"Attachment to Inanimate Objects".

What kind of excitation do you feel ?

 

For some reason, I grew much more attached to my second doll then my very first.
This may sound wrong, but I often found myself "Neglecting" my doll Drake. Not a lot, but I give PErsephone a lot more attention then him, and one day, I was holding him, and wanted to cry. I guess it's a little hard to bond with him because his dark, dark eyes annoy me, and his face up does too, and seeing that i can't do faceups, I can't fix that. I could buy new eyes, but I don't know what color I would want them to be, nor do I have time for it; I'm trying to save all my money for my next doll.
I see what you mean when you say, "They have feelings." I feel that way a lot too, even about school assigments if they have very small doodles on them, because those doodles "had feelings, and I was hurting them by throwing them away."
I found myself bonding a lot with my doll Drake after that moment. I do think that because I'm a sentimental person, I bonded with with my dolls quickly.
I feel like they have feelings. Like they're my little friends or something, you know?
Sorry if this is like... completely off.

 

In my case, I'm desperatetly in love with my first ! When the 2nd arrived, I felt annoyed by his presence. This feeling increase day after day.. The way I fix that is considering the 2nd as an extension of me in photostories..^^
So he "goes out" only when I need him starring... The rest of time..I don't really care.

I have in mind to sold him as well.. but I'm hesitating.

It is hard for me to say that because is sooo beautiful.. more than my first..

May be I'm not made to have more than 1 bjd. He was here only for my first not annoying when I 'm out..and for photostories..

 

My main point in my post was the contradiction:My poor doll, I don't give it
enough attention, it's sad/lonely...I feel so sad for it. - I'm putting up my
doll for auction. Please send me offers, I won't take less than $$$.
So on one hand they say their doll has "feelings" and on the other they
want to sell it to a stranger, often for more money than they paid.
There's nothing wrong with selling a doll, at some point we all
might need to, just be honest about why you are doing it.

And ty for the jab, I guess you didn't see the best in me from my post?

 

I'm a very sentimental person and like to keep things that are close to me, like I've still got a teddy bear i was given on my first birthday, and my Simba cub teddy thats 15 years old and dropping to pieces, but thats becasue they are very dear to me. Im forever talking to inanimate ojects like my sewing machine and laptop will get told off when they do something wrong, and I stroke my Bubble's dashboard (Bubble is my car btw ) when ever i 'give him a drink' of disel lol.

With my BJD's there more for story wrtiing than anything else. I love the idea of making up little back stories and little quirks and stuff, like Seth - he's terrified of Cand floss! lol My husband thinks I'm strange becasue ill sit and talk to him, but its not like indepth conversations, its more like "Seth, will you sit still, you'll fall if you dont!" That kind of thing lol.

I have a set number of BJDs that i want because they are the characters in my story, so i would never buy a doll, then have to sell it. But i can understand why people do

 

My Himitsu doesn't have a full personality or anything, I guess it comes as I look at her, they have quite a charisma, these dolls.... but I haven't been writing a meter of history about her lost family and favorite animals. For me that isn't necessary, but I do like to read that sort of things about other dolls.. But I don't buy dolls to a personality, it comes. the same goes with names.... But in the end, dolls are objects to me

 

My doll isn't even here and I already love her! she should be in a week or so~ but anyway, I've given her a full personality and story. I feel as if she is a little person (does that sound creepy...?) and I already feel attached to her even though I don't even have her.

just today in the car my mom kept calling her an "it" and I almost told her not to do it.

 

I'm the same, anything with a cute face and I think of it as having feelings.
It's not a bad thing I suppose, I think it makes yu a nicer person.

My family and freinds don't understand this or my doll habbit hehe probably because this takes up so much space.
:]

 

though i know that dolls is inanimate, but i just can't help , but to talk to them and play with them.
i like to dress up my dolls, hug them to sleep, and even talk to them. i am attached to my dolls. a lot of times my sis actually warn me , not to talk to them, because they are just objects, not pets. but i still treat them like my little kids, and continue to play with them.
i don't think it is wrong for a doll owner to talk and play with the dolls. this is one way for owners to bond with their dolls.

 

I used to have this very much when I was younger...
Once I threw some toy car on the ground because I was angry, and then I immediately felt sad because of what I did I also believed my stuffed animals were alive.

