Dolls For Christmas

I have received dolls and or other items for Christmas presents. My mother bought me an MSD last year and my husband has bought me clothes and other small dollie goods before for the holidays. My family is pretty supportive and I think it is because I have always funded my own doll habit since I was an adult (the past 10 years) and I have collected dolls my whole life. Thus, they know it is not a phase, it is just my thing. My family likes for others to prove they can do things for themselves...if I had never bought or paid for my own doll stuff I do not think they would be as supportive.

PinkPoodle, I hope your family comes around

 

Actually I am getting my second for this Christmas. My dad just gave me money and I told him I´d like to get a doll. He was like : Again? You sure? Whatever. My mum doesn´t know yet but I am sure she would be against it. She doesn´t understand my hobby at all. But anyway I am payin like half the doll myself. I can´t think of anything else I want so...

 

Hmm. I guess I'm pretty lucky then. My family, friends and even my therapist support my doll hobby 100%. We just moved to a new house and my parents are doing everything they can to make room for my dolls and their stuff. It's pretty cute :3

I wouldn't ask for a doll for christmas because for me that's too expensive, I'd feel quilty just asking. I buy all my dolls myself, with my own money. I did, however, ask if I could order some clothes for my new boy. I expected my parents to say that it's too much of a hassle but no, they didn't mind at all. My mom said that my gifts should be something I really want so she'd be happy to get me doll stuff. Aww.. :3 I kind of expected something like that, but my dad was the one who really surprised me. Here's how our conversation went:

Me: hey.. I've been thinking.. could I get some doll stuff for christmas?
Dad: sure, I'll give you $100, just order whatever you want.
Me: O_O
Dad: *in a casual, kind tone* what, do you need more?
Me: NO! It's just so.. much!

I was overwhelmed. I'm probably not going to spend that much money though, I'd feel like too greedy. I like to get many small gifts for christmas rather than a one or two bigger ones ^__^ I just love unwrapping the packages.

EDIT// I really don't understand how some people can be so against these dolls. I mean sure, they're expensive, but so are other hobbies. My parents (and therapist!) are always saying how important it is for me to use my creative side and they're really glad that I found these dolls. They actually encourage my doll hobby and help me with doll related stuff like sewing and buy me things that I need for photostories. I always talk to my mom about my plans for the dolls and she does everything she can to make me feel less quilty about spending all that money. I think everyone should have that kind of support.

 

Then tell them thanks but you'd rather not have anything if the alternative is them wasting their money on something you don't want.

If they don't get your hobby, they don't get it - that doesn't excuse them being so selfish that they want to manipulate you away from enjoying it because it isn't something *they* would do. And I'm sorry but asking you what you want but not getting it because it isn't something they want *is* blatantly selfish maipulation.

Teddy

EDITED TO ADD: Ooops! My appologies!. I just re-read this reply and it comes across like I'm telling you what to do. Sorry - it wasn't meant like that. Just saying what I'd do in your situation. Teddy

 

My brother mentioned to me the other day that he had looked into getting me a doll for christmas (he doesnt know anything about them) But when he looked them up online they where too expensive, I dont blame him we never spend much more that £50 on each other. But it was realy sweet of him to think of it because he knows I like them so much.
But I am getting one with money my parents gave me to get what I wanted, they dont realy get the doll thing but they know its what I wanted and are happy with that.

 

yes, i'm getting my dream doll for christmas. :--D
i'm blessed with uh.. free parents? they're very loose about money. .m.
if i ask for something (which i usually feel guilty doing) i usually get it at some point or another, even if i only ask once and say, 'but it's okay if you don't.'
i nearly died when they said 'oh sure' about helping me get Berlin~ and clothes.. ;u; and eyes and wig and so on so forth OTL;;;; and then my mom goes on to heap on a mp3 player and auuuuu

no more please~~ uuuu

 

I am lucky, everyone around me has gotten me doll stuff for Christmas, my partner and best friend got me my Bera, another friend got me clothes for my new girl, mother went in on buying my new Dollmore LE, so I am having a VERY dolly christmas

 

I feel soooo lucky. My family has been in a rather crappy financial situation for years, I didn't even get a card on my 17th birthday last january. But now we've moved, and my parents have good jobs, and everything is turning out roses.

So my mom has a fit of giggles and says to my sister and I:

"You each get two presents this year. An ipod touch and ANY one doll you want!"

*FAINTS*

So my sister is getting a DollMore Kara Klum with ALL the options (faceup/bluching/sanding, which is quite and expensive and hefty doll for a ten year old!) and I'm getting a Resinsoul An with lots of clothes and shoes and wigs and eyes!!!!!

