A Guy with dolls?!!

I live in the south too so I was wondering how a guy owning bjds would go over down here. All the guys in my area are fake macho... like they try to put on a show so you know they're "masculine". Its ridiculous.

 

This is me btw And I approve of the thread! I definitely thought milady's "Raymond" was creepy, still do a bit. But yeah after going to a meet and seeing the extent to which dolls can differ I was well and truly converted XD. They fit neatly into my hobby of fictional novel writing, while I keep it a well hidden secret from my family and guy friends I'm proud enough to be called and seen as a member of this community by the rest of the public ^.^

 

One of my best friends is male and he got me into the hobby in the first place!

 

I'm a guy in the hobby and I know a few guys in the hobby also. It's pretty rad.

 

I think it definitely is frowned upon, which I think really sucks. Even outside and inside the hobby I have seen people talk about it like it's weirder than aliens. But I think it is lovely and also really brave also, it's like saying: I don't care what you think, this makes me happy!

 

I'm a guy and I own 3 Volks Dollfies. A girl I met online through anime figure collecting got me into dollfies. We talk about dolls all the time. My Asuna I put on display in her default outfit. My family isn't really too fond of it. They don't say anything but they give me weird looks sometimes when they walk in my room. The other two dollfies are a bit too sexy to display since I got peach pai busts for them. The peach pai chests are very soft, fun to squish and very large in size. No point in getting the peach pais if I don't dress them in outfits that show lots of cleavage! So I keep those two hidden. My mom doesn't like when a girl shows too much skin. She doesn't like sexy girls... but I do. =x

 

I have a male friend who used to not like dolls but now asking me to send lots of pictures of my doll

 

I guess I should comment

So, I'm a guy who's into dolls. It was kind of an accident that I got into them, but it was a happy accident

I don't tell a lot of people about this hobby. Aside from doll meets, I'm not very public about it. Before my mom passed away a few years ago, she really, really disliked it. If I go out in public with my dolls, I hardly ever go out by myself. Meets are a good way to keep it from being just me.

I genuinely like the hobby a lot. Ever since I worked up the courage to go to my first meet, I've gone to them very often. I try to dress my girls up in different outfits every time. Sometimes I'm not able, but I usually do. Sometimes they're classy, sometimes they're sexy, sometimes they're just casual fun, but I always try to bring out the dolls' personalities.

There had been a time in my area where there was no local doll meet. I would have to go to New York City or the South New Jersey meets or a rare convention meet. I worked with someone else in my area to get a new meet started, and it's been going on for the past year. It doesn't attract a huge crowd, but I'm glad to have it every month. I've made some great friends through it. Unfortunately, it's just me that's organizing the meet these days, but it's all right.

Sometimes I feel like I'm misunderstood in the hobby, however. I hope I'm not being so friendly with the locals that it's off-putting. And there was another time when I was... unpleasantly "featured"... in a tumblr post way back before my first meet that made me apprehensive about being social with the hobby. I'm happy to say that most of the people I've met are pleasant and civil, so becoming more social has proven to be a worthwhile gamble for me.

Anyway, I found the hobby surprisingly fun when I first got into it. Who knew I was going to enjoy playing with dolls, changing clothes, taking pictures, and doing other dolly things? I like heavy metal music and monster trucks and pro wrestling

 

I know guys who are into bjds. One of them was one of the earliest persons with a bjd in the US. I was just at Dollism Plus US and it was great to see guys attending.

Many doll company owners and sculptors and designers are male--the Asian ones, anyway. Not so many in the US, but there are still some. And there are males involved in dolls all over the world. I wonder if there's a difference if you're making dolls or running a business with dolls--and in just owning dolls? Maybe people see it differently? I just know that there are many guys who are into dolls. Some of the biggest buyers of Volks dolls in Japan are males. And I hope people will be a bit less judgmental about these kinds of things in the future. All those rules about "only children should have dolls" or "only girls should have dolls" are just ridiculous. People should be able to enjoy whatever makes them happy (and isn't harming anyone, of course).

 

I'm a grown woman who plays with dolls, being judgemental would be pretty stupid! But try to understand that for most of us this is deeply ingrained even if we don't want it to be. I got my sons dolls when they were little, my youngest didn't care for them. But he had few favorite toys really. My oldest though, he had a Pocahontas doll that he LOVED. For years. He called her Pucky for the longest time, it was really cute. I know his dad didn't like it much. I had to catch myself one time from saying he was being a nice mommy to his doll. Ingrained. There is no reason why a little boy playing with a doll can't be a "good daddy". But it had never come up in my life until then. So, if people say stupid things, just realize how confused they are! Doll meets should be places of easy acceptance though, we are too diverse not be accepting.

 

well I usually see two things happen to male collectors, They get "ignored" and treated like everyone else, or if they are single and plain-attractive on the looks scale tons of women collectors faun all over them until it gets annoying and kind of creepy.

I've met collector friends I made on the internet in real life and been surprised to find out they were male. I think its super cool for anyone to collect what I do, So I welcome men to the hobby since it would be great if we could get a 50-50 ratio. But I really don't want to have BJDs kind of become like the Brony thing. As in men like a thing "traditionally for girls" and act all weird about it.

so I guess (sorry for sounding harsh) Almost No one inside the hobby cares if you're a guy, we just want you to have fun. People outside the hobby might judge you, but they judge everyone male or female. Just be you and you'll be okay. It doesn't matter if you are male or female, you just need to be friendly and nice.

