Dolls For Christmas

I think the main reason my parents are so generous over my doll hobby is that I grew up riding horses, I LOVED them, and every gift went on horse stuff. In 2000 I had a car accident, and now I can't ride, I injured my spine and left hip. Instead I ride motorcycles. My parents used to spend everything for me on horse stuff, now it is doll stuff, I think they are thankful that I want this less dangerous hobby rather than horses or motorcycles.

On top of that I now live in a different continent so they really cannot buy me clothes (yeah 118 where they are -22 where I am ) and really know very little else except that I am obsessed with dolls.....

I suppose it could be worse, and they are just glad their other son is "normal" he wants golf clubs.

 

Golf. Now that's weird.
I know my Mom was always supportive because when I was a kid (although I was a girl, it's true) she loved buying me "good" ie. Kathe Kruse, MA and so on, dolls. She also loved antique dolls, I still have some that she bought me then. I was taught that some dolls were for playing with and some for just gentle handling, and I teach my own daughters the same. That's why their Barbies look like they've gone through the wars and their Ellowynes are perfect, ha ha.
My husband supports my hobby because first he is a decent person who does not have control issues, and he knows that they are a part of my art.

Christmas is big in my house, and I always try to get the kids what they want. And the grown ups. Unless it's a pony. In that case it would have to be "My Little Pony, I'm Not Cleaning Up After"

 

I could ask my daughter for anything (her tastes are as weird as mine...) but cost would be the deciding factor. I might ask for a specific pair of shoes, say, or something doll-related I saw on eBay, but a doll would be waaaaay too expensive to ask for.

 

I could ask till my face turned blue, never would get a doll for Christmas or any other reason unless I buy it myself.

My mother wouldn't mind spending a large amount on me but dolls are out of the question. When ever she refers to my dolls she calls them "those dolls" so..nope. And my bf has an obsession with getting me DVDs for birthday, mother's day and christmas...go figure.

 

The doll I got as a Christmas present from my hubby last year was also a LTF Shiwoo. He fell in love with the photos of the little one (and insisted that this is the doll he wants to give me) and made me a Christmas card with photos, since the order for the little one was placed in December. I got him finally in March.

 

i've bought my girlfriend a Unidoll UH-21 for christmas, she was her dream doll so as soon as they were re-released, i had to get her one. she's the biggest box under the christmas tree!

i myself haven't had a doll for christmas, maybe i will be lucky in the future.

 

When I first entered the hobby, my first few dolls were Christmas or birthday presents, but all but a few of my dolls I've purchased on my own. Now that I'm financially independent, I still get things like that for presents. This year, my father is buying me a Volks Nana and I couldn't be happier. She and my Unoss (a gift from my mother) will always have more sentimental value than some of my other dolls because of the fact that they were thoughtful gifts.

So...yes, I have asked, and received!

 

@PinkPoodle: Fortunately, I've given my fiancee some time to get used to my "weirdness", so the doll hobby wasn't a surprise to him, lol. Maybe there's a doll out there that your husband will think is really cool looking and it will change his perception a little bit. (There's always hope ^_^)

@prettyhatemachine That is so kind of you. It's nice that both partners in the relationship are in the hobby. Do you two share doll clothes and such? It must be so much fun

 

I'm VERY picky about what I get for christmas. I find all the presents that I want then give my parents a list and they go buy it for me. My parents are indiffrent towards my dollie obession, my mom still does the "That's a guy?!" alot though. I would never ask anyone expect my parents or a very close friend to get me anything doll related, it's too much of a hassle.

 

I'm getting my first doll (DOC Homme Kirill) this Christmas, but I have to put in lots of money myself as the money I'll be receiving from family and friends doesn't completely cover the price.

I've been very interested in BJDs for about half a year now, so my parents were expecting me to ask for a doll for Christmas. The only complaint my mother had was that it 'wasn't like a traditional gift,' when you don't know about the present beforehand, but then again, I had to be involved with ordering things, as my parents are completely clueless...

 

Impossible for me to ask dolls for christmas, if my family knew about the rate I paid for my Lati dolls they would think I'm crazy !!!!

 

Yes i ahve asked for dolls this christmas. not SD or anything large an expensive. My parents usually buy me a main pressent then maybe a fe little ones for my main present I'm getting a 27cm obistu with outfit etc.

However a couple of days ago i spotted a DZ leo on the second hand market. (A dolls I fell in love with, i realised it was the default face up that had first ptu me off him XD) My grandparents have been asking what i want for quiet sometime and all I could think of was money to go towrds a new doll off my wishlist or a bit cosplay i have planned and in the making. I talked ot my mum about it and she a bit off the idea as it was from the second hand market. I can undrstand her not being very trusting of the secon hand market tbh but not everyone is out to scam you. After a talk wiht my grandparents and mum and more messages between me and the seller we hve decided that it would be ok ^^ i will just need a new S'hook for the beauty ^^

Most of the time my mum seems a bit off spending a lot of money on dolls but she accepts that this is something I enjoy and will take care of.

