how did you cope with stolen doll ?

I am so sorry that happened to you!
Can’t even imagine how you must be feeling right now…
For me a doll being stolen is a terrifying concept. Firstly, BJDs are not cheap. Secondly, it can be hard to find the same sculpt, not to mention the hours that you put into their look and the emotional connection that is being built.
I hope the thief will get caught and you’ll get your doll back! Or that with time you’ll recreate him so he can make you happy once more

 

I lost my very last BJD's to a thief while on the road after already losing virtually everything due to severe illness and a natural disaster type situation. Honestly the only way I can deal is to just not think about it too much. Just seeing a Dollshe Saint is still tough for me. I really miss mine.

I'm working on a lay-a-way for a head for a doll I just saw and really loved. I was originally going to hybrid another Saint but I only have room for two SD sized dolls. My studio is pretty tiny and the Saint is available as an MSD sized doll so I'm thinking someday I might get him in that size instead. LLT Roderich is just a dream of a doll. I fell really hard for him first sight. Just finding a blank head I could afford has taken me a year almost. The Saint is a lot easier to get again than he is and I rather like Saint as an MSD sized doll besides.

No doll is 100% non replaceable, finances allowed, but my finances won't allow me to do much in terms of replacing my old crew. I choose to just enjoy the few dolls I do have now and to not look back so much as forward. I know I will have a lot of fun with the Roderich sculpt and I do have some major plans so I just focus on that, not so much on what I lost.

Doing too much of that just makes me cry and too much crying makes me feel sick so it's just not worth it getting too upset by thinking of what I lost. I'd much rather focus on the future than on the past.

 

this post made me so sad. I am so sorry for your loss of your favorite boy. I really hope that somehow he manages to find his way back to you. I know it has been awhile, but maybe you can put up flyers in your area with a reward for information/return of the doll with no questions asked. if the person who has him is not aware of his price maybe they'll be willing to give him back for money (or knows who has him)

This is one of my fears, that my boys are stolen and i never see them again. I think with more people in general now aware of ABJD and their value the more its a risk people will try and steal if given the opportunity instead of thinking 'its just a doll'.

 

@chalollita this is wonderful news! I'm so happy you were able to recreate your favorite boy

 

I'm sorry this happend to you. He is a beautiful sculpt. I'm glad you were able to find and recreate it. Is it possible to like put a tracking device inside a doll for when or if it gets lost or stolen? I hope someone can give me answer on this.

Back to the question of how I would cope. I once got robbed. It was unrelated to bjds. Anyway I didn't handle it well at first because I have never been robbed. I think I coped by eventually accepting that I lost my stuff, but at least I wasn't home to get hurt. How I accepted it was most likely my ability to sort of lock traumatic experiences away and distance myself away from it. I think this might be unhealthy though due to having many past and recent traumatic experiences recently coming back all at once to haunt me in the present. So i suggest to others to fully process the emotions and what is happening then come to terms with stuff that got stolen, might get stolen, or will eventually get stolen. We can't take this stuff with us when we die, so enjoy it in your own way when you do have it because nothing in life is stable or permanent. Things will happen and sometimes there is nothing that can be done, but accept it.

We have no control of what might happen, so it's best to not fixate on what we cannot control. If you fixate on it you will be stuck in that moment of time. Which willl keep you stuck feeling the sadness and the lost you felt then. It's best to focus on what we can control which is how we respond and react to things. I'm sorry I am confused and don't know if this makes sense. I'm so tired I can't think at all.

 

It is now, actually, with things like Apple Air Tags. They have their limitations, obviously, but if I bring a doll to a convention in the future, it will be with an active Air Tag inside it.

 

I will keep this in mind, I'm sure there's Android compatible tags. It'd be easy to affix one inside my doll where I could reach it, but a thief wouldn't unless they REALLY knew BJDs.
Although I am far more likely to lose my doll to a disaster than theft. If my home is broken into, my jewelry will be a much more attractive target than any doll.

 

There are android-compatible tags! I've heard good things about "Tile".

 

I once had a very nice collection of BJDs in several sizes. When disaster struck I had to sell a few but the remaining dolls I really loved and brought with me when I moved from one state to another. They got stolen en route and it was very hard on me on top of all the other stuff that had happened. For a long time I had no resin BJDs. I couldn't hardly stand to even look at BJDs. I still miss them today but what can you do? I have several MSD sized dolls now and I just bought an SD sized doll that I've been coveting for a while. I was going to stick with MSD sized dolls this time but I just fell hard for him when I saw him in a friend's collection.

I have never gotten over losing those dolls but I can't go backwards and frankly I can't afford to replace them all. I have the dolls I have now and I just love them to bits. Doesn't mean I don't miss the ones I lost, but I just have to live with the loss. One doll, my hybrid Dollshe Saint, I would love to have the mini of him and might just go there someday but the other two I doubt I'd buy them again now.

You should find another doll to love. That's about the best thing you can do.