. It sounds awful, but hear me out. I'd find it extremely amusing if someone who collected BJDs went to that Goodwill and found a couple of dolls at a good price right there. I wish I had that kind of luck! I know that in the long run, it's kind of irrelevant, but I do want my dolls to be enjoyed and loved and kept beautiful.

 

1. If something were to happen to you, what you want done with your resin folk?
Probably sell them off to pay for the funeral? I don't know, I haven't thought about it too much at this point.

2. Are there certain people who would get certain ones, or would you send them all to one person?
I think my sister would want a few of them, like the girls she's gotten for me or contributed to their coming home. And Jasper, she loves Jasper.

3. Would it upset you if the person you entrusted to care for your doll a) sold him/her b) changed their name c) changed their style, personality, or character. Why?
I don't think it would matter much. Also, if my sister did keep any of my dolls, she's the type who'd keep them as I had them.

4. Does it really matter to you what happens to them when you're gone?
In the end, probably not. I'm the one who manifests precious on them. If I'm not here, beyond my sister, I'm not sure who else would care.

 

I think it's important to have these types of conversations, to know what people's wishes would be in the event something were to happen, not just specific to BJDs, but to everything important to them.

1. I would prefer for my dolls to be kept instead of discarded or sold.

2. If I left before my time, I would hope that my husband would keep them and pass them on to our children. If we did not have any children, and my husband's time comes I would hope that he would donate them to a museum. Not to suggest that any of my dolls are "museum quality" but I would hope that he could find one to take them on and display them. We're both huge history buffs and museum visiting was always something we've done as a couple.

3. I believe it would take a dire need for my husband to sell my dolls because he knows how precious they are to me. I would hope that he would sell them in the case of an emergency and he needed quick funds. If he sold them to get a new paint job on his car, I might be annoyed but I know he wouldn't.

4. No... it really doesn't. *sigh*

 

I'm only going to answer #4 (does it matter what happens to them) since it's the only one I can.
No. I don't care. I used to, but then fanily and friends started claiming dibs on my dolls if something ever happened, and they all tend to claim the same doll. I really just don't care at this point, but I'll probably be stuck with that doll forever just so I don't have people giving me the stinkeye if I do something other than give it to them. At least when I die (and dont mention dolls in the will), I wont have to worry about it.

 

I would have my dolls given to my dolly friends and hope that they would keep them and not sell them..but I won't really care if they do or not because I will be dead. There is nothing I will be able to do about it. I try not to dwell on such thoughts.

 

1. If something were to happen to you, what you want done with your resin folk?
I would want some of them buried with me. And I would leave instructions to my mom or brother what to do with the other ones.

2. Are there certain people who would get certain ones, or would you send them all to one person?
My mom and younger brother maybe.

3. Would it upset you if the person you entrusted to care for your doll a) sold him/her b) changed their name c) changed their style, personality, or character. Why?
Hmm.. Yes because I trusted them enough to not change them.

4. Does it really matter to you what happens to them when you're gone?
Yes because they have meaning to me.

 

I vaguely remember a topic like this cropping up last winter because it was around the time I had my wisdom teeth taken out and I was thinking about it, but I'm still going to answer anyway.

1. If something were to happen to you, what you want done with your resin folk?
2. Are there certain people who would get certain ones, or would you send them all to one person?
(Combining the first two.) I don't have any specific plans at this moment, but I would want particular ones to go to particular friends of mine. Then I would have the rest go to one particularly special friend of mine so she could do what she felt best with them. She lives on the other side of the planet, but with some planning, it wouldn't be a problem.

3. Would it upset you if the person you entrusted to care for your doll a) sold him/her b) changed their name c) changed their style, personality, or character. Why?
4. Does it really matter to you what happens to them when you're gone?
(Combining these two, too.) I guess it doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things, but I would still prefer that the future owners retain my original character ideas. Perhaps add their own twists or whatnot, but not stray too far. Changing the name would be straying too far under most circumstances, I would think. Selling... that's probably the ultimate "it doesn't matter" scenario. One of the things that would be changed no matter what as far as C is concerned is that my dolly family would be broken up regardless. Certain dolls will probably never see each other again. Best friends would be separated, and maybe even sisters. Perhaps "it doesn't matter" is for the best.

I don't want to be buried with any dolls. I want them to bring other people joy just as they brought it to me.

 

Once I'm dead, it doesn't matter.

My family will look at them for awhile, and then eventually sell them or give them to my friends. If whomever gets them wants to change them, good for them. I won't care because I'll be dead. Ownership ceases after death (imo) so whatever happens, happens.

The love and attention I give my dolls means nothing to anyone else. It's not something I can pass on. It's me, connected to me, and only me. Once I'm dead, that love and attention goes with me. My belongings will then be dealt with as the living desire.

