"Attachment to Inanimate Objects".

couldn't have ever said it better myself

 

This is so similar to my situation! I'm a total packrat, I loved dolls and toys as a kid, my closet, etc is stuffed with things I refuse to throw away even though I know I'll never use it, but I just can't bond with my dolls. Back when my first girl still had a body (I hated it so much I sold it) I couldn't bond with her, and can't do it now either.

But I don't think it's all about the fact that my BJDs are incomplete, because it's the same with my completed 1/6 dolls too. I like looking at them, posing them, taking photos but I'm having trouble coming up with personalities and bonding.

I was thinking that maybe I need to change my expectations of what it means to 'bond.' It doesn't have to be the same for everyone. But by not bonding like is common or even expected in the BJD hobby, I feel like I'm not getting my money's worth out of my dolls or something.

When I have some complete 1/3 dolls, maybe I'll find it easier to bond.

 

When I first buy a doll it's just a doll, since she's nude, bald and sort of a blank slate, even though I always buy with faceups already done. Once I add the wig, the outfit, shoes, etc. she takes on more of a personality but I don't think I've ever stretched to giving any of them feelings. Right now I have four going at once - one waiting for a wig, one for shoes, another for the mandolin she will sit playing, all of them for their completed outfits. I don't feel that I am "neglecting" anybody nor do they feel lonely if I can't do anything more with them until ** something ** arrives from China. They are dolls.

 

I'm just the same

 

I do get attached to things..but I can sort of turn it off. I can be like "okay, it's time to get rid of this" or whatever, and suddenly not be attached anymore. Not that I would do that with something cool like a doll. But like, if I can see I'm being a packrat, which I don't want to be, I think it motivates me to switch my goal from having a cool object to being junk-free. >:

I used to get REALLY attached to stuff. Like, in grade school, I was chubby because I got attached to MY LUNCH and felt sorry for it if I threw any of it away, so I would just eat it all even if I was full. XDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD;;;;;;

But I think since I got control of it, it made it so I didn't get as attached in the first place. So when I do start having dolls, I don't think I'll get totally "bonded" with them and treat them like people like some doll owners seem to. I'll be fond of them, but I'll be restrained. It's kind of too bad, I like being crazy in love with stuff... (not just objects, but anything..) maybe I should go back to being nuts over everything. XD;;

 

I'm actually really not much of a packrat, but I get extremely attached to certain objects. My dolls are some of those objects. I have found though that it requires a special doll for me to be attached...I am most attached to my Soulkid Tiffee. I appreciate and love my others, but Lane is the only one I would really go to great lengths to take care of. If I could only grab one doll, it would definitely be him. I can't explain why.

 

I have the exact same thing. In school I'd grow attached to small pretty things like my epic Hello Kitty mechanical pencil with the little 3D kitty charm on it >_> (which I still have XD)
I get very attached to things I think are pretty.. and BJDs are pretty >.>

 

Sometimes I get attached to inanimate objects & other times not. If it's a gift from a friend, I tend to be more bonded with that. But that has never interfered with bonding with my dolls. Once they're here, they get names, characters & find their place in the little universe I've created for them.

Sure, there have been ones I never bonded with & ended up selling them rather quickly but most of the time when I thin the herd, it's not easy to decide who goes & who stays.

As a child I was very attached to my stuffed animals & plastic dinosaurs, not the few dolls I had so much. I also tend to get attached to books & fabric & my collection of antique purses. Otherwise I basically see posessions as simply objects with no real emotion involved. Since I have no storage space in my house I'm not too much of a pack rat & find it easy to let go of most things.

 

There are some things I feel attached too, and others I don't. Can't say about BJD's yet, but I do have my favorite model horses that I've collected over the years (I have over 100 now, although it looks like that hobby is going to be scaled down a bit). Still, I'll probably bond with my BJD's more because they'll be a physical representation of the character's I've had in my head for years.

 

Before getting my BJD I've had difficulty developing an attachment to anything or anybody :/ I never even bonding with my girlfriend on much more than a superficial level. I have a chronic fear of losing the things I love, or of them leaving me. But now, that's not so much of an issue XD and being in love with my doll opened me up to loving others.

 

Hehe, I used to rotate the stuffed animals I slept with a night becuase I didn't want any of them to think I loved one more than all the rest. Fitting new stuffies into the rotation was always nerve wracking.

