Dolls and money: guilt trips over spending?

haha I'm currently going through buyer's remorse over a BBB Sprite. ^^;; I'll get over it, eventually, I just feel bad spending over $100 on anything, not just BJDs, no matter how much I like them. Doesn't make any sense, I know. ><

 

I get some buyers guilt over my dolls.

When i ordered from Dollmore for my GO, I got a *lot* of stuff myself. I felt bad. That's money that coould go towards a newer car, some new clothes for myself, something nice for my cats, a better cage for my hamster, the list goes on and on.

Same with when I bought my DZ. Or any dollie purchase. Or my tattoos. Or anything else I do that's expensive.

But the thing is, I love this hobby. It's like MichealMicheal said, you can't go through life doing nothing that makes you happy. If the dollies make you happy, go ahead and splurge. As long as you got the stuff you need paid up for (food, bills etc), then go ahead!

 

Life is short, do what you love and do it often. Everyone must live in his or her own reality and as long as you have the means to make yourself happy without hurting those whom you love and depend on you then I say do it! Everybody respects a martyr but nobody likes them. ( not actually true but an appropriate quote all the same?).

 

Lulz, ever heard of dumpster diving? Half of the crap in my parents house has been found on the side of the road, in a dumpster. Tvs, dressers, clothes, food, everything.

Did you know that when big stores throw away something, they make it unusable first? Like Barnes and Noble. If they have to throw away a book, they put huge slashed all through it and tear off the cover, so no one else can get it. They destroy a completely good book that they're just throwing away instead of donating it or something.

Believe it or not, the best cookies I've ever had in my entire life were out of a dumpster. (Wrapped individually in foil and then in a big plastic bag, calm down)
So yeah, it pisses me off when people don't appreciate what they have.

 

im new to this hobby, and i am really stuggling to bring myself to spend the money to get a doll... i really want one, but my boyfriend gives me greif, says its for kids, yadda yadda yadda... but i like what you have said, if it makes you happy, why not?

 

I am a 45 year old man, so embarassment is more of an issue; but I didn't tell my partner how much I spent on my Elfdoll.

I would feel guilty spending money on doll clothes right now, and would rather buy a dress for one of my nieces.

 

I'm 17 and a student so my only real income is that I earn from making dolls to sell (not BJDs, but baby dolls).

I think I justify the spending on dolls to myself by saying that "any money I spend on dolls was earned by making dolls".
I like to think I have quite strong morals and I try to do my bit to help and regularly volunteer in charity shops - even
try to rope a few friends in to volunteer too. I'm currently doing 12 hours a week.I also usually run a 'charity' auction
for a doll I've made every few months, and all the profits of this go to charity. I don't think I do this out of fear of feeling
guilty otherwise, but more because I just love to feel I am helping in whatever small way I can.

Having said this, I don't think anyone should feel guilty about spending their own money on something they enjoy, as long
as they're not getting into debt and are paying their bills. After all, if I bought something, but felt guilty about spending the money...
no matter how much I loved it, I could never really enjoy it with my conscience nagging me about it. And that's the sort of thing that'll
keep me up at 3AM in the morning.

 

Yeah, I;ve gotten the Sard...I am so over the guilt!​

 

I guilt trip myself everyday since I haven't bought any of my stuff for the dolls except my Bobobie Isabella, Mei was a gift for my birthday but I feel terrible about asking for her and then my Dollzone Yuu because my parents have enough to buy for the house and they still buy the dolls. I quit asking for dolls yet the still buy them for me when I say I'll figure out the money for myself eventually, it's just a thing where if I bought them myself I'd be less likely to feel guilty over the price but I rarely buy my own dolls stuff...

 

My insides are churning just thinking about eventually having to drop $200 on my first doll, regardless of how cute she is and how much I want her.

 

I'm going through a guilt trip right now >_< I just ordered a MNF Luka and its killing me.
I got permission to buy her only if my DOD girl was sold, I thought I had a buyer, and they backed out, so now I'm going through a guilt trip because I bought my dolly without pulling through with selling the other one =(

I'm sure this guilt will go away once the DOD sells, and I really hope it does before my Luka arrives home >_<

 

No. Never.
Money comes into me in endless piles, and I spend it fearlessly because I know more is coming in.

 

I do feel guilty about spending a lot of money all the time... Esp. those $100 jeans the other day... I should've saved up for a BJD!! But yeah, usually my remorse is "Damn, with just X dollars I could save on these clothes, I could finally buy that Y I always wanted."

What matters is your happiness. If you worked hard for your money, why should you give it all away? I'm not saying don't donate, you should donate some, esp. if you're so concious about it. But donating all of your spare money is unreal =/ No one does that... even those rich people that give large sums of money, they only do it because they have more =o

 

i always spend alot of money and i cant help it when ever i have money i need to spend

 

This is so off-topic, but I wanted to just say: that's standard procedure for book stores because they're returning the extra books to the publisher to be destroyed (and in some cases, recycled).

As annoying as it is that perfectly good items are destroyed regularly instead of donated, a capitalistic society with litigation-happy citizens can expect little else.

On the topic of guilt: I am spoiled, and I have been all my life, so spending money only makes me feel guilty if I only liked something instead of loved it. My father has always said that we make money to spend it, and I am a firm believer in taking as much pleasure out of life as I can. Of course, while being thankful for what I have, I always try to remember those less fortunate and donate to reputable charities.

 

I'm a pampered princess but i only spend/over spend my allowance or any money i have on my hobbies. Clothes, perfumes, shoes and the like i don't care. I last more than a year w/o buying new clothes. In fact i only buy clothes if needed. I also save a certain portion of the money i have for future use like emergencies. So all in all, i don't really feel guilty about it. I know that a lot of people are in a deep need for money but if those people keep on relying on those who donate to them, nothing good will come out of it. The people who donate will not always have money or anything to donate. :3

 

I sometimes get a guilt trip when I have spend a lot of hard earned money on a doll, that I MAYBE do not even like ><
I have been spoiled a little, but still I know where money come from and that you have to work to get them. After ordering a doll I often think about how I could have spend the money differently, like on a new computer that a actually need or a better camera that the whole family could use. Some times I think about giving my GF some money from 'doll savings' just to help her out, because she does not live at home and cannot get a job x'3
But I also remember, like other members said, that you only live once, and sometimes you are allowed to spoil yourself with a cute doll

 

I did feel bad about dropping over $400+ for my Meigi-2 an outfit and boots. But after a while I found other things to worry about.

 

Tbh, I rather blow hundreds of dollars on doll stuff then blow it all on designer clothes that aren't exactly as sturdy at they appear. Most of my money is saved for doll things or for college-related things, in which case I have money put aside exclusively for that. I usually don't get guilt tripped over it, but it's more or less most of my friends and family bashing me for using my own saved money on something as 'worthless' (to them!) as a doll.
I find my dolls halfway an investment, and I enjoy them, so I think I shouldn't be guilty about blowing money for them. If people would back off--I always ask if they'd rather the money be spent on drugs--I might not have buyer's remorse 50 percent of the time. =_=

 

Personally I hate going to any form of doll meet.
I've been to one, and the experience for me was to sit around with like five other girls brag about how they have the money to drop on ten dolls and still plan to buy more. Just because their parents have the money.
At times selfish people like that make me regret even owning a dollfie.