I've actually thought quite a bit about this, but after dealing with death in my family, I've come to realize that it's not the objects that mean things, it's the feelings that mean things. Memories. My survivors can do whatever they want with my former things. Whatever makes them happy.

 

1. If something were to happen to you, what you want done with your resin folk?
My family can sell them - all of them. EXCEPT my first. I have different plans for him. Of course, if my family really wants any of them, I'd be delighted if they wanted to keep them, too.

2. Are there certain people who would get certain ones, or would you send them all to one person?
My sister will be taking my first doll - we've already discussed this. She told me she'd like him if something happens to me, since she understands what he means to me and she knows the character he represents is special. Since she isn't into BJDs otherwise, there's little chance she would feel the need to change him, which is exactly what I want.

3. Would it upset you if the person you entrusted to care for your doll a) sold him/her b) changed their name c) changed their style, personality, or character. Why?
If she really needed the money, I don't think I'd mind if she really had to sell him. She's really responsible with money, so I know if she needed it, it would be because she really needed it. I'm confident that without the doll 'being' who he is, it would have no sentimental value left for her so I don't have to worry about her changing his name or his look. Even if she did decide to make him her own, I'd be dead, so what could I really do about it?

4. Does it really matter to you what happens to them when you're gone?
I suppose it really doesn't, except for my first. He's in a different tier for me. But I think if something happened to both my sister and I at the same time, my parents would have no idea what to do with them, and would probably just sell them all. And I suppose that would be okay. I'd just have to hope that wherever my first ended up, or whoever he became, he would be loved.

This is also a topic I've dealt with in the story that I write using the characters my dolls represent. One of my dolls collects BJDs. She has different views than I do about some of these things, so it's something I had fun writing about. I just won't tell her what actually happens to her most beloved when she dies. She'd probably die a second time :P

Also, while thinking about this, I also realize that my opinion on this has changed since I was new in the hobby. I used to think I wanted my first buried with me, but I just can't bear that thought anymore for some reason.

 

1. If something were to happen to you, what you want done with your resin folk?
Well, it differs between my dolls, I do want Nero buried with me, the others i'll list below :3

2. Are there certain people who would get certain ones, or would you send them all to one person?
Aria would go to my friend john cause he knows just how special she is to me, hell he helped me buy her; Aurora and Hoshi go to my brother danny; and Dew is going to the girl she looks likes family, cause i think her mom would appreciate it, the others that are on the way... i'll figure it out

3. Would it upset you if the person you entrusted to care for your doll a) sold him/her b) changed their name c) changed their style, personality, or character. Why?
a) i suppose.... I mean, it was a gift, but what exactly can i do about it at that point? i'm dead XD
b) not really; its their doll now, tho honestly i think danny would keep the name and so would john XD
c) not at all; again, its their doll now

4. Does it really matter to you what happens to them when you're gone?
Well, yes, it does, to a point. I'd like to know at least that they are being loved and that the people who get them remember me in some way with the dolls. Thats the important part, that those i loved enough to give them my dolls would remember me and that i did care.

 

1. If something were to happen to you, what you want done with your resin folk?
I'd want them to go to people who can appreciate them - for their own separate reasons.

2. Are there certain people who would get certain ones, or would you send them all to one person?
One I'm still working on I'd want to stay with my boyfriend (my still WIP Bajoran, because we met through Star Trek and I think she'd be the only doll he could relate to), my IH Bianca would go to my sister. As for the others ... they're the characters most dear to me, but I wouldn't want them to be around when I'm gone. So I'd like them to go to my dolly friends, for them to make into their own characters.

3. Would it upset you if the person you entrusted to care for your doll a) sold him/her b) changed their name c) changed their style, personality, or character. Why?
I'd be upset if the dolls were sold to someone I don't (didn't?) know. But I'd actually want the names and characters changed ... the OCs represented by my dolls have been hanging out in my headspace for 18+ years, there's no need for them to stick around when I'm gone. Style kind of goes with it, I'm not fussed about their styles changing after a character switch - but I would be bothered if their characters were "kept" on the one hand, yet their personality or style got messed with.

4. Does it really matter to you what happens to them when you're gone?
Yes and no ... it obviously does or I wouldn't have thought about it, but no more than, say, my instruments - and less than my cats.

 

1. If something was to happen to me ( and when I eventually get my BJD), I don't think I would give them to my family. But I would give pretty much all of them to my very good friend Harry who introduced me to this wonderful hobby! I wouldn't want them buried with them they would be to precious to degrade. 2. I would give them all to Harry 3. No it wouldn't be upsetting I'd be dead so C 4. Well I'd obviously want them to be looked after and happy, and giving them to someone who knows how to look after them wont be pointless it would be like my legacy, pretty cool...