Do you feel alone in the hobby? (even with the forum)

Oh yeah, even though I don't own one yet just looking at them makes me feel lonely, like you, I live in a pretty small town and even if there were doll meets here I probably wouldn't go because I'm SUPER SHY!! its strange really to feel lonely in a hobby but too afraid to say anything about it to even your closest friends... I'm pretty much caging myself in. I wouldn't mind going on youtube or something like that with is weird but the fact that someone I know might find out is scary especially as a 15 year old highschooler!

 

I recently ordered my first doll and have to say I'm feeling a little bit lonely. My husband is fine with me buying them but doesn't want to talk about them because he's not interested in them. I plan on taking mine to conventions but it would be great to have someone else take theirs too so I'm not by myself. If they weren't so expensive I'd buy my mom one so she could take hers. She can't wait for me to get mine and enjoys talking about him but she doesn't know anything about them so yeah, feeling lonely.

I don't think there's very many collectors here in Pennsylvania.

 

I do! I wish I could share my enthousiasm with someone in real life right now. I've tried explaining the whole concept of it to friends but it's not really working >_< when I get my doll(s), I'd like to go to a meeting! let's hope I'll have the courage to go.

 

None of my friends are that interested in BJDs so sometimes I do feel kind of alone with no one to gush about my dolly feels to, but I still really enjoy the hobby, especially with such a large internet community.

 

Erm...yes and no.
On the one hand, the internet and many, many forums like this exist. On the other-I find myself spending more time looking at them than talking about them.

 

Oh I definitely get lonely. None of my friends irl are into dolls and I haven't really seen any scottish owners around online. If there was a meetup in my country it'd likely be in glasgow or edinburgh and they're both too far away for me to get to alone. That's why I joined DoA and dollaholics, I wanted to at least find some owners online I could chat to about dolls, but DoA is so big it can be hard to really get to know anyone. I'm still new though, so I'm not going to get discouraged just yet ;p

 

I absolutely agree! This hobby is pretty lonely except for the online forum, as most people don't generally understand our hobby. The internet it what really makes this hobby less lonely. I felt pretty alone before my DoA days, as none of my friends really get excited about my dolls like I would :P

 

Well there's no doll meets in my area,and conventions are too far for me to go to.So yeah it does feel pretty lonely but I think its fine with the online community.

 

Yeah, I feel really lonely because theres just no one around my area that likes bjds....I live in the middle of farm country so the only thing people are into is outdoor activites and getting drunk. It just makes me feel really lonely and weird.

 

Well, I don't feel lonely about it because I don't have any friends! I never have had. When I was a kid we moved so much and I was shy so kinda hard to figure out the "being social" thing. I'm sort of reclusive but I'm happy with chatting every now and again on this forum about my BJDs. I'm alone but not lonely, I am comfortable by myself and stuff. I'm actually happy I found BJDs though because it gives me yet another tool in my arsenal to never be bored.

also, so far everyone on here seems kind and nonjudgmental and are eager to help. Friendly awesome people

 

Sometimes. My family and my friend don't know I have a bjd. I can't talk to them about this hobby. No one in my area have bjd. So I jonted forums and groups about bjd and share interests.

 

I get kinda lonely. I had a friend to hang out with at doll it up but then I moved to a different state and I still don't know anyone. My husband listens to my doll rants sometimes to be supportive but its very obvious its not out of interest so it kinda gets me wishing I knew people.

 

Yes, as single guy in Korea, I feel pretty alone in this hobby. It might be the reason why I haven't bought a doll yet. I'm trying to get over that, I'm new (again) to this forum after not going on in a long time, I have a rekindled interest in the hobby but I'm still learning, and I'm shy. Maybe one day I'll find people in my country who won't judge me, but for now I feel sort of isolated.

 

[MENTION=59504]Soliloquyy[/MENTION] I'm sorry you feel that way! I've heard of doll-centric places and cafes in Korea... are you worried at feeling judged by ordinary people because of your dolls, or are you worried at feeling judged by doll people because you are a guy? I only ask, because I am unsure what the reception of males in the BJD community are in other countries. They seem pretty well-accepted in the U.S., but that might just be my perception.

Either way, BJDs are both a personal hobby and a social hobby. You can definitely enjoy the personal aspect on your own, and as for the social aspect, that's what the internet and DoA is for :]!

 

It's kind of a mix of both. Korea is not as open to things that aren't the norm as say the USA and even Japan are starting to become (in my opinion) . I'm also extremely shy about certain things, the only person who knows I like dolls is my sister. I'm afraid that people will question my sexuality (they do anyways now), and think differently about me. I know it's a silly fear, but it is a big one I have, not just about liking the dolls but the whole big picture.

I am going to try and start out small and private with dolls, but having open minded nonjudgmental people here on DoA is really helping me open up more to the hobby. Thank you for responding to me!

 

I feel sorry for you who felt alone in this hobby. *hug to you all.* I have my sister who is also into this hobby and we have each other.

My friends here in Sweden are "non BJD people", i dont know a person irl that enjoys BJD's more than my sister.
I have wonderful dollie friends overseas and that makes me feel that i am not alone!

 

Yes, I do feel alone in hobby but that's just because I haven't made any friends yet. I'm hoping that I can get my best friend into this Hobbes so I have someone to discuss these beautiful dolls with!

 

i feel alone in this hobby too. im new to the hobby and site and don't know a lot of people with this interest online and no one i know likes this hobby where i am. i feel as though im the only person in adelaide who likes BJD...oh well, this is never going to stop me from being a part of the hobby

 

I know your feels. Living in a little town in the middle of Nowhere, Kentucky (in the South, no less) is agonizing for a BJD enthusiasts. I've been speaking to someone who lives in my state about meetups and that makes me feel okay, but with my limited means of transportation, I don't know if I'll meet them. I've got a friend who really seems into the idea, but she's really against the price tags and is interested in recasts for the cheapness.

 

[MENTION=59504]Soliloquyy[/MENTION] that's what I've heard also, though I wouldn't really know. I'm glad that we're all helping you open up! Some people might say things like "who cares what anyone else thinks," but I think it's totally understandable that societal pressures to fit in are stronger in some places than others. I think the key is to understand that there will be people who don't get it, but to not be AFRAID of them. Just relax, chat with people online, and totally find a friend in the hobby not only through forums, but also with your sister! I think having a family member that also likes dolls is rarer than you'd think, and it's a real blessing to have one on your side ^_^!