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The most supportive

Aug 3, 2013

    1. I'm curious about other people's families. Who is most supportive of you with this hobby? Did this surprise you when you found out or did you know that they were going to be the most supportive?


      For me, it's my dad. He's such an expressionless dad that's it makes usually very hard to determine when he supports something. And because of who I am, I usually think he's making fun of me. I had assumed that my mother would been the most supportive but she actually banned the doll topic before I got my first doll.

      But I found out just how supportive my dad is when I got in one of those moods, (I'm sure others do this too) where I go through all my favorites sites and show the nearest person all the items/dolls I like on the sites a few weeks ago, and about a week ago I was discussing things I'd like to get for my doll for my birthday. He brought up the wigs he liked, the little red riding hood outfit he liked and the goat legs from Peapod that he thought were too cute. My mother (who has changed her tune and is trying really hard to be supportive) had seen and commented on all those same item, but couldn't remember any of them. (Of course, she was grumpy that he'd remembered these items and she hadn't).

      Then, he's helping me build the chair (posted in project journals) and bought the materials to make the light functional. Currently, I'm sick today and he's disappointed that we can't work on the chair today.

      THEN, he and I were discussing how college was going to work and he casually brought up all the traits I admire in dolls and he admitted that he had considered buying me one.

      It has really shown me just how awesome my dad is and how he's the most supportive person for me in my family for this hobby.

      What about everyone else? I see we get focused on strangers and whether or not they're supportive; but I've also noticed that we don't seem to talk about who's supportive inside our families a whole lot.

      Disclaimer: I did what I thought was a fairly thorough search for topic like this, I didn't find one. But if it's out there, feel free to remove this
       
    2. My dad is the most supportive too! I didn't think he would be, but now it makes sense that he is. Like me, he has a somewhat obscure and often looked-down-upon hobby. He understands what it's like to be in that position, and to not have a lot, if any, people around you who do it. He tolerates my doll babble, and often stops my mom when she gets a little to harsh with her teasing. He understands how important the dolls are to me. He'll also supply advice if ask for it, like if I want to know what he prefers when I'm looking at two outfits or something like that.
       
    3. My grandmother is my most supportive family member regarding my dolls...all my various types of dolls. This is probably because she's a doll person too. I knew my grandmother would be a supportive person. I wouldn't say any of my other family members are exactly 'supportive' but most of them accept it as a thing that I'm into. My brother will talk to me about my dolls sometimes and knows some of their names. My brother's interest really didn't surprise me either, because we share all our interests, even if the particular interest isn't something the other person is into.
       
    4. No one. Most of the family lives around an hour away so they've never seen them, and those who know about them dunno what to say or do. My parents think (thought) I've too many. Sure, my dad might have liked something I made, and helped me, but he'd complain about them. (He's deceased.) Mom might help me make something, but she too complains. But I'm use to being the outsider in my family and everywhere else.
       
    5. I don't have anyone in my family that doesn't support this hobby. My family were the ones to encourage me to expand my collection even when I said I had no plans or desire to. Now that I have 3 dolls under my belt my mom keeps trying to talk me into diving in and getting the BID I have my eyes on. My dad is also always bringing me home "doll things". The best was when he painted a walnut to look like a brain I could put in my girl Sarah's head. If that isn't being supportive then I don't know what is lol!
       
    6. in my house everyone does :) mom is always finding things for my dolls, she pops into my room and says occasionally " do you think you might use this for your dolls? she even refers to my soom hyperon by his given name Dorian LOL! " she is the best mom in the world i love her!!! <3 last week she ripped the seams of some garments i had and some that she gave me to make clothes for my dolls out of them, she is a great help! also, my 10 yr old child haha! XD that's the most exited outta the bunch! she loves my dolls to pieces and talks about them all the time, she loves me to tell her the stories of their characters before bedtime XD, my best friend is also very supportive, she enjoys coming home and looking at all the things i am working on for them. my close circle of friends too. what can i say? i am blessed! :D

      forgot to mention that mom's phone wallpaper is a digital drawing i made of Dorian LOL XD!
       
    7. Most of my family doesn't know that I'm interested in BJDs, because I rarely talk to them, or see them. My aunt was surprisingly supportive, but she's not a good person. She's always trying to find ways to hurt my mom (her own sister), and steals from the family. My only nice aunt is disinterested, but she doesn't mind. My mom is slowly starting to see the appeal, and always says that it's up to me. My grandmother's no longer with us, but I think she would have liked BJDs, and would have most likely talked about how beautiful their bodies are. R.I.P Janet Sue Terry. She was only 64 years old when she suffered from a heart attack...
       
    8. My husband is supportive cause if I'm happy his life is easier.......lol
       
    9. My parents are both fairly supportive. I don't think they really get it, if you know what I mean, and I definitely get a lot of weird looks from them when I start talking about all the things I want to do with my doll ('I want to pierce his ears,' 'I need to separate his toes,' 'He needs a little dress,' etc). For the most part, though, they don't tease me about it, and they're willing to help me out with things (my mom has been helping my learn how to sew, and my dad is helping me drill his ears, for example). They understand that it's a really rewarding hobby and that it's something that makes me genuinely happy, and I think they also feel that it helps me develop skills (sewing, painting). So overall, I would say they're supportive. However, they're not really encouraging, and they often complain about how expensive the hobby is (while they don't mind me indulging in my one doll, they always tell me it would be a waste to get another), but it's not that bad.

