How do you get over a doll you know is "the one", but it's one you'll never own?

Look at it a little less everyday and try to think of other things. That worked well for me when I first saw a bjd online years ago. I did eventually forget and when I finally saw a real one I was actually able to get a doll. The one I wanted? Noooo and I likely won't be able too and I'm ok with that.

 

I encourage you to save up, little by little, and put your windfalls toward this cause until you can get him!
When it means so much to you like Yu does, it will be worth the patience and self-control while you let that piggy bank fatten.

The "right" thing to do is to live within your means, write the doll into your budget, and do what brings your heart peace. If you'd settle for another similar sculpt, there are other brands or sizes of doll that may be less pricy, but when it's love - like this one seems to be for you - it is absolutely worth setting your standard no lower than the real thing!

There is one available on DoA's Marketplace, if you're interested in secondhand / savings, so get your post count up, keep your spirits up, and have faith that when the time is right, you'll have your wish

 

It took me 4 years to get my first doll. You can do it, just give it some time. Even if you only can save 4 or 5 dollars a month, if you want him enough, you can do it!!!! Have a yard sale, mow grass, shovel snow. Ask your family for cash toward your doll instead of gifts.... the list is huge of ways to save and get some $ even for students and teens. Yeah, like the others have said, when you save some and get your posts up you can look in the MP and post a WTB thread for him. You could probably save about $100 or so buying second hand. Have patience and don't loose hope. I think when it takes a lot of patience and determination, you will love your doll that much more! He will be your treasure and you will know why we all talk about our dolls like a bunch of nuts! lol

 

I tend to fall in love with LE sculpts that are either long sold out or hard to obtain. Most of the time I decide against buying them because I'm not interested in paying the scalper prices. I could probably save enough money and get them at one point but I refuse to feed the greed. When that happens, I just start looking for similar sculpts. With so many companies and dolls available, it's not that hard to find sculpts that resemble each other. If that doesn't work out, I just cross my fingers and hope that one day I'll find an affordable one on the marketplace or Y!JA. If I fall in love with a doll that's readily available from the company then I just look for layaway. Companies didn't have the layaway option back when I first started collecting so I think it's a great improvement that most of them offer layaway today. You just need to be patient and save, and I'm sure one day you'll be able to bring your dream doll home. Good luck! ^_^

 

I fell in love with DOD as well, especially Tender Too and Tender Bee-A. Actually this hobby takes time and patience to obtain your dream doll. Don't be pessimistic, it just takes a matter of time. Some companies offer layaway which is a pretty good deal too, also I fell in love with Limited Editions sculpts (first in Dollmore) but I just let go because there are other wonderful companies at an affordable price.
All you have to do is stop being negative and save, save, save. It's worth every penny and I hope you bring your dream doll home soon~

 

Umm bc of your other thread i will give you some tips
dont look at it, delete all of the pictures of him unfollow all blogs that mention him, out of sight out of mind
find a different hobby something to take up your time and eventually you will forget

 

I haven't gotten over her yet actually. I'm still hopeful of getting that grey Soul doll Shiva. Even if it takes years, I have hope I'll eventually get her.

 

Everyone has stated some great suggestions for you, and pretty much every idea will eventually get you the doll you want within a reasonable amount of time if you're consistent. One other thing you can do is to write it down(along with other goals and dreams) & review it everyday. Putting up a picture (Laptop Wallpaper!) is also a nice visual reminder. You can choose to express some gratitude that the goal(s) are coming to pass; and then go about your daily routine. The time spent will help you to remember your goal throughout the day, and it will help you make decisions accordingly. You don't have to stress inordinately about it, but your focus will bear results sooner than otherwise.

 

Not being able to afford a doll should not be an impossible obstacle... Because, if you just saved one penny a day, you would have enough money, or close to enough.

Or, maybe money is still tight and you have other expenses before dolls... Then maybe someday you will have a job that will pay enough money or be in a better situation, and it may be possible to own a doll. It is never impossible due to money, even though it might not seem possible in the immediate future!

However, there are definitely dolls that will be nearly impossible to get for other reasons... There are some dolls that are One-offs. There are some that are created by owners and are unique and never sold. There are some sculpts that are very rare and so in-demand that they go for thousands of dollars or not at all...

If you can't afford a doll, then you just know that having a doll is not for you at this time.

If you just can't find a specific doll for sale and know that it's unlikely that you ever will find it even if you hunt everywhere for years (because it IS possible to find very rare dolls, even one-offs, if you look hard enough and have saved up enough money)...

Then I would say that you either might want to try and get one that is very similar... there are a lot of sculpts that can look similar to others... and try and customize it so it's very close.

OR just really put it out of your mind and try and go for something that is possible! There are so many beautiful dolls out there! There should be another that would make you happy!

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Learning that we all can't always get exactly what we want is just a part of life. It doesn't mean that everything should be spoiled because you can't get exactly what you want...

 

There are probably things you are spending money on now that you could give up. Cola or other soda pop? Save the money and drink water. Fancy coffees? Make your own. Sweets, snacks, or fast food? Give them up. The money you save will add up quickly. If you want that doll as badly as you claim you do, it will be easy for you to give up such things in order to have him. And if you aren't willing to give anything up to have him, then you don't want him as badly as you claim.

 

I recommend you to buy DOD’s Yu soon as possible because he is special to you and the first “love” will never be found again.


My first BJD was chosen among all others around the entire worldwide web online shops. This search was a big waste of time. I had decided to know if there was something cheaper before to buy the first BJD I ever seen in my life. Huika kept his chosen status from the beginning. Without Huika everything would look too cheap because I’m poor, too bad because I’m bad, too much waste of money and self pride. I couldn’t join in this hobby without that doll by my side. (‘He’ have nine ‘brothers’ now.) Today I know that my first “champion” was far away to be appreciated by everyone and I don’t care. My