 

This is definitely true, and it doesn't apply only to the doll hobby! Warhammer/miniatures gaming is something that (I feel, anyway) is rather geared toward men, but in talking with the managers of the local GW shop, people who wander in without knowing what kind of store it is frequently express their disgust that anyone would buy such expensive little things that aren't even finished (sounds familiar, doesn't it?). I personally have a rather healthy collection of Build a Bear plushies (the dolls do outnumber them but I'm not sure if that's a good or bad thing honestly), and was there just two days ago getting a new one; a woman helping her son at the registration center commented about the one I had, "He's so cute, I almost want one for myself, but..." I replied he was in fact for me, and got a strange look in response, but I don't care. It often seems like, unless you're conforming to a very narrow definition of what's okay to spend your money on (clothes, shoes, accessories for women; tools and motorized vehicles for men), people are going to judge you for stepping outside the norm, and you have to make that step to stand up and basically say, "I don't care what you think."

I think that's what it really comes down to, whether you're a male in the hobby or female--just be you, and don't care about others. I definitely welcome men with their dolls, and would love to see more become comfortable enough with the idea that yes, they can own a doll. I'd love to see a breakdown of stereotyping of guys with dolls (and adults with dolls in general). I'm definitely happy to know there are some guys around DoA... but when I'm talking to someone here, or reading their posts, I generally don't think about their gender. (I'm more likely to associate a gender with the real or perceived gender of your icon than the tone of your posts.)

 

I think its great for men to enjoy dolls, although my friends think its odd that im a 37 year old female who enjoys playing with dolls haha I also have 4 children.. my 2 girls have no interest in dolls but both of my boys enjoy them and have a doll each (not bjd though..that will have to wait until they earn their own money lol) My 8 year old son asks me not to tell anyone he has a doll and it makes me sad that he feels he has to hide it, I try and encourage him to be who he is but I also understand how cruel people can be.

 

Hello all of you!
I am also a guy into BJDs and also other dolls like Living Dead Dolls and the more edgy/spooky releases of Taeyang and Pullip.
So far all my friends and even my parents are very understanding, if not even interested and curious. Only good experiences so far!

 

Another guys thread...lol

I've been in this hobby for a good while. My close friends know about them. I collect toys so it's never been anything out of the norm for me.
The people I date...I guess I've been lucky. Everyone has found it cute. Except for one who was a little scared of them but got over it. They were on the bedside table...so we just moved them to my side when they slept over.
My current relationship (hey I'm popular...What can I say lol) we are SO different. Hes into trucks and cars and tools and anything with a motor. His hands are almost always have oil on them...and he tried to touch them!!!! Can you imagine!?! Motor oil on yer doll...
He loves them and loves that I love them.
Like I said maybe I've been lucky but I've only had people in my life who find it endearing.
I think perhaps for me it is easier because I'm gay? Maybe for the straight guys they get concerned of maybe people will think I'm gay. Which sucks...

 

I've been in this for like 2.5 years. My immediate family are aware of it...and dont approve of it. My sister recently told me if I ever get a girl that they'll have to go. sucks. I'm also into My Little Pony and for some reason its more acceptable. I guess because its more mainstream. Plus some people just find dolls creepy no matter what...thanks chucky. The only meets I go to are the ones at the anime con I go to every year. The doll group near me that meets regularly weirds me out lol. Plus i'm not big on going to some strangers house or taking my doll out in public places 1.too much attention 2.too risky for me.

Some of my friends/co workers know about my dolls. Most people just dont get the money part of it. And thats what I'm starting to worry about. What girl is going to take me serious not having my own place yet having $1000 or so of dolls. Which is why I havent bought a new one in a year.I couldnt afford to live on my own even if I sold all my dolls so why get rid of something that I enjoy for something that wont last/cant happen.

One thing I've noticed is you have to be confident when you talk about them but you cant just blurt out that you collect dolls or it looks like you're seeking approval (which I was lol). Just gotta treat it like its normal. My supervisor found out I liked ponies (and apparently dolls a year ago lol) so when we went on a work trip I explained it all and because of it he decided to watch the brony documentary. Sadly he still thinks the dolls are weird lol...but I tried.

Most of my girls dress like badasses so idk how someone could call me feminine for it lol. My tinys are cute...partly because they're tiny but thats it. I tend to style my SDs like what I find "hot." Hot in that chicks with tats wouldnt date me but they're fun to look at sorta way. No I dont find my dolls to be stimulating...I just think they're cool. If my dolls were real they probably wouldnt talk to me anyway. Zoey might cause she's goofy. And I guess I've already talked to Maria(Maria Brink) and hugged her too. Syd? Nope lol. Alice? She's shy. If I ever finish Raven...thats a no and not sure if I'd want her to anyway lol

 

Hello, I am a male that has been collecting dolls from all over the world from the places that I have visited. I have just recently adopted a BJD from Volks. I actually have a few life sized dolls in my living room. I had the smaller dolls from when I was in the military. However the life size I hid for a while, the I decided to let them out after I found a life size male doll that could travel with my mom while she was on vacation to make others think she was not alone. It actually paid off this past summer. My mother is really open so I left them all around the living room. My mom inspected hem all and surprisingly she as OK with them. Now it is fascinating to see what positions and places my dolls end up in.

 

Hello Micaelmichael, I have many friends that are GBLT and I am openly in GLBT and Hispanic groups at work. I will speak freely for any of these groups, and people do respect what I say. Sometimes their is a little discussion however we always seem to work out the details and come to an understanding.

I have found from a recent seminar series that: "Nothing is nothing until you make something of it". Also "It is what it, is and nothing more".

 

I think people should be able to like what they like and not be judged for it regardless of their gender. I have found that there are an amazing variety of people of varied genders into this hobby and that just makes it a more interesting community