 

i have multiple reactions from different people with varying replies but same distaste for my obsesseion...

Mom "... this is a lot of money and you need to save it for college or living next year, i know you want to move out. just think it through more."

Dad "how much is the doll? ... theres more than one you want?! huh well, tell everyone and hope they try to get you that or help with it.. you already know what your getting from us."

Step-dad "ill help you get it but i dont want you to be left with no money while in college or working. one way or another just dont be stupid."

Step-mother " what'd ya get me for christmas?.. uhh fine dont tell me, what do you want for christmas?.. a doll that cost how much!?. ill think about helping "

Boyfriend "I think your getting a little too obsessed with this. its a lot of money and you should think it through more. figure out if you really want to spend this much."

they dont tend to realize i want them all to chip in and help me buy it not pay for it all up front alone or that they could give me money -_- but my family isnt the brightest.... so yeah.

 

I feel very lucky. My wife Romana (I'm female too, if I need to specify!) doesn't "do" dolls except for Princess Snugglepot, her Brownie, but she has soft toys and she understands. There is the most incredibly beautiful dark tan Angelsdoll Jin waiting on top of the wardrobe for me - and she helps me plan my dolls and takes me to buy fabric and supplies. She's a darling. Sprite and Verity and Nu Kwa were gifts from her, too, and I love them all the more for that.

And my mother just promised me a CustomHouse tiny doll in the sale - I want to take her as a combined birthday/Christmas present, though, I don't feel comfortable with her spending so much. She doesn't like bjds, but she understands that I love dolls - she gave me a gorgeous reborn twins kit last birthday - and wants to get me something I'll really love rather than something she approves of. (Although she does think my BBB Isabella is cute - so maybe!)

 

its my birthday on the 21st and then 4 days later its christmas and since my birthdays 8 days away my dads asking me what i want for my 18th and i swear ive got dollfever cos the only thing i can think of is either an AOD chi or afra...but i doubt he would be able to aford it...altho my boyfriend wass nice enuff to get me an iplehouse ryushin for birthday and christmas...

 

Last year, my mom 'n dad got me Puhari for Christmas, when I had only asked for Giftcards to DDE so I could get him myself when I'd saved up enough. : D;; My parents have always encouraged us to get into the things we like, so they haven't protested too much 'cause I use my own money. I've jokingly said that I wanted to rally all of the family members and have them all pitch in on getting me one doll for Christmas or something, but I wasn't really serious. XD;;

My family goes insane this time of year... D: They encourage us to be extra selfish, but at the same time, frown when we ask for expensive things?-shrug- I told my mom I didn't have a Christmas list this year, rather a list of things people could donate funds to. XD;;;-cough- Anyway, going off topic....

Usually if I want something I'll find the cheapest thing I can find that I actually do enjoy and want, and then offer it up. >: I always tell them that these are things I would LIKE to have, not things that I NEED to have, and so they shouldn't worry about it. ^^;; My parents always go overboard anyway.-shakes head-

 

I hinted to my mom that I'd like some money to help get my doll, but she told me that my hobby and christmas gifts shouldn't mix together. She understands that the doll means alot to me, but she sees it as what it is; a hobby. To her, for this hobby to be meaningful and worthwhile for me I have to get everything myself with my hard-earned money. And I have to say that I agree with her. Knowing that I've worked hard to get the money for my doll and succeeded in bringing her home is going to be so much more satisfying than getting someone to pay for her.

 

I have to buy all my doll things on my own. It's a personal hobby, so it's okay by me.

My family is big on practical gifts. I might get one or two things that aren't practical, like a movie or candy, but for the most part the things that are given are only clothing, kitchen things, grocery gift cards, school supplies, etc. Things that have a day-to-day use and that are 'needed'.

My mother even told me flat-out once that the reason she gives me grocery gift cards instead of cash is because she didn't want me to 'spend it on dolls'. To me that's perfectly fine. In fact I encourage my relatives to give me grocery gift cards! When they do I get to eat better that month, or the money I originally had slated for food goes into the fun jar, which ends up going to videogames or dolls, the things they refuse to buy me anyway ;D

It's their choice what they want to gift you really. Sure, you can give suggestions and let them know what you like, but in the end it's up to them. They want to give something that they believe is worthwhile, and to a lot of people a hobby is something frivolous, or something that has more worth if pursued on one's own.

I suggest asking for something you need, that you yourself would be spending money on in the future, and then just use the money you would have spent on that 'practical thing' you needed and put it into the doll fund. That way, in a roundabout way, you're getting what you want as well as what you need, and the gift giver doesn't feel like the money is being wasted