Falling out with your dolls? (Un-bonding!)

Yes, this has happened. I got beyond annoyed and frustrated with trying to get the dolls to sit let alone hold a simple pose. They just were there huddled in a jerky pile of fail no matter what I did. Restring, suede...gah! >_< It got to where I could not stand looking at them. They went to their boxes and then many months later the MP. I miss some things about them but am far more glad to be rid of them.

 

Yes, its happened before and just recently.
I was super happy with my Cosmo Dollzone,after a few weeks of having him,I started to dislike him. He was my first SD and didn't really fit in well with the smaller dolls that I had. He also didn't sit very well; his torso would stick out in a weird way-- so I decided to sell him in the end. My other one I'm having a lot of trouble with now is my Illusion Spirit Ardi; he use to be my favorite but he just doesn't fit in with the rest of my bjds. :/ Like other people said, my tastes in dolls sometimes change or I just don't bond with the doll at all.

 

I have. I'm actually going through a major overhaul in my collection right now due to it.

For me, my dolls aren't just pretty figures, they're shells of my role play characters. When a character gets a lot of frequent fun RP, my bond grows. When the character stops getting played frequently, or the RP becomes boring, stressful or frustrating, I lose the bond. Now, I DO have a couple of dolls I love that never get RP. But for most of them, I need that. I've noticed I've been selling or reusing dolls of characters not played recently. It's extremely hard for me to get the bond back once it's gone.

 

I don't believe in "bonding" and have no emotional attachment to my dolls. I buy ones I like and sell ones that I settled on (cheap or impulse buys) I never have a problem doing this.

 

Kind of something like that happened to me. I forgot more or less about my very first doll head. My Leekeworld Lionel head just was stuffed into his box and sat there, doing nothing, after his first body was sold (which I just couldn't stand). As I discovered what I really wanted to do with my dolls, he got unpacked, and shortly after that I purchased a body for him. The time between was somewhat strange. I still really liked his sculpt, but had no motivation to do anything with him. Now and again I put him up for sale and withdrew him again...because on the one hand I still liked him, on the other it was crystal clear that it is very difficult to get another example of this sculpt. And now he even managed to become my avatar picture!

 

I feel this way toward my two SDs I really really used to love them both, but now I just don't like them as much to the point where I'm considering selling both of them and putting it toward a doll that I would hopefully do much more with because I'm just not feeling it anymore

 

My 'grail' doll was a Soom Beryl- I finally got her and now I just... meh. I don't know. I also think I ended up really liking another owners Beryl so much that she's completely THE Beryl now, and I don't really think my own can come close to how much I adore hers. Which is fine with me. ^_^

 

I've never detached from my dolls. I do go through phases of being uninterested in the hobby and doing other things, but that's nothing to do with the dolls themselves and I do still enjoy having them there.

 

I guess I kinda had this happen. I have a doll I really adore. Have adored him from day one. But last year he fell and broke three of his fingers. The fingers glued on really well, almost seamless but it really bothered me. I contacted the company to see if it was possible to get a replacement hand but all they had left was the gun hand, which was fine. The company gave me the hand for free even minus S&H which I thought was super nice of them! I put the hand on and was happy again. But a month or so later I noticed the gun hand was slightly smaller than the other hand. It was the right size hand but for some reason slightly smaller. The OCDness in me did not like this and it started to bother me again. After ordering a LoongSoul body for a floating head I had, I instantly fell in love with the body. The intended floating head I had in mind did not match resin wise. I had two other floating heads, a Gackt MNM and the sleeping head version of my broken handed doll. I was really surprised how well the size of the head matched with the larger body. The resin on the body was NY and the sleeping head was NP. I matched my Gackt MNM with the LS body but then a week ago decided to order a NP LS body for my troubled doll. Right now I have a love hate relationship with this doll. I LOVE, absolutely adore, his head. And when I look at the body I still love it. It's sculpted beautifully, but after the fall I just can't bring myself to hold on to this body. I put it up for sale and ordered the new body and since then this doll has been in his box in my closet sadly. I can't wait to get his new body because it's killing me to not see him up with the rest of my collection

 

Dittoing this! Sometimes I start out at OMG YOU'RE SO PRETTY OMG and then all of the little mobility issues and bad angles trickle into focus, or I find a doll that works even better for the character because my taste has changed or a company I love just improved their design again.

 

It took me two years to finally figure out my doll's personality and background, and during these two years I felt very disconnected with her. She was hard to sew or buy clothes for, because I didn't know what style to go with and such things. But once I figured her out I suddenly clicked with her out of nowhere, so I guess it's kind of like the opposite. I pretty much never bonded with her and then suddenly it happened.

 

I started to dislike my first doll and packed him away for soo long I forgot about him. I brought him out recently, and even though his face up kind of sucks, I can kind of picture his new look in my head.

