A female owner of male dolls unable to connect with female dolls

I have the opposite problem. I see quite a few females I want and not really many boys. I am pretty picky on how I want my boys to look and I feel like most sculpts just arent offering that in anything smaller than sd sized. SDs are also the opposite with my issue. I don't like many SD girls (not that I have seen many). I have seen quite a few sd boys I like and I even tried one, but SD is just too big for me.

 

Sexism is a large part of the problem for me. Don't get me wrong, I don't hate my gender. It's not sexism on MY part, but rather what I see out there. I wish gender inequality wasn't such an issue, but it is. It annoys me that the tired old "damsel in distress" line is still trotted out ALL THE TIME. My problem is the way that a lot of the female dolls, female game characters, female movie characters, etc., are depicted as ineffectual, weaker or in need of rescuing. I'm not saying all, but a ridiculously high number are. I'm not saying we can't have weak female characters, or damsels in distress. But I'd like to see it balanced out more with strong female characters and damsels saving themselves.

I believe that women can be as powerful, capable, badass, etc., as men. But you just don't see it often enough. It's getting better. In BJDs, you're starting to see more female pirate captains, warriors, queens, and so on, women of power. Beautiful and strong, rather than cute and fluffy. I like that shift. I hope to see it continue. I don't want it to seem that I think cute dolls or the people that like them are bad. Variety is the spice of life and is necessary. It's just that cute is not my preference. It frustrated me that cute used to be so over-represented and unbalanced. I'm happier now that doll companies are taking notice that there is a market for something else and getting more balance.

I don't see the fact that I have more male dolls than female ones as a dislike of my gender. I am perfectly happy being a woman. I have both male and female friends, and are comfortable with both and treasure both equally. I try to be gender neutral. I have more male dolls because the doll companies haven't produced enough female dolls I want yet. I'm very choosy about my dolls, and only recently have things been shifting more to my taste.

 

I'm having the same issue, though I don't own any dolls. I just look through pages and pages of stuff and the only ones I end up stopping to look at are male dolls.

 

I have the same problem in reverse. Much to my surprise, I seem to only be able to bond with girls, but boys. My dolls are MSDs, I don't know if that makes a difference!
I've had a few boys that I liked but couldn't keep, there was just something. One in particular I adored, but he was a girl I's put on a male body and then still thought of as genderfluid.
I'm getting another boy next month, I hope things go better with him!

 

I only collect female dolls, I can appreciate a male doll, but it's just not for me. I also do not feel that my collection lacks diversity because they are all female as they all have their own character.

 

I have 15 dolls and only 3 of them are females; 2 MSD and a Pocket Fairy. Actually, I like female dolls but I'm really bad at female fashion or design things. (Included for myself. Too bad. But it's truth.) That's why I have no plan to add more female dolls in my collection in the future because every time I see them, I feel sorry that I can't make them pretty.

 

I find I only like female dolls, much the same way that I seem to favour admiring artwork of women ^^ Though I dont mind cuter, fairy-like male dolls. Its kind of funny because years ago i only liked male dolls (specifically DoD Sha and Homme Ducan). Now they do nothin for me!

 

I have all female dolls, except for one boy who is an anthro cat. I have girls from tiny puki puki to child yo-sd to mature SD13 to a DDdy. I enjoy the entire range of female bjds. I don't find them limited to only boobs/seductive types or baby innocent/lolita types. I've seen many male bjds that I think are attractive, but none that I felt like I had to own.

 

It took a couple of years for that shift to happen (2008-2015!) but I also find I can't say I'd 'never' get a certain kind of doll (look/style wise) 'cause I always end up finding some I like. For example, I thought for certain I didn't like the anime style but some of those volks have lovely expressions and cute faceups. Gah~

 

Originally, I thought I was in the original poster's position: I only liked male sculpts. Then, I realized that it wasn't so much that I liked the sculpt for being male, but rather I was attracted by more mature and defined facial features. As in my response to "That one turn off" thread, I really don't like some of the characteristics of female-marketed dolls: I like very small eyes, thin and wide mouths (versus tiny rosebud lips--I think they are kind of creepy and make the doll look frozen), chiseled cheekbones, and large foreheads and chins (I like to avoid the egg-head look). I think it has to do with what is deemed marketable "attractiveness" in popular culture for women versus men: women must be attractive and sexy to be marketed for appearance, while men must be striking, but not necessarily traditionally attractive or sexually attractive. As a result, I think that the majority of female dolls are a little too...unrealistic (disproportionate eyes to the extent that they are not physically possible, etc.) I think odd aspects of a sculpt, "handsome" features, give character or personality. As a result, almost all (actually maybe all) of my female dolls have originally male-designated head sculpts. That way, I get the female dolls I want, without the aspects of female dolls that I hate.

 

I think I respond more to female dolls because I tend to find female fictional characters more interesting, and because I like the fashion possibilities of female dolls that can be more limited for male dolls. I do like the look of many male dolls, whether they are more masculine or feminine, mature or childlike. And there are male dolls on my wishlist, too. But I haven't bought one yet, and I want to keep my collection small, so I don't know if I ever will have one. It doesn't really feel unbalanced to me to have all girls.

 

I am the exact reverse of the original poster - I adore so many girl dolls, but the boys don't get much interest from me other than the occasional "that's a nice looking face!"

I think in my case, the body that that nice face gets attached to is unfamiliar and uncomfortable for me to look at / handle. I'd be more a little comfortable with a male doll on Tenshi body, but even then comes the #1 biggest dilemma for me, which is fashion. Male fashion is, well - I know it's me - I just don't get it. Hairstyles, shoes and clothing (there's what? Casual, formal, and business) all examples of which look exactly the same within their own category to my untrained eye. All business attire looks the same, all medium-long haircuts look the same...

I have one male doll. I struggle to bond with him, and really wish to, but he's still the one I'm least attached to. I bought him because I so admire the artist who sculpted him, and his body is of really high quality. Plus, I thought he'd make a charming older brother to my first doll. But he stays mostly naked because I just can't seem to complete any satisfactory piece of male attire. So I consider it a blessing that I get to admire his sculpting and unique joints, but it's far more a curse because his male bits are.. yup, sigh, still there.. >///<

Edit: I guess for what it's worth, any busty female doll also gives me the same uncomfortable disinterest. Just can't relate to the body and would feel weird putting my hands on it or knowing how to dress it. :/

 

I have trouble often connecting with female characters as a whole, being a girl, because of how they're written. They're always more stereotypical and less humane than male characters, be it on TV, videogames, most manga... since even when the writer is a woman the editors and directors are most of the time men. The female characters almost always get the short end of the stick, and I'm never able to be fond of shallow "only there because they're pretty" girls.
This usually causes, not just to me but to many other girls I know too, a rejection by default of fictional women (as opposed to in flesh ones), because you might immediately associate them with gross women stereotypes others put on women as a whole, and you don't want to hear any further about girls being submissive or vain.
Plus you're more likely to identify with male characters since you're used to them being fully fleshed and having actual human personalities.
It's easy to see that translating as a lack of bonding with female bjds.
It's just my theory though.