Ever felt guilty for having 'more dolls' than someone else?

Yes, sometimes I feel a bit awkward when discussing my collection. It's become really prevalent as Soom has done more Free Choice Events. I've been lucky enough to be able to get two full dolls with each of Soom's Super Gem events (6 dolls total), and with this latest event I've even been able to split for an extra head, too. And it does feel kind of crummy posting about how excited I am to finally be bringing home X, Y and Z characters while other people are posting about how they're going to have to pass because it's a bad time for them financially. It comes up when discussing which dolls people are buying, as well. I already own MD versions of a lot of dolls offered in the FCE, so sometimes I'll mention that I'm getting X doll, and someone will say something like "Oh yes, I had trouble choosing between X doll and Y doll" and I say something like "oh, yes, Y doll is lovely! I already own her, so I didn't consider getting her in this event" without thinking and then feel bad about it.

It's a shame, because I wouldn't blame people if they mistook it for showing off, but it's honestly just because I love talking about dolls, and I happen to own a lot of them >.< I honestly wish everyone could be as lucky as me and have spare funds available just in time for whatever event they'd love to participate in. The more doll excitement to go around, the better!

 

Yes. My best friend got my into dolls and when I started she had 2. She has 3 now and I have 3 with 3 on the way! Whoops~

 

I guess I feel a little guilty when I think maybe I should have saved for something practical instead (like real life emergency funds). But I don't feel guilty for having more dolls than someone else, because maybe they are just getting started, or they have different goals and priorities. We don't all need to have the same number of dolls as everyone else, that just doesn't make sense!

 

I don't feel bad about it because the way I see it everybody moves at a different pace. There are people with much more dolls than me and I don't feel jealous of them because I'm happy with my own collection. Owning a BJD isn't a competition unless you make it that way.

 

My best friend in this hobby has more dolls than I do and got them in a less amount of time, but hey, she's got a job and I'm jobless-underage. I see it pretty fair, and none of us feel guilty about the quantity of dolls we own

 

Yep, this is how I feel as well! Plus I really enjoy meeting all my friends new dolls & their characters. Very enjoyable

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I have 8 dolls(7 1/2 really) and my sister has 1. xD I had one doll for a LOOONGG time and then my sister finally got herself one and I got my second one shortly after that. Then I wanted to practice faceups so I searched for a cheap head and ended up with a cheap complete doll. xD Then this year I just went crazy and bought five more throughout the year... and another head on the way.

My sister just isn't into the hobby as much as I am. I often buy & make things for her doll, which she does appreciate. She's been to doll meets with me and I believe she truly does love her doll, she just doesn't spend as much time on her as I do my own dolls. But she supports me getting more dolls because she knows how much I love to collect so there's no hard feelings on either side.

 

While I do not have this problem I've noticed on You Tube videos inappropriate comments to BJD owners regarding how much money they spend on their dolls. Remarks such as "you must have a lot of money to have so many dolls".....you're so lucky I wish I was.....how can you afford to have so many dolls.....every time you do a video you have another doll you must be rich & it goes on & on. And these people truly resent the doll owners. I've also seen attacks on collectors for collecting all Volks, etc. It's amazing the way some people talk to others. I love YT box openings. It's like being with my friend sharing the excitement of her new doll. I have NO doll friends except for the ones I've made online. So the bottom line is...........Stop feeling bad about your sister or anyone else. We all choose how we spend our money & obviously she has chosen a different path.
I own 2 BJD's & waiting for my 3rd one to arrive.

 

Hey Stormlight,

Don't feel bad about bringing too many dolls to a doll meet. It gives us the opportunity to see different dolls that we would probably never get to see. If I lived up there I'd tell you to bring them all. I'd even help you carry them to & from the car !!! I wish I lived near by so I could come over to play.

Connie

 

I suppose i can understand how someone with a friend in the hobby who recieved dolls as presents from family might get a bit jelous if they knew they could never ask their family for one as a present beacuse they were less well off. I don't think anyone who worked and saved and scrimped to buy dolls has any reason to feel guilty about it. At the end of the day, as many people have said, it's about your priorities. If you want something enough, you'll always 'find a way'.
I feel very lucky that my boyfriend is so sweet as to pay part towards my first doll. He doesn't have as much savings as i do so at first i felt a little bad about it. But he set the ammount and it's my Yule & birthday present. We always agree on a top limit to spend on these occassions. I've bought him a PSVita off ebay for Yule and have a little left over for a small birthday gift too, so i don't feel guilty anymore. Also, i decided that if there are things (like travelling) that we both want to do, and he can't quite justify paying the necissary ammount, then i'll contribute towards that.
The rest of the money for my girl comes from a mixture of 'part-time job' savings from a while back, and saved up present money. I've been at Uni untill this summer, which i found hard so couldn't manage a job at the same time. I feel a bit bad that i have only worked for a small ammount of the things i own, but i'm young so i guess that's to be expected. Also, i never asked people to buy me things except for birthdays & Yule, and i saved up quite a bit of my 'pocket-money' instead of spending it all as a kid. I've never needed lots of new clothes, CDs or make-up. I also didn't go out anywhere near as much as i expected (and wanted) to at Uni.
Sometimes i feel bad, as i feel like just as i hit the age i'm supposed to be completely responsible and save for future-stuff like a house, family etc.. i've started to be less responsible instead.
My priorities changed. I spent too long living by ideals and trying to 'be a good person'. I'm carefull, not reckless but there are things that i find important that others might not, dolls are now one of them. Saying that, i've recently decided to delay some of my future doll-plans to save the money for a to Korea & Japan that my boyfiend and I have been dreaming of.
Sorry about the rambling, i should probably be asleep lol
In short; don't let others put you down about what you have, just don't rub it in the face of those that are having a tougher time than you. I think those people buying dolls for others who can't afford it are really lovely. =)

 

I don't usually feel bad about it at home (my family aren't really interested in dolls) but I do feel a bit guilty when I post new doll photos on my Deviantart page. I always get comments from people wishing they could someday get one, just one, and here I am posting new photos of a lot of new different arrivals.... which is more or less why I've lessened my doll posts on there. I have other sites now where I post my arrivals (like here for example).

 

I'm the opposite I feel bad when I don't have as many dolls as someone. I do get jealous of a few dolls people have. Mostly I get over it. If someone tells me they want a doll and doesn't have one i will help them try and get one or find other options for them.