Buying a doll when you know you shouldn't.

Nope.
I've only every bought a doll from "fun money".
Tax refund, bonus (which I'm getting another this month!!!), sometimes I over budget and end up with additional funds outside of the budget. So I use that.
One time I did sell a bunch of DVDS and CDS and that bought me a doll.
I never regret my doll purchases because of these reasons.

 

I'm suffering this at the moment greatly. I suppose to be saving for my trip to Japan, but all the companies are releasing all my weakness of foxes and kirins (shakes fist at soom for making the man so expensive) but I crashed and burned when soom did the free choice orz

 

Yeah, I'm suffering from this problem myself at the moment. I try to budget for fun stuff each month and save up for any dolly purchases. Especially since I'm still in school and my course supplies can cost a lot of money. I had been doing really good on this front, but yeah I screwed up the budget this month because a doll I really wanted came up on Mandarake. If he was readily available or even showed up on the secondhand market often I wouldn't have bought him. But well I did, and the issue is I still have books to buy and yeah. So this probably wasn't the best decision I could have made and I've made my life difficult for this month. So I definitely just bought a doll when I shouldn't have, but just look at him. How was I supposed to pass him up? The face, the body...I was doomed the second I saw him.

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I've got a couple incoming that I probably bought a little sooner than I ought have, honestly... Though to be fair, neither was truly an impulse purchase of any sort. The first was one that's been on my wishlist practically since I started in the hobby, who I realized was being discontinued permanently about four days before the last possible day I could order. I did a little financial checking, and threw him in on a layaway two days later, after deciding there wasn't another sculpt available I could substitute for that character. The other, I'd been planning to buy later on, but due to several translation errors with the dealer selling him, I ended up with an offer to get him at a fairly steep discount, and decided I'd be a right moron to pass that up! (The discount was roughly $70 off, which is nothing to sneeze at by any means.) So again, a little financial rebalancing took place, and I snagged him, as well.

It's mostly time-limited things like that, that get me, with the biggest trouble being getting dolls that I have no plans for at all. Of four early dolls that didn't fit my initial doll group plan, two have long since been sold on. (A fifth ended up creating a new group, whoops.) If there's no plan, the doll ends up not sticking around for very long, and I end up having to go to the trouble of selling it off. So the ultimate decider for me on whether I shouldn't buy that doll is "does it fit into an existing place in my groups?" If it's no, I shouldn't do it, and these days I hold off and don't (no matter how tempting they may be).

 

I always ALWAYS have regrets as soon as I've bought a new doll. I know I could be doing something a little more sensible with my money but I love dolls so much! It's so hard to just window shop all the time, sometimes you just give in and spend when you know you shouldn't. Dolls are always like an impulse buy for me. As soon as I see one i love, and I have the money for it? I'll buy it. Then regretttt.. But all that seems to melt away when the dolls come home to me. As soon as you have them in your hands, what is there to regret? lol

 

I only buy a doll when I get my tax refund or my bonus from work with the exception of my first doll.
I never regretted buying any of them as I tend to obsess over whether I actually want the doll or not.

 

Events are what kill me.

Generally, I only spend my 'fun money' on dolls - money I get from a sale, from my parents etc - so there are no regrets and I try not to feel too bad about the amount spent.

But when an event comes along, oh boy. Suddenly I'm checking the exchange rate, then checking my bank balance, then checking the exchange rate again and furiously doing layaway calculations in my crazy little fangirl brain. I know I shouldn't spend money I don't have yet just to get a deal, but God, it's tempting. Going through this at the moment with some of the swish offers AC have going. 10% off and a free faceup is my kryptonite...and don't get me started on free EMS shipping for an SD! *fights the urge to add everything on Little Monica to cart*

 

I'm sorry to hear that!My helpmeet say,why you would like buy a doll,what make you with this,just put on the shelf and that's it.He don't understand this is more,then just a hobby or collecting,this is one style of living,love of dolls.

 

I bought way too many dolls in 2011 - one every month - and I think that was silly of me. It wasn't a matter of space or cost (at the time I had ample display space, and having been newly able to work from home had plenty of space in the budget that used to be taken up by transportation expenses and lunches with coworkers), but it did feel like overkill in the end. And I don't think I thought those purchases through as much as I did the ones I bought before and after, so I that's my main takeaway from the whole thing.