I don't have that this much anymore, though I do have trouble throwing things away

 

Not even close to a pack rat...I love to go through my room and throw bags of things away. It's like zen peace, throwing things away XD

I have two types of dolls: One type is like a "pretty" or "fashion" doll who I like to give a zillion weird faceups and dress really strangely. I'm not super close to them and I could probably sell them if i needed to. The other type of dolls are waaay closer to me. I rarely give them new faceups and if I had to sell them it would break my heart. I haven't really figured out why that happens, but it definitely happens. (I used to think it was the faceup, but I dunno...)

I also write/illustrate stories but i could NEVER EVER make my characters into dolls. A two foot version of my characters would weird me out. When I get dolls either their personality appears when I finally get them out of that damn bubble wrap...or i just make them cool looking XD

 

I have to agree there. I've done a bit of figurative soft sculpture in the past and, just as with doll modding, a little piece of your soul does seem to bind with each character, each creature,each personality you create... a type of reflection of part of yourself in a very intimate way, which is why I think it's so easy to become very protective of your creations as you are protecting and defending the deeper and more vunerable parts of yourself that come out in their creation. Isn't it like that with all creative persuits though, from the hobbyist to the crafts person, the designer annd the artist (and I've been a bit of all of the above).
That being said, I was very attached to my toys as a child. I was a bit of a tomboy... generally "not like the other girls" so made more friends amongst my toys... something that never really went away. Sure, my many masses of cuddly soft toys lost their lustre but I still have a couple of very special ones that sit up on my dresser at home who I talk to when I'm lonely and a big brown stuffed dragon I hug when things get tough (he arrived as a comfort toy at a very difficult stage of my life). I also find Iam very maternal towards my 5 yo daughter's dolls...can't stand to see naked barbies and baby dolls lying around... they'll get cold! I either dress them or wrap them in toy blankets or some of my old fur fabrics from my teddy bear days.

 

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Originally Posted by batchix

I always feel like if you love something a little bit of your soul goes into it. The more people believe in that thing the more life it has... and if you stop believing in it, stop loving it, it slowly stops being alive- but it's not really a death.



I have to agree there. I've done a bit of figurative soft sculpture in the past and, just as with doll modding, a little piece of your soul does seem to bind with each character, each creature,each personality you create... a type of reflection of part of yourself in a very intimate way, which is why I think it's so easy to become very protective of your creations as you are protecting and defending the deeper and more vunerable parts of yourself that come out in their creation. Isn't it like that with all creative persuits though, from the hobbyist to the crafts person, the designer annd the artist (and I've been a bit of all of the above).
That being said, I was very attached to my toys as a child. I was a bit of a tomboy... generally "not like the other girls" so made more friends amongst my toys... something that never really went away. Sure, my many masses of cuddly soft toys lost their lustre but I still have a couple of very special ones that sit up on my dresser at home who I talk to when I'm lonely and a big brown stuffed dragon I hug when things get tough (he arrived as a comfort toy at a very difficult stage of my life). I also find Iam very maternal towards my 5 yo daughter's dolls...can't stand to see naked barbies and baby dolls lying around... they'll get cold! I either dress them or wrap them in toy blankets or some of my old fur fabrics from my teddy bear days.

 

Oops...sorry fot the double post! Must be goblins in the keyboard again!

 

I've found I can't bond with terrifically small dolls. I had a Puki and while she was very sweet and pretty and I definitely enjoyed her and loved her to pieces, her size made it difficult for me to do anything with her. I didn't take her anywhere, I hardly photographed her, and in the end I decided that despite the fact I really liked this doll, I would have to sell her because there would be someone out there who would really enjoy having this Puki that I wasn't really doing anything with. Now she's living with someone else who has another Puki for company and I know she's being played with and that's surely a better existance for a doll than sitting on a shelf.

Other dolls though, I know they're keepers. I've tried to sell my first doll, Gwenllian, and my SDC Kurt, Rupert, and I cried like an idiot when I got the first few PM's interested in them. I tried to convince myself that since I wrote stories about Gwenllian anyway, I didn't need her in doll form, and since I don't really get on well with boy dolls, Rupert should find a new home, but in the end, I just could not let these guys go. It makes me ill just thinking about letting them go anywhere.

Emphasis mine, and not directly aimed at you personally Daikon-Chili, more at the idea you presented

Perhaps if a person did spend money on fixing the issues they have with a doll, like paying for a new face up more to their taste or considering carefully what colour and style eyes the doll would suit and maybe splashing out on those perfect Enchanted Doll Eyes...these issues might be resolved and they would bond better with their doll?

It seems a bit lax to ignore the fixable, superficial issues with a doll specifically because you're saving for another one, particularly as this issue could just escalate with each doll you save for, and you could potentially 'neglect' a number of dolls by ignoring simple, solveable issues.

A new pair of eyes won't steal much away from anyone's budget. There are great pairs of eyes on the MP that are at bargain prices because people are leaving the hobby or they've bought multiples of the same thing, or you could trade the original eyes you dislike for another colour. Face-ups don't have to break the bank either. There may be someone at your local meet who does face-ups and you can watch them face-up your doll at the meet, like a Face-ups While U Wait service

 

AGREED!!! And it sucks. Do you remember the Ikea commercial that shows an old lamp out on the trash in the rain, with sad music. The voice asks "Do you feel bad for this lamp? That is because you are crazy, it has no feelings and the new one is much better"
So, I guess we're crazy!!


I also believe it has to do with your own personality. For instance, I am VERY in touch with my ...ahem, "inner child" if you will, or Perpetual Peter Pan. I still have my imagination about me. It's my escape from the real world, I will say it again and again It Is My Escape From The Real World! It is a world I would prefer to live in. I am at an age where I can no longer get dressed up in curtains & mom's high heels and sneak around in her makeup. Instead my creativity has gotten smaller and it's my dolls that get to do the dressing up and role playing. BUT, the dolls are my world of Make Believe now.

 

I'm another of those people that gets randomly attached to inanimate objects. Even worse is my attachment to characters from books. I would be perfectly happy locked alone in a library for the rest of my life with my dolls. (Ok so I might need internet access so I could buy more dolls and accessories for them, and maybe more books). I don't connect well with other people I guess it's only natural that I would instead attach to objects or characters. The dolls are a bit special to me, even more than other objects I might form an attachment to. I think it is because they represent people, but in a way I find less threatening and easier to cope with. As an added bonus I can turn them into the characters from the stories I write myself. They are like little muses. I enjoy bonding with them. But in the end I do still know that they are inanimate objects. The flip side to my attachments is that I can fall out of love pretty quickly too. And I tend to go a bit nuts when things start to feel "cluttered" and then I purge the entire house. The dolls are special, they don't get subjected to my "clutter obsession" but if I don't bond or the doll doesn't seem like the character I thought it would be I don't hesitate to sell it.

 

I'm... Really, really one of those inanimate-object bonders. I don't even have a doll yet, but about two years ago I got a Pokemon plushie from the Target across the street from my then-house. He's a Mantyke and now he's gone through extensive patching and the fabric is no longer that nice, soft fuzz, but he's me and my boyfriend's son.
I also specifically remember crying during that one Cowboy Bebop episode with the trippy carnival theme, simply because the toy kitty got shot up. I cried at no other point during that series. Apparently the inanimate object doesn't even have to exist.
I have no idea yet, but I imagine if I can attach so easily to things like plushies and blankets and sock puppets and rocks, pretty much have my mind go "HAY, LOOK! I'll name you Steve-o and you'll be arrogant but kind of caring," it'd be incredibly easy to breathe life into something that actually seems like it would have a soul.
Sorry for the fail de-lurk post. ._.;

 

Oh goodness!

I can SO relate to the TC ... One of my earliest memories is me in Kindergarten. I'm coloring with a purple crayon. The crayon was well-used and thus it snaps in my hand. I open my hand and see the purple crayon was broken. I feel incredibly sad and begin to cry -- not because I broke the crayon, but because I had "killed" the crayon. I felt so bad for the crayon ...

Nowadays I'm a bit more mature. XD But I still love all my toys and cutesy goods. They make me happy and with my love for them, I give them their own kind of life.

 

When I first started reading this, I wanted to say I don't get attached to inanimate objects, but... I do. I still snuggle with my stuffed snow leopard, still cuddle under a blanket I've had for 14+ years, and have an unreasonable love for my beat-up, hideously ugly boots.

I'll admit it. I'm unnaturally attached to my doll(s). I can't imagine selling Haven, though I've thought of it often enough, the money situation being what it is. Maybe it's because I've spent nearly $700 for him (and his outfits and such), or it could be that I actually worked hard to buy him, both at work and in life and that in a lot of ways, I view Haven as my "reward" in life for dealing with everything I've had to.

Or I may be just that kind of materialistic person, brought up to view inanimate objects as replacements for love and attention, due mainly to my parents buying me and my brother things rather than spend time with us. *shrugs* I'll accept any excuse, and wouldn't change myself for the world.