I apologize if this has already been discussed in another thread and welcome deletion if the moderators deem it appropriate. Personal Experience that Initiated Thread Idea: Something, well, uncomfortable happened to me the other day and I've been left feeling verrrrrry guilty. I recently sent two dolls for new face-ups and had bought outfits from the previous Dolpa in Kyoto which were waiting for them when they returned. They returned yesterday and I immediately dressed them (I've been waiting months!) and photographed them. Then, as many others do, I shared them on Flickr. For the most part people were positive and I appreciated their comments. But, I felt incredibly guilty when someone started messaging me about the outfits and the materials and the availability. The sad truth is that they simply aren't available anywhere except the last Dolpa. If they were available I'd happily help someone get them. I'm not someone who cares if my dolls are unique as long as I love them. As a result, I felt incredibly guilty that the outfits were not accessible for the person inquiring about them. Debate Questions: 1) How do you react when you see an outfit, accessory or doll you absolutely love and want to have? In your opinon, what are the rights and wrongs when reacting to someone else's BJD-related possessions? 2) Have you ever resented someone personally for their BJD-related possessions? In your opinion, is it possible for people to resent someone personally for the items they have? 3) Is elitism a myth or a reality of the hobby? Is the concept of "elitism" created by the "Have's" or the "Have-Not's" or a combination of both and does it extend to everyone or a few people in the hobby? 4) Does the hobby itself even have "Have's" and "Have-Nots"? Or is it a matter of being happy with what one has versus what one wishes he/she had? For the record, my BJD collection is quite modest. I don't have a lot of difficult to find items because I really ~hate~ being in a position where I feel guilty for having them. I don't think that the person inquiring was being hurtful. She only really wanted her dolls to have outfits like that, too. I can understand that and sympathize with her position. I hold no ill will towards her.