A Guy with dolls?!!

I think guys have played with dolls a lot longer than society realizes... they are called action figures. So if it makes any guy more comfortable to do so, just call your doll a modern articulated action figure. It is all semantics anyhow . Seriously, the definition of 'doll' is 'a small model of a human figure'; Which pertains to action figures and traditionally categorized 'dolls'. Pew, pew, pew! (<---the sound I have made playing with action figures as a child)

 

Well, I don't own a BJD yet, but I am a doll collector and I have OT dolls here on DOA. Sometimes, people find funny to tell me that I am a girl because I "play with dolls". But I don't mind what anybody says about that if they aren't important people to me xd

My boyfriend is also a doll collector (I actually met him because of dolls!) so there is no issue with him I guess xD If talk to him about dolls he would understand me.

My mom supports me, she's a little... Well, she always wanna get a doll for herself when I purchase a new kind of doll xD She knows that I love BJD and she sometimes helps with my savings. But there are some days when she gets angry with me and uses dolls as a method of making me feel bad.

All my friends know about my dolls. They don't find it weird or anything, and sometimes they ask about my hobbie, and some of them tell me that they have to take photos of them because they are so pretty ^^ So I feel comfortable with them xD

Last year, my classmates stared at me with funny faces becasue they found my instagram account and saw my dolls. I remember that one of the girls was always trying to hurt me only because of my collection. I guess the world has too many idiots.

 

My husband loves my dolls & even has his own on the way. ^.^

 

Growing up my mom played a lot of Raffi songs for us kids. One of the songs is about a boy who wants a baby doll. I see this situation being a lot like that song. Why shouldn't you have a doll? Should you choose to be parent it'll be good practice on how to care for and love something so much smaller than you. Something so tiny and delicate. Should you choose not to be a parent, great, now you have a doll to give all that love to!

All this stigma for what's 'gender appropriate' is just irritating. Girls can like boy stuff and boys can like girl stuff. It shouldn't be weird!

Long story short, enjoy your dolls boys! You have every right!

 

Hi, Moore! I think it is perfectly fine for anyone to own dolls. If they make you happy it should not matter who you are. And these dolls are in many ways works of art. Many of the artists, sculptors, designers, etc. are males. Males and females both appreciate beauty and artistic endeavors. Bravo and brava to all of us.

 

I support the love of dolls regardless of age, race or gender

 

I think everybody should be able to do and like what they like regardless of their gender, race, age, and so forth!

 

I'm a guy (though I think I may have mentioned this in a similar thread but can't remember) and I've been into bjd's since the early 90's. First I discovered the photographs of Hans Bellmer who really got the ball rolling making BJD's in the 40's then I found a copy of Ryochi Yoshida's Anatomic Doll in '94(?)ish. That was when I really started to get obsessed though back then there was only Japanese art dolls that were really expensive. I also tracked the BJD art scene through Yaso Magazine then much later discovered the consumer dolls. Though initially I was put off by the price I finally bought one and like Lays potato chips, tattoos, and piercings, I found that you can't just have one. I mention them and show my dolls to my friends (who are all photographers like me so I try to spin it as a photo project) but they don't really comment on it and show no interest. I'm pretty eccentric to them so much like the thousands of records, CD's and books that I own they figure it's more weirdness. My girlfriend is....accepting and she makes jewelry so when I bought some pieces in a store she made a necklace for one of my dolls. She doesn't want to know the cost so she doesn't ask and has no idea how many I have (we don't live together). Like my friends she chalks it up to my eccentric, obsessive nature. She's thankful I have no interest in sports or TV so she's okay with a little oddness. I'm writing a novel about one of my dolls and she's more interested in the results of that.

I've been to various doll meets and conventions and though I'm not shy normally I do get slightly....terrified at meets. I've gotten to know a bunch of people here and that makes it easier but the lack of males coupled with "male w/dolls" syndrome....makes me nervous. But it's getting less and less. The last meet I was at was tiny but evenly split between males and females so that was interesting. I think it makes sense that there aren't that many guys in the scene due to all the "male" nonsense that still imprints society but think that as time goes by those things are going to fray. From the many responses on this thread there's already a fair amount of guys in the scene and it's going to become more. I'd forgotten about collectible figures being a gateway drug for BJD's but that makes sense as well. I think BJD's are a great outlet for a variety of creative endeavors for any gender.