I met a Fashion Doll repaint artist recently (I know it sounds OT, but I'm getting to it), and although it was quite by accident that we met, we hit it off quite fast. I mentioned collecting ABJD's and we began to talk in earnest about doll collecting. We were heavily into a conversation about the impact beautiful dolls have in our lives, and what she said to me, struck a cord. The gears haven't quite stopped turning. ^^;; She told me that Glamour - though enticing, was something that she was never going to be able to achieve on her own. Life had made it so she wasn't 36-24-36 with a face like Grace Kelly - and although she wasn't disatisfied with her appearance, she wasn't ready to throw in the towel, either. So in her need to be a part of something beautiful, she began to do repaints as a way of making her a part of a world that hadn't quite accepted Her. The dolls - being a creative extension of herself, ARE beautiful and therefore make her FEEL more beautiful. And that in itself, made me wonder about myself and others. Do you feel that you 'and/or' others around you are using ABJD's to compensate for something you don't have IRL? Maybe it's beauty, style, youth, experience, sex appeal, a perfect figure, fantasy (vampires, elves, etc.), a childhood you didn't experience, a character you needed to have 'come alive', or maybe it's just something as simple as owning dolls of the opposite sex and living vicariously through them. I asked a few of the people around me, and although some of them were open with their answers, others felt my question was taboo. That surprised me so much, I felt would make a good debate here. I really hope this doesn't get locked. I sincerely want to hear everyone's thoughts, and include my own - if its allowed. ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ I'll also answer my own question, if it helps to understand it better. And please forgive the way I word things. The point of this thread - is NOT to say whether or not we buy dolls because we're ugly, old, or deformed. It's to see whether or not you liked something about the dolls you own, that you yourself had at one point, or never had. ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ • Do you feel that you 'and/or' others around you are using ABJD's to compensate for something you lack in your life? Yes and no. ^__^;; Many of my dolls have fun fantasy based storylines, some have less conventional looks and personalities. I'm not a cybernetic being, playboy, muse, pagan, wizard or dictator in real life. But I had an impulsive need to create characters for my dolls, that are different than me. Their looks, personalities, their loves, hates and quirks ~ aren't mine. But learning about them, helps me learn more about myself - and I even end up temporarily developing some of their individual interests, because of it. The characters I create for my dolls, in the end, are all something I am not or cannot be in real life. But it's nice to come home when I'm exhausted from work, and know that by playing with my dolls, and giving them 'lives', part of me can live vicariously through my concepts and depictions of them.