 

Both my DOTs have been Christmas presents from my parents. I have to pay for shipping, eyes, wigs, faceups, and whatever else I feel I need- but my parents purchase the doll itself... They know the dolls make me happy and they're really all I ask for~

 

Hmmmmmmnope. Not gonna happen. Ever. I'm used to it at this point. XD

My family has -never- been big on my hobbies. I've loved anime for years, but my parents and sisters find it laughable and dumb. One birthday, Mom asked me to give her a list of what I wanted, and I made sure everything on there was anime-related, with directions on how to purchase each thing - just as a test. Know what I got that year? A membership to the Audobon Society, a pair of binoculars, and a brochure on local birding tours. Totally related, I know. Did I mention that I have never once in my life expressed interest in birding?

If my love for anime only merits a shake of the head and a sigh from them and can still lead them to reacting so negatively for gift requests like that...no way. They actively dislike my dolls, so I'm never going to try asking for doll stuff. It's not worth the pain.

Course, this was going to be a dry present year anyways. I got nothing for my 21st birthday except for a call to say my grandmother was dead and I needed to buy myself some cross-country plane tickets on last second notice for the funeral, and instead of Christmas presents I get to fly my roommate down to stay with me over the break. But still. Hypothetically, if I -were- getting presents, I still wouldn't ask for doll stuff. :B

And even if my parents liked them, I'd still never ask for a doll. Maybe doll clothes or accessories or whatnot, but not a doll itself. That's a bit too pricey for me to justify.

 

No; I'm a grownup, I earn lotsa money, I buy my own dolls. I never bother asking for anything for any of my hobbies for Christmas - the family wouldn't know where to shop for it, or what specifically to get - it's all too esoteric for them. So instead I only ask them for stuff I need around the house. Throughout the year, I'll happily drop $1400 on a circus strongman or $45 on a pair of tiny studded leather boots... yet I still don't own a garlic-press or a teakettle. So I ask for stuff like that. Stuff that the family can easily wrap their heads around.

But usually I end up with a handful of scented candles, soaps, and Amazon gift-cards, anyway. This is one of the side-effects of being a 40-year-old woman, you get a lot of candles and soaps. But the gift cards are just fine by me-- because then my hard-earned doll-money doesn't have to get spent on supporting my book habit (or my cravings for trashy manga).


Worst case scenario is always Aunt Donna, though. "You still like to wear a lot of black, right? So I did something different this year..." And behold: The ill-fitting lumpy-acrylic black sweater with rhinestone trim and snowflake appliques. The Aunt Donnas of this world are why it's so dangerous to ask the uninitiated for "doll stuff"-- you run the risk of receiving baby-dolls or porcelain-dolls or plastic imitation-Barbies from WalMart or American Girls or something that couldn't be further away from the BJD world. Your own personal Aunt Donna may not be named Donna, per se, but every family has one.

 

ROFLMAO! JennyNemesis, that is so true it is hilarious. Mine is my grandmother, who in my nearly 40 years, has still not sure has figured out yet that I'm allergic to pink. And anything for me should be in black, black, or black. No ruffles, bows, or furbelows in sight.

None of my family (or my husband's since he has his own doll) know of our dolls and we plan to keep it that way since both my and my DH's families seem to think they have a right to know and meddle in our finances and every other detail of our lives. Sigh. We now live in a separate country from them, so happily accept cheques as gifts (they gave up trying to ship things) and use it for our desired ends and lie through our teeth when telling them what we used it for. LOL!

I am the luckiest of women, when I finally found my dream boy doll, my DH said "of course you have to have it" and offered up his christmas cheque to cover the rest of the cost of him. So I'm finally getting a RealSkin Iplehouse Ryushin and really can't wait.

 

Interesting that so many adults have families not involved in their hobbies. My husband and mother like to get me things I am most interested in. On the same token, my mother collects antiques and I get her stuff for her hobby. Another example is my husband plays guitar and I get him musical stuff. My grandparents are into bird watching, I get them stuff for that. However, not all of my family is like that. Frankly, I usually don't ask for anything doll related, it is offered to me by those interested in my hobby. The rest of my family will just get me what they please or I ask for simple inexpensive items that are not hard to shop for.

This is really interesting to read. In a way it shows family dynamics. Good discussion! ^_^

 

Last Christmas I was saving for Alice, I had almost half of her cost. My mom knew how much I loved my first girl, so for Christmas she paid the rest of Alice's cost. So I did get a doll for Christmas (Which is why I made her birthday December 25th, even though that isn't the day she came).

My real-life friend did the same thing you did with your family. She wanted a body for her floating head, they all thought she was crazy and she didn't get the body. Poor girl is still floating.

 

i asked for wigs, eyes and a DDE gift card from my family, and my girlfriend went way overboard and bought me a minifee for this Xmas, she accidently let it slip

 

I know that I won't be getting a doll for christmas. I have bought them all myself. I have never got any dolls for a present, I was only given giftcards which I used to buy them.