Some people are rather connected to intimate objects. I only really get connected to ones with faces, because then my mind starts to formulate personalities, back stories and the like. Also, for as long as I can remember, I've had problems writing down in diary's my lifes events and my emotions, there for my toys became my secret keepers, and thus my doll has taken a similer job.

Also, if something has a face, like a doll or a toy, I've always thought an evil spirit will inhabbit it and kill me in my sleep if I don't create a "soul" for it. This was some old childish fear I had thats now formed into a habbit for me.

 

I'm the same! I had an eraser shaped like Clifford that I played with at school. Then a kid next to me chewed him up....I was so sad. lol But when I ordered Aiden, I would close my eyes at night and talk to him; telling him how excited I was to see him, and not to be afraid of the bubblewrap in the box. Haha.

 

I'm the same! I had an eraser shaped like Clifford that I played with at school. Then a kid next to me chewed him up....I was so sad. lol But when I ordered Aiden, I would close my eyes at night and talk to him; telling him how excited I was to see him, and not to be afraid of the bubblewrap in the box. Haha.

 

I also strongly attach to things that do not live.
Honestly, I have a hard time throwing things away, even clothing that's not my style anymore since YEARS. XD I drive my mom completely crazy with that!
And with my doll I absolutely do.
Also because at the moment she's the only one who's keeping me company.
Without her I'd feel quite lonely these days. XD

EDIT@lolyon: Ah, well, the point is just that my parents aren't at home and my friends are in school, while I'm not. °___°''' So it's not like I have a choice. XD

 

Anyone doesn"t fell like 'in love' with his doll ? And ..also prefer its company than human beings' ?

 

Actually, I think you're on to something with this. I recall reading in Discover magazine a few years back that many neuroscientists and psychologists think that, instead of having a static mental image of a person, our brains basically create a "program" representing that person. When we try to anticipate how someone would react to something, our brains put the event through this 'program' to come to a conclusion. Basically, we carry a "person simulator" in our brains. The researchers thought this might actually explain a number of ghost and other paranormal phenomena; since even though someone else is dead, we're still alive, and still running that "person simulator."

I think that a lot of us more creative types have then taken this "person simulator" to the next level, to the point where we can completely synthesize people to simulate. If you write, or role play, then I'm sure you're very familiar with this process. If you have the knack to simulate people that don't exist, then it really isn't that far of a leap to apply that "person simulation" process to physical objects. Once you do that, then you will start getting attached to that object simply because you've come up with a synthetic "person" to go with it.

I used to get very attached to random objects like what many of you describe, but due to forced cleanings and organizations from my mother and grandmother I've managed to cut back a little bit. It still makes me sad to see something lost and left in the middle of the street, like a glove I found a few months ago, but I can at least clean out my closet now. XD But the whole reason it makes me sad is because I can very quickly come up with a basic story and personality for these objects.

 

I have attachment to most of my personal inanimate objects but only to those that resemble living things, such as dolls or stuff animals that I feel bonded to. When I was young I read some children stories about how inanimate objects do have feeling and personalities, it left such a strong impact on me and it affected the way I look at my stuff ever since. I think, for me, that's more like a habit than a personal characteristic.

 

I just have to say... thank god I'm not the only one ;____;

I've always had really odd attachments to inanimate objects, and while I have learned to let some things go, others I find myself getting emotional about o__O;

Such as recently, my mom "gave away" a hand puppet lion I've had since I was a toddler... he represented the little things that I liked about my childhood, and reminded me of my dad as well, the good memories, as he'd usually use that lion to make me laugh.
You wouldn't believe how upset I was when I couldn't find it.... I'm still fairly upset even now when I think about it TAT;

If I could, I'd be quoting a ton of people right now, but I mostly just had to say... glad I'm not the only one, although at the same time, I can imagine how some people would find it "silly" to have such attachments to inanimate objects

 

I'm a tad bit uber senstive, my room is filled with stuffed animals because I can't bare the thought of putting them in a cold dark attic. Personally I think it absolutely depends on your personality type, I think more senstive people become more attached to their things. Alot of people I know consider it silly, and yes it is a bit childish. Yet an object with sentimental value determines what its really worth and I feel sorta bad for people that look at a doll and can only see resin.