 

I'm personally trying to save up for my first (on-topic anyway...) BJD and frankly, I'm scared already. I know I'm doing the responsible thing and saving up for my doll, but I know once I spend the money I'll have that feeling of "that money could have gone to X bill, or gone to help out with X payment." I'm new to the BJD community and haven't experienced buying my first doll yet, so the experience of getting one is unknown to me. But I hear just the smell of the doll resin makes it worth it.

 

I've been fighting with myself very hard the past month to NOT buy a doll yet while I am trying to get on top of things financially. I work on contract at a University, so I get benefits (which is awesome) but I never know if I will be working in two month's time. My current contract is up in two months and I may not get extended because the department is having financial issues. This is why I'm trying to not make big purchases until I know what's going on. Ideally I would hold off until December and then order one as a Christmas gift to myself closer to November, but realistically I don't think I'd be able to wait that long.

I WANT a doll NOW so badly, and there are a few basics I've had my eye on - I am mostly looking at dolls under 20 cm (I love tiny sized dolls). I know if I buy one it would be super irresponsible and my boyfriend would get upset with me. I need to wait until I know what's going on work wise before I make the addition to my family.... but it's so... so... so very hard.

 

Right now I'm going through a similar situation, OP. I was going to buy a limited doll that's on sale on Friday morning with the money I don't even have (I was gonna use the CC) just because he was my grail. I have the same sculpt but in another skin color, why would I need the same doll twice just for the different skin color??? anyways, someone hit my car yesterday (perfect timing ) and now I have to fix my car....I still want the doll and I know I shouldn't buy it. I will not do it but it took someone to crash against my car for me to say "NO" to dolls.

I understand the fear, even though I'm an adult and have my own money, I still live with my mom and my fear is more like shame because I could use that money for the house, family member, school etc so I never want her to see that I got another doll, she never says anything bad and usually says that I should do what makes me happy but the "shame" is always there. :[

Good luck with your family, your girl is very beautiful and you got him a great boyfriend

 

I have been in this situation before and bought a doll when it probably wasn't the smartest thing to do at the time, but I've gotten a lot better about picking and choosing what dolls I purchase. I've come to realize that I'm happy with my collection the way it is, and adding another doll won't necessarily make me happier.

 

I've never been a big spender. In fact, when shopping, I usually talk myself out of buying a lot of things. I ask myself, "Do I really need that?" or "You could spend this on something you really want." When I found out about bjds, the price was a shock, but the more I looked at them, the more I wanted one! I shopped around quite a bit before I finally made my choice, and surprisingly, I didn't talk myself out of it - not once. I did have to convince my husband but I just reminded him that I wasn't one of those girls who bought a pair of shoes or purse or jeans or - anything really - every month and rarely did I ever ask for anything really expensive. I did feel a little guilty after I bought my doll, but it didn't last long. Now I'm trying to convince my husband to let me get another doll for Christmas this year!

 

As someone who's always been frugal, I was definitely worried about money after I bought my first bjd. It seemed like so much money to spend at once - especially on a doll. I agonized over it. Nut when she arrived, all those fears disappeared. ...Until I decided to buy a second. Again, it was months of me changing my mind - putting her in my cart, taking her out again, putting her back.

I think, like all things, moderation is key. I budgeted and prepared, and I spread out my purchases so I don't blow all my money in one go. And also, waiting can be rewarding! Sort of like the saying that hunger is the best seasoning, you know?

 

Sometimes, I think I'm just an impulse buyer but I also plan and save for dolls as well. Most of my dolls right now are impulse buys but I've got lots dolls I'm planning. I think I quick-purchase because some companies only have short order periods or, if it's on the second-hand market, someone else could buy the doll before I can.

 

I probably should not have bought most of my dolls if making sense were part of it. But I enjoy them so much. I just placed another order at IP. Do I need more? NO. But did that stop me? NO.

 

Haha...my mother (whose business it's NOT) said the other day, stop this putting dolls on layaway crap. Oops....There's one there already lady. I really don't have space for more big dollies. But oh well. Who needs furniture.

 

I'm so horribly tempted to buy a tan YoSD from a fellow member of a BJD Facebook group. She's inexpensive & comes with lots of clothes--but part of me is afraid. What if she turns out to be a recast? Or to have really bad flaws that don't show in the photo.