      Overall, far more supportive than not, and I'm thankful that they're somewhat understanding. There's kind of a limit for them, though, and they don't really understand it as much as I'd like them to. But ah well, that'd be quite a lot to ask for.
       
    10. My immediate family is very supportive. None of my extended family has seen them so I don't know if they would be or not. The most supportive would have to be my husband with my mom a close second. My husband really likes my dolls and helps me with them all the time. He offers suggestions when asked and he likes showing them off, too. XD He collects Kamen Rider and Sentai Figuarts, so he understands having an "odd" hobby. Our finances are separate so he doesn't remark on the price even though I do tell him.
       
    11. My husband is supportive when it comes to making things from scratch for my doll (clothes and furniture)...but not so supportive with the spending portion (like the cost for a single doll).
       
    12. My future husband I think I most supportive. Most of my family and friends, when they see my dolls, say "you're still playing with those?" But my man gets excited with me when I get new things for my dolls, just as I get excited when he gets new warhammer stuff! I wish he was a bit more handy though, I have to construct my own props!
       
    13. My Hubby is the most supportive for me as well. He is always willing to look and listen when I talk about my doll and he is willing to help me make things for her. My dad is a close second. He has even given me money to buy clothes for her with. My mom on the other hands can't see why I put so much into one thing but she is coming around I think.
       
    14. I live by myself, and I'm a grownup, and my parents are on the opposite coast, so their support or lack thereof doesn't enter into my choice of hobbies. (But then, it never has, in the first place, even when I was a kid living with them. ^^)

      Still, they're supportive in a long-distance way. Mom & Pop are into any kind of creative hobby, and they know I'm always digging up weird obscure shit to be into-- and they think these dolls are pretty cool. Pop appreciates the engineering side of the ball-joint-and-tension-line system, although he is prone to thinking that every one of the dolls is female. xD Mom understands how I could spend four hours in front of a laptop shopping for different high-end designer eyeballs, and she digs the way that quality doll-clothes are so meticulously constructed and detailed to look like the real thing. My Balenciaga-handbag-loving sister is intrigued by the way these dolls maintain their value & the way I could exchange an SD17 Genji repaint for one of her Balenciagas in a straight trade. My 8-year-old niece is pen-pals with my SD10 SchoolHead B boy. Things could be worse.
       
    15. My mom is the most supportive/interested but my whole family is positive about my hobby-- even my brother and sister who both think my doll is creepy. I'm lucky to be in a family that admires creativity, beauty, and craftsmanship even when it comes in an unusual form. Like JennyNemesis' dad, my dad thinks the ball joint/elastic stringing is very clever and is impressed with the amount of craftsmanship that goes into a doll. My mom's mom used to sew for Barbies, so my mother likes that I am carrying on that tradition. I think she's the only one in my family that really admires the "cuteness" of dolls. As I said before, my brother thinks my doll is creepy but he's quite appreciative of how detailed she is and even remarked on how meticulously made one of her Rosen Lied dresses was (to understand how amusing this is, you have to know that my brother is a body builder and the RL dress was a pink confection of lace and frills). My sister encourages my sewing for the doll, but like my brother, she finds her creepy.
       
    16. My sister is the most supportive, as she's also in the hobby, and is more interested than anybody else. We share plotlines/rp with our dolls' characters, and give each other bjd related gifts for holidays. It doesn't surprise me at all, as we've both been doll collectors since we were small children.
       
    17. My mother is the most supportive. Sometimes I think she gets more attached to my dolls than I do, and I know one day I'll figure out her grail doll so I can get her one of her own as a gift (because she's that stereotypical 'put the kids first' kind of woman)

      My brother and father accept it, and the rest of my family appear to accept it ( I think xD ).
       
    18. I think my mom is my biggest support.

      she and my little sister (who actually considered an iplehouse asa at one point) tend to get my strange hobbies and try to understand them and ask bunches of questions.

      my grand mother and even great grand mother think they are super cute and ask questions.

      my cousin has lately been interested, but I don't really like her touching my dolls. (she didn't ask before she just started changing their clothes. It was not okay)

      the only one who isn't supportive is my father and his girlfriend. almost entirely based on price, and my lack of mastery of spending. It kind of sucks because he is my biggest support on everything else. :/
       
    19. I'd definitely say my mother is the most supportive. When I was younger and still living with her, she didn't want me to get a bjd (But this was just because it was a large amount of money sending overseas, and I was pretty new in the Bjd world.) But now that I am on my own, and it's my money, not hers, she actually really likes my dolls. She enjoys when I bring them over to her house, and she always likes to see any newcomers :) I'm really happy that she likes my dolls. My other family members are kind of indifferent. They think they are pretty, but they wouldn't really care if I didn't have them, you know?
       
    20. My family is fairly neutral on the dolls.

      My husband is hopeful that we've hit equilibrium, but that's more because we're moving house in a few months than anything else. My sister thinks they're absurd, but that's primarily because her husband is ultra-minimalistic, so idea of a collection of anything seems weird by comparison. Similarly, I have an aunt who likes to ask me about the dolls, but that's primarily because she collects antique dolls and likes to point out to the rest of the family that she's not the only one who drops large sums of cash on toys.