Buying a doll when you know you shouldn't.

The main reason I feel this way is because of financial reasons. Like I just paid off my car so I don't have car payments anymore, but instead of putting the money towards bills I tend to think it could go towards a doll. Of course I KNOW better, it's just that dolls are so much more fun to buy than paying bills XD

 

For some reason I feel more justified buying a doll after getting into a major fight with my husband. Retail therapy I guess?

 

2013 and the first part of 2014 was like... the year of acquisition for me.

I had a new job and was making a lot more money than ever before, I was living at home because I was also a student and well... any dolls I saw I wanted, I bought. Any event that came up and interested me, I participated. Even though deep down I wondered if this was a good idea, because I like the idea of a smaller collection. But I figured I'd rather get the doll than miss out and regret it.

I constantly had this feeling of my doll family being incomplete and for some reason thought adding yet another doll would fix that. As if one more resin personality would some how magically make them all cohesive.

Fast forward a year and a bit and I'm cleaning out house. I've sold a number of dolls that were the impulse purchases and kept others that ended up being really fantastic. The past year I've been more focused on completing the dolls with proper wigs, eyes and faceups and lo and behold - lots of them aren't fitting in. So I've sent them on their way, and may yet move others on as well. It feels good, like a weight lifting from my shoulders.

It's a lot of responsibility to complete 20~ish dolls and to dress them and photograph them etc. I've noticed that there were some I always wanted to pull out to play with, and others that just sat on the shelf for a long time doing nothing. Sure they're pretty and they make me smile, but I personally don't feel like I'm getting my "bang for my buck" if I don't do anything with them.

So I guess you could say that yeah, I should have listened to that inner voice that told me I didn't really need yet another doll. My advice - don't buy dolls just because you can. It's much more satisfying to wait and research and spend a few months pining over a certain doll and know for sure that it's the one you want before buying. Yes you can always sell dolls you decide not to keep, but you usually do end up losing $$ in the process.

 

Yeahhhhh, I'm bad for this. Especially with their clothes and wigs it seems. Everytime I put a large Dollheart order on layaway, something comes up a week later out of the blue. My impulse buy dolls are all headed out at the moment though, and I'm gonna try and give it at least a month between seeing a doll and buying it, just to see if I still want them as bad or not.

 

Now that I've bought and paid for a doll from Soom, I think I may go with layaway from now on--and try to avoid limited-edition dolls unless there's a Spend X, Get This Doll Free offer on. I honestly don't think I (or my paycheck) could handle too many dolls, though--I'm even downsizing my Monster High collection because there are just too many of them for me to handle.

Plus, tinies don't take as much shelf space as bigger dolls, which is one reason why I love them.

 

As of now, I can't so much talk about my ''spending habits'' in regards to the BJD hobby, considering I have only ever bought one doll; My first, a few weeks ago. But I did do it on somewhat an impulse. I had been looking at them and finding them beautiful, wanting to buy one forever but the actual purchase was an impulse. I did not particularly have the money to spend lightly, and although the doll price would be considered one of the ''cheapest'' on the market, it did end up costing a lot more with all the clothes and ''necessities'' such as wig and eyes, and all that stuff. It wasn't exactly the ''right time'' either to be spending a big amount like that since we're going in vacation next week, so I actually SHOULD have put tthat money towards this instead.

I'm very happy with my doll and don't regret buying her as such, but I do think back and know that I didn't choose the right time to go on with the purchase. I'm also a bit worried about my future in the hobby, as my boyfriend didn't ask YET how much do these dolls costs...And he probably doesn't know that it will most likely end up in me getting more than one...
We'll see, time will tell I guess.

On another end, I'm really happy that I have her, and that have actually bought her before my vacation because it now allows me to bring her along and the possibilities for pictures will be fantastic!

 

I can understand your fear when you still live with your parents. But if they get angry you can always try and tell them that:"Hey, atleast I'm not doing drugs!"

 

I always feel like I shouldn't buy... I'm just not used to the idea of spending so much on anything that isn't absolutely necessary and useful...

BUT--I do it anyway! I'm weak when it comes to not buying things... (I can still pay bills and all that, but that doesn't mean I should be spending like crazy on dolls!)

 

As my collection gets bigger, so does my guilt for being so into the hobby. My relative said to me recently, "Why don't you try finding more... intellectual pursuits?" It was said in the most kind-hearted way possible... I think it was just one of those things where they said it without really thinking, but it stabbed right into the heart of the festering guilt that seems to be growing larger by the day. Especially because everyone in my family is a scholar/professor/teacher/researcher/ultra-professional. Their idea of a hobby is studying and learning a new language. I just have a desk job that pays the bills and provides enough left over for a bit of fun ^^ While feeling guilty, I do have the "screw you all, I'll do what I want" attitude as well. So when I make my impulse buys, it's pretty much the "screw you" feeling taking over and shoving the guilt aside momentarily. :P

 

This happened to me once regarding a $1200 head. I bought it for the face up, rushed into thinking it was a grail and payed it on layaway. I ended up selling the head and in the end lost money. I definitely should have listened to my inner voice.

Now I am much more careful

 

Yeahhhhh... I'm also pretty bad for this... There are just so many beautiful dolls and so few dollars from my part time job...

 

aaaaaaand I lost the fight... as y'all can tell from my signature

 

I was really close on to buy another Minifee just a few days ago and i couldn't afford it by this time. What i mean with that is that if i bought the doll i wouldn't have enough savings for my future. I always save up a amount of money for my future and if i used that money now it would basically be harder for me if i bought the doll. So i stopped myself and thought of the right thing to do, that i can get this doll when i have enough money for it. I'm glad i didnt buy it by this time, i can get it when i am ready and have the savings for it!

 

Ehehehe, you remember that post I made here 2 days ago? Already broken, I just got an unexpected cheque from my boss and promptly bought a doll with it *headdesk* She IS limited though, but I'm really scrounging for excuses at this point lol. (also debating another doll but noooooo, I need to start being kind to my wallet TT.TT)

 

Hahh I'm standing in that sorta situation right now.. I recently got my first doll and I already want another but I really can't afford it at this time. Even so my 'hnnng' side is winning over my 'please be reasonable' side

 

This is me. I have little fights with myself for weeks over spending money and slowly the rational part of me starts getting muffled. Just yesterday I talked myself out of a doll and then proceeded put on offer on it this morning that I now regret I wish I could just make up my mind!