 

yeah, I've unbonded with a few of my dolls over the years. I end up selling them. I dunno what triggers it, maybe cos I have changed the look of my collection and they just didn't fit in anymore.

I had one for 5 years, and I sold him in November. Usually they don't last this long, but I grew tired of him. He was my last Luts and I had been trying to get rid of them all, however, he was one of my main characters and my 4th dolls so it was hard. But in the end, I didn't like doing anything with him and it irritated me just to look at him there. I think dolls should be loved, and I didn't love him enough to keep him.

 

I second Nefla. I don't believe in bonding, and my dolls are objets d'art, nothing more. That is not to say I don't enjoy some more than others or that I do not feel as though they are major financial investments, but I treat them like expensive toys, not pets or friends. I guess my dolls are actors, "paid" to be my art muses, stand-ins for characters, or mannequins for clothes. As such, I don't unbond either.

 

I need to have a doll for a good long while before I know if it's for keeps or just a passing fancy - I am very fickle with them I confess, so my newest is always my favourite - then we have a 'honeymoon period' where I squeee every time I see them, then I get used to them being around, then indifferent to them, like they're part of the furniture, then a new doll comes along and I'm in love for the first time all over again LOL - I am terrible! But after a few months I will sometimes have gone off a doll completely and wonder why I bought it - so then I'll box it up for a few months, see if I miss it - take it out for a restyle/new wig etc. and see how I feel after a few weeks with my 'new old doll' - sometimes I feel attached again, and other times I'll think No - I was right boxing you up in the first place, you're not for me!

I don't 'bond' to people or animals though, so I'm hardly going to form a bond with a doll - much as I love pretending they're real, I know they're just plastic really *feels guilty for saying such a thing when there's a doll reading this over my shoulder*

 

I have had the "not bonding" thing happen before. When I first joined the hobby, I have to admit I thought it was an excuse to sell a new doll that just arrived, till it happened to me. Now I know better :/
But I have to say I have never "un-bonded" with a doll I already bonded with.
A long time ago I actually had to sell my Littlefee. I LOVE my Littlefee to bits, but I had been unemployed for 14 months and was interviewing for a job that put me through over a month of jumping through hoops, but it was the only chance I had. My phone was about to be cut off. So I sold my Littlefee to pay the phone bill. I started crying from the moment I posted the FS post. Finally, I got the job. We caught up with life, and as soon as I was able to, I bought the same sculpt again

 

Me and my new girl might be experiencing this, but there wasn't an amazing bond to start with. It's just that everytime I feel we might start to be bonding really well I find something else wrong with her. Then we fall out of 'bond' and I have to change something. I've given her lots of chances I've bought her lots of new eyes and wigs. Her name maybe has to go. Now she needs a new body!
I really think I would miss her if I got rid of her!

Of all the whole dolls I sold, I didn't feel the strong bond I did with some of my others so when we unbonded I felt it was just a realisation that it was never right.

 

I feel like this is happening with my aod boy right now... When I bought him I liked his sculpt, and when I received him I loved him... He was intended to be the boyfriend of Pan, my mnf shushu, and I was really proud of how I worked him into her story (I still like their story a lot)... But then I took a hiatus from the hobby before I finished him and now that I'm back I just don't want to finish him or do anything with him... I hate the wig i had for him because my ex insulted it and I don't feel any motivation to find a new wig for him and get his faceup commissioned or do anything

To make matters worse I'd really like to try to get a luts mdf soul hunter avalanche as soon as one hits the marketplace (if I had the money I'd get one right now... damn him for being limited) to go with Pan, because she has a third eye gore mod and the avalanche is a mature mini with a third eye and I think they would be absolutely perfect together... So it kinda feels like he might take my aod boy's place as Pan's boyfriend in the story

I'm gonna wait it out, I guess... I feel like I'm gonna end up just selling him eventually, but I'll just wait and see if I can sort of rekindle or something...

 

It happens to me A LOT mainly when im planning a new doll or waiting for one to arrive but the worst case was when I got my feeple60 and my other doll was an msd and she was my first doll I felt like I was neglecting her so I put her away in her box for about a month then I sold her a couple of months back and Im glad I did the girl who has her now loves her but I never thought I would sell her I thought it would pass but its the same with my feeple60 I distance myself from the hobby when I get to exited about a new doll but it lasts about a weeek then I wont put her down
But basicly I think its normal in these sorts of hobbies it like a new dog you get it and never leave it alone then you het board but days later you couldnt see your self without it sorry for the blabbering

 

I guess I've been in this hobby for too long (or whatever), because I don't even look at them anymore unless my eyes just happen to fall on them. I honestly don't remember the last time I played with them, either.