i do not want to name names, i just need opinions on what to do in a situation. last sat i agreed to purchase a doll from a member off the sales thread. we were pm'ing eachother fine, i paid-and then she disappeared. no responses to either pm's or email. since this is an insane amount of money to me ($530) i didn't want to mess around and filed a dispute with paypal on thursday after not hearing a single word from the seller. i FINALLY get a response from the seller only stating that the pm system here is "sucky", no word on the doll, when she's sending him, etc. the pm system is working fine for me. yesterday when i still had not heard anything-and left messages through the dispute center on paypal yet again-i filed a full claim with paypal. now i know there are always unseen circumstances in everyone's lives-but i know this person has been online-and has just been ignoring me. how long does it take to send an email or pm? even if something happened, or there was a change of heart-just to let me know would just be common courtesy. i always keep my buyers updated no matter what. i'm not a pushy person, i'm quite easy going-but this is a lot of money to be messing around with. i don't think i've over-reacting by jumping to file a claim. now paypal states they will try to resolve the issue-but cannot guarantee retrieving my funds. this person lives less than 4 hours from me, so it would not be a problem on my part to file fraud charges and go to small claims court (i've talked to a friend's husband who is a lawyer already). i'm so stressed out over this, am i doing the right thing?