Are dolls childish?

*cackle*
Nope.

I took a LittleFee with me on vacation last summer to kind of be a stand-in for my collection and my daughters'. All 3 of us collect BJDs - current ages 52, 15, and in a couple of weeks, 12. We visited my dad, aged 77. His reacton? "My GOD. A grown woman, playing with DOLLS." (He wouldn't have minded at all if it had been the youngest holding her LittleFee, btw).

My reaction was "Yep!"

Yes, he's my parent, but I haven't lived in his home since 1978, so you can see why that remark made me giggle

 

Well, some people's parents never stop trying to shape them even if you haven't lived in their home for a long time...

 

Today I was with my ex-boyfriend and we were watching a movie. He saw my BJD, Hera, sitting on my table and just kept staring at her. I asked him what was wrong and he asked me if that doll was mine. I bluntly replied yes and he just kept going on and on about how it's stupid to still be collecting dolls at my age, how she's just so creepy and stupid, and such. It really hurt me to hear him just going on about this. Anybody else have these kind of situations?

 

In a sense yes, but nothing extremely hurtfull, you should just say its my hobby what are you going to do about it?
I get , not yelled at, but talked down to about my dolls frequently of how expensive and creepy they are...
There are a few other threads on here that should be a little more ''Helpfull'' i guess you could say to get support and not feel so hurt
Hope you are not ashamed of your doll though.
I agree you should just forget that Nip-Cheese (should i say more?) and be proud of your doll!

 

Cue, "and why should I care about your jackass opinion?"

 

No. I'm 45 and I have the right to collect whatever I like and bedamned what anyone else thinks. I would have not-so-politely asked him to get the hell out of my sight.

 

I've actually finally learned to avoid socializing with people that would trash talk me and my hobbies. It's not worth it to deal with Ex's and jerks who you can't even relate to. I mean, really, trying to be civil with an ex is one thing but if someone's willing to trash talk your hobbies then they obviously don't have much respect for you. Ex's are ex's for a darn good reason.

 

My boyfriend has been kind enough to list for me on multiple occasions how I could be 'better' spending my money. My opinion? I don't give a damn what other people want me to spend my money on. Bottom line, it's MY money. I'll spend it on what makes ME happy.

 

....why do you care what your ex thinks?

 

Yea, that's what people say about me liking music that's not in my language. Screw 'em. I hope it didn't get you too down. Also agree with uno-kun; he's an ex, why does his opinion matter?

 

ex?
tell him to get the...well use some colourful swears lol
tis what I would do

 

I guess that is a reason why he is an EX and not a current boyfriend. He's obviously not so kind. x.x

 

No, my friends and family have enough respect for me that they don't trash my hobbies. And the way I look at it is I'm an adult which means I can collect whatever I darn well please.

 

The better question... Why are some people so concerned with what others do with their free-time or money, at any age? It's no sweat off their back, do they feel so insecure that they feel a need to hurt your feelings to make themselves feel better? These are the type of people I avoid socializing with. If they don't respect me then why do they want to be around me?

I've never told someone how they should spend their money or that they were stupid for liking something. Everyone is different, that's what makes us unique and not robots. :P

 

Because most of the Western culture sees doll-collecting for little girls or little old ladies that are missing a few screws @_@

 

And you let that one get away?

No, seriously...It's none of his business. If he thinks you can use a different hobby, he can front the cash for it. Otherwise it's none of his business.

 

Oh, I know why, I just think that it's silly and sad that people have to be so nosy with what others do for enjoyment. I'm a "live and let live" kinda guy. Which brings up the point that I'm a guy... if some jerk tries to tell me that I'm off my rocker for having a doll I'll give him what for... and then ask "why is it any concern of his/her what I do with my free-time?"

 

Nothing overt, but the first time I brought one of my dolls to visit my family, my cousin definitely didn't approve, and subtly tried to razz my hobby. Fortunately, most of my family is really supportive of hobbies in general, and aren't too pleased with my cousin. Other than that, I just ignore most people if/when they get uppity about what I do and don't do with my time/money.

 

im sure he has a hobby you think its kinda stupid. when people say things like this to me i say something along the lines of "no its not, its not stupid because it makes me happy and its important to me, its my hobby and you should respect that. i think "insert his hobby here. like racing or fixing cars" is stupid but i understand that it makes you happy. to each their own.

 

When I first found out about BJDs and was looking at pictures online, my husband didn't understand why I was interested. Then, I went to a meetup, to see some in person and took some pictures. I showed the photos to my husband and he basically called me "stupid" for liking "dollies". We had a huge fight about it. Basically, I told him that I am my own person, with my own likes/dislikes and interests. I am who I am, he can't/shouldn't change me...... He got me a doll for mothers day. She should be arriving in a few days.