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To buy or not to buy

Aug 8, 2013

    1. Hi all posting this so I can get people thoughts on the matter- at the moment I don't know what to do

      I started the hobby this year with a minifee, then ordered another minifee ( waiting for order) which my boyfriend and Mum gave money towards as a birthday gift, but I could never stop thinking about my dream doll- feeple 65 chloe. I sold a load of stuff and tried to save, but I was worried I wouldn't get enough together. Its kinda sad but my dolls are one of the few things in life that make me happy and its been a very hard few months. I started to think maybe I should give up on it, made me a little sad cos its one of the only things to look forward to. My mum took me to one side today- she told me she had given my sister some money towards her rent and that she always wants to treat us equal- she put £350 in my bank and told to use it to help buy my doll, she said she understood how much it meant to me and not to pay her back. I promised her that this would be the last doll, and she made me promise I would start saving up for a flat and moving forward with my life, I was happy at first........but now I feel sad. My mum is 63 and still works her butt off. Its not like I could turn down the money, she had already put it in my bank. I feel so guilty now, I talked about getting this doll a lot... now I feel selfish and foolish. Part of me thinks I should not get the doll, I'm not sure I deserve it now. My boyfriend says he understand why I feel guilty but that I should just get the doll and be happy. What should I do guys? I feel really lost now:(
       
      #1 Maishka, Aug 8, 2013
    2. Well, your mum's gift is wasted if you don't do what she has asked you to do with it. Tell her it is in lieu of X Christmas and birthday presents, buy your doll, and then save up for the flat. Do something nice for her that does not involve spending money (manicure her nails or something pampering - my mum likes that!)
       
      #2 Bluemoonjules, Aug 8, 2013
    3. I agree with Bluemoonjules. I think it would help your conscious if you told her you see the gift money as an early Christmas present or something? I don't know how that sounds to you - just a thought! After you buy this doll, I say start focusing on "cheaper" aspects such as clothes and wigs for the dolls you have :) I understand the guilt but I think if your mum sees that after this you are saving for a flat - it will make her happy. If you still feel REALLY bad, I know it was a gift but you can politely decline and have her take the money back and explain why. Then after you get a flat, save up for your Chloe? Either way, I say only buy the Chloe when you feel good about it so she is not attached to a negative feeling when you think about her/see her. I dunno, these are just my thoughts.
       
      #3 sam_darko, Aug 8, 2013
    4. I agree with Bluemoon's suggestion of doing something nice for your mom.

      You could also sit down and have a chat with her about how you're feeling. Chances are she knows how happy your dolls make you, and she wants to help you achieve that happiness. Even if you hadn't have talked about your dream doll to her, chances are good that she still would have known. She's your mom! She might have said it was for dolls, without stating it was for that special one you wanted.
       
      #4 MoonHawke, Aug 8, 2013
    5. Thanks for all your nice replies. I spoke to my mum about it, she didn't say much apart from 'make sure its the doll you really want, have a look at some others first', but she must have said something to my boyfriend cos this morning he got me up early sat me down at the computer and went through order form for my feeple. He didn't leave the house for work till i'd clicked the pay button, he even helped pick out the wigs cos they sold out of the one I wanted. I phoned my mum to ask her about it all but she jut laughed and said she was glad it was sorted and ordered. I still feel a little guilty - my mum has gone out shopping for the day with a friend so today I plan clean the whole house so its nice for when she gets home.
       
      #5 Maishka, Aug 9, 2013
    6. Hi Maishka,

      >n< It seems like you were in a really tough spot, but ultimately the people of DoA cannot decide what you should do with your collection. Your choice is entirely up to you and always will be. If it's any consolation, dolls can always be purchased later, perhaps when your situation improves. There have been many stories of people finding their grail LE dolls after many years, so don't give up hope. Just because something might not happen immediately, does not mean that it's gone forever.

      That aside, this topic is much more personal and specific than DoA allows, and so I'm locking it up. These topics are better suited for blogs, LJs, or tumblrs, etc...

      Best of luck,
      Laelen
       
      #6 Laelen, Aug 9, 2013