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Selling twice loved(second hand) BJD?

May 23, 2007

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    1. I ran a search for this(that's where the "twice loved" part comes in) so if somehow I lost my eyesight and missed the topic, no flames please, my skin's delicate:sweat
      This is also not meant to put down people who sell, we're just expressing our opinions. No fighting please.

      What are your thoughts on doing this?
      I personally would feel guilty selling a doll I bought from someone on the marketplace. My first(and only so far) doll was bought from a kind girl on the marketplace, I said whoever's doll I bought would be well loved and spoiled. I feel as though I'm adopting these dolls, so it becomes really emotional for me. I want to give a lonely doll a home and it feels...mean to sell it when you promised it a place to live and told the owner that you would always treasure it.
      I wouldn't feel this way buying from a company though, brand new and no personal story about the doll's owner. I think the personal details is what tugs at my heart strings. I see dolls on Ebay with descriptions saying "this doll has been well loved, please give it a good home" and it makes my heart ache, it makes me wonder what new home it'll have, if it'll be just as loved.
      ...I believe I'm a bit too soft-hearted for this hobby, I mean, I can't adopt them ALL. :o I wish I could. I do know though that even if I'm tempted by new dolls, I'll always try to adopt an older one first.

      I know, I know...things come up, bills come out of nowhere, this new LE gotta-have-it doll comes out and you want to sell everything not nailed down to get it...but what becomes of your resin friend? :( There are a lot of people out there that look for a good home for the doll to sell it to, others...well, they need the money. :sweat I can understand that, I wanted to sell my LE Bome figure for dolls, but it made me sad thinking about where it would end up. It may go to a nice home, and it might not. I'm the type to worry over every little thing, so I can do without the stress.

      So...what's your 2 cents? Good idea, bad idea, don't care either way?:sweat
       
      #1 Rive, May 23, 2007
    2. I think it would just depend on whether or not I bonded with the doll...
      My first doll that I received (second one I bought) was from the marketplace and she is my favorite doll.. I would never sell her. So like I said it really just depends
       
      #2 chibikarin, May 23, 2007
    3. I wasn't bonding with my first either, but I kept her anyway because I felt uneasy about who she would go to. ^^; I can understand not everyone's a worry-wart like me though. I love her now. <3
      Plus not everyone babies their dolls I'm sure o.o people have different feelings about them.

      I'm glad you're bonded with your doll though, happy for you. :)

       
      #3 Rive, May 23, 2007
    4. I think if it turns out that you don't end up loving the doll as much as you thought you would, it wouldn't be bad. Because then you can send it off to be with someone who might actually care about it that much.
       
      #4 andarton, May 23, 2007
    5. Inanimate objects often become the vessels for our expressions and sentiments but the truth remains that they are ultimately still objects.

      It really is not fair for a previous owner to dictate what you do with the doll once it has left their posession - especially if you yourself chose to sell it. After all the original owner sold it, why shouldn't you be able to?
       
      #5 northern_raven, May 23, 2007
    6. It would be wonderful if I had a doll I didn't feel attachment to and it was guaranteed a good home, but unless I know the person I can't assume the best. ^^; It's the "what if" part that makes me feel guilty. Even if I didn't love it as much as the others, I'd still hold it and pose it...it wouldn't sit in a box forever. How do I know it's fate if I sell it? :o It worries me.
      "What if, what if, what if?" Hah, I could do that forever. I'd just feel more content letting it live with me.

       
      #6 Rive, May 23, 2007
    7. I guess I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt. If they're jumping at the chance to give me a few hundred dollars for something I don't want anymore, I usually assume they care about it.
       
      #7 andarton, May 23, 2007
    8. Good point, I still would worry and wonder though. I don't think I'd mind if I sold it and the buyer was friendly and open with me, showed me pictures every once awhile(like even once a year) so I know it's in good shape. I send my seller pictures of the updating process, she enjoys seeing them ^^ Other than that...I don't think I'd feel anything but sadness selling the doll. Sure it's an object, but for some of us one we have have experiences with. We take them places, sew for them, paint them...we do a lot with them and even if they're resin they become little friends. :)

       
      #8 Rive, May 23, 2007
    9. But what if they end up not caring about it either and sell it too? and it keeps going from home to home because people just stop caring? No doubt you must have some value for the doll you're paying so much for, but for some people if the doll just doesn't fit into the mold they planned for it then it's not worth their time. Off the doll goes again, same thing happens, off it goes again...Where does it end up if people keep selling it? That's what I wonder about^^;

       
      #9 Rive, May 23, 2007
    10. Aaaw, sweetpea! Don't be scared. No-one will flame you!

      I bought Keeny, my Limho, on a whim. I had a floating head that I should have bought a body for instead... and I ended up selling Keeny to buy said head said body.
      I really didn't want to sell him, but utimately... the only difference between a second hand doll you're selling and a... third hand... is exactly that. You're the same off as buying a new doll, and you're just as attached. You know nothing about the doll, really, you don't know your reaction etc.

      I'm kind of weird about selling dolls though - anyone who has friended my journal knows this. I angst and I angst, and I feel guilty... but... If I don't love a doll like mad within the first month, I adopt them out. I can't stand having a doll just sit there, even if they've previously 'just sat there' for another owner. I don't want to have a poor little doll sit around doing nothing while they could be in a better home with someone who will play with them and appreciate them - And if they have to go through five homes to get there, so be it.

      And the way I see it... if a doll goes to someone who wants it... it's a good home. No-one's going to pay this much for something they don't really want. Unless they're mad.


      That went on forever, and I promise I tried to stay relevant to the conversation. It's all in context ;P
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      #10 hiritai, May 23, 2007
    11. #11 thekittybox, May 23, 2007
    12. well i only have one doll and i brought him from a company so i don't know about marketplace brought dolls tho i'm tempted.

      It depends really. Some ppl bond with their dolls some don't (btw i would feel like u! that's why i only choose dolls i kno wouldn't regret) things come up but i always think it's a bit silly to spend so much on dolls that when something comes up u need to sell the dolls to manage. not my cup of tea really.

      I guess it's the emotive language used. "please adopt this boy/girl, give him/her a nice loving home" when we read that we even associate inanimate objects and think of them the same as a child. So it would feel bad to 'disown' them again. If it was said "please buy this doll of me, i am in desperate need to _____ *enter reason*" then u wouldn't feel as attached.

      In the end it boils down to two things. 1.if u see BJDs as doll dolls or if u believe they have something more. 2. if u bond with the doll or not. If u see them more than a doll and have bonded with the doll then it would feel wrong to sell. but if u see the dolls as pretty collectables with no attachment. u wouldn't feel a thing.

      I'm one to bond with my stuff and find it hard to sell things.
       
      #12 yukihotaru, May 23, 2007
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    13. #13 Rive, May 23, 2007
    14. People outgrow their ideas and concepts. It really isn't fair for you to say that a person is somehow uncaring if they decide to do that.

      If there is a personal problem with selling for the reasons you listed then it is probably better to sell to a person you have researched and interviewed - see how they've treated their dolls, the kind of posts they make, and how they correspond with you.

      Make informed decisions.
       
      #14 northern_raven, May 23, 2007
    15. Good topic!!! :D

      I am the owner of a twice-owned doll (I'm his third owner) and...I think it definately took a toll on him. He's the most snuggly doll I've ever had: he is so happy just sitting in my lap while I am on the computer. However, he's also the most shy...his character is supposed to be very boisterious and fun-loving but this guy is very very....hesitant to express himself. All my other dolls are quite vocal about their personalities but this guy...I dunno if it has something to do with the fact that he's had so many owners or what. But he is very solf-hearted.

      That said, I am also the second owner of another doll and, as much as I love her, I wouldn't have a problem selling her if I absolutely had to. I also wouldn't mind buying another twice-owned or, meep, thrice-owned doll.
       
      #15 Snitter, May 23, 2007
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    16. Thanks for being nice, I'm not used to it on here. I've seen people get burned pretty bad. :sweat (Off topic : OMG! Vin! *grabby hands* I adore your dolls ^^ I saved your "You have nice legs" photostory for entertainment to my Funnies Folder)

      I guess having them sitting around unloved is just as bad as taking a risk and selling them...still, I'd probably cry over saying good bye to the doll. I wouldn't know what was gonna happen to it and it scares me. I doubt it'd end up in the trash or anything, but what if it went to an owner that didn't care at all? Even if I wasn't bonding to the doll I'd at least show er.."respect" to the doll by brushing it's hair and posing it so it wasn't left out. I think these dolls might have a bigger spine than I do, which is sad because they don't HAVE spines...*nervous laugh*

       
      #16 Rive, May 23, 2007
    17. Just this January I was poking about on e-Bay, and found a listingfora doll that had 'never been out of the box' becase she was a collecter's item. I immediatly had an exceptionaly intese emotional reaction of "I have to save her!"
      I had at that point, no intention of getting a female doll in thenext three years.
      However, it preyed on me so hard, I bid money I did not technicaly have on the doll. Even above the limit that I origonaly gave myself. But in the end, I ddn't win her. PArt of me still twitches when I think of it, wondering if she's still trapped in her box somewhere.

      Hows that fora stupid emotional responce.
      Likewize, I dont' think you'll ever catch me selling a doll I have named and purposed, even if I foudna new host for the character;.
       
      #17 Willowanderer, May 23, 2007
    18. Ah, I didn't mean to come off as rude. :sweat I know people have their reasons, and they can do what they want...I just can't see myself doing the same.
      I agree, doing your research would make the whole experience a lot less painful, but what about the people that have to make a quick payment -NOW- and just need to get rid of it as soon as possible? Do they wonder if the doll is doing fine you think? o.o

       
      #18 Rive, May 23, 2007
    19. Thanks :) My first successful topic because a WTB, whee!

      Aww, he sounds so cute, I'm glad that turned out well for you ^^ even if his personality was supposed to be different, sometimes changes are good hm?
      I'd probably be able to sell a doll I wasn't bonded to if I did my research and felt this person was friendly to me. Being nice to owner = being nice to doll? I'unno, my boring logic.

       
      #19 Rive, May 23, 2007
    20. Aww, that's not stupid. You just wanted to give it love. ^^ I'd feel the same way. I'd certainly hope it's not still in a box, the only time my doll's in her box is when she's going to sleep(I turned it into a bed, lack of funds for a nice bed right now)
      I know they're collecters items, but still. Hah, I guess I'll never be one of those wealthy investors someday. :sweat not with dolls anyway.

       
      #20 Rive, May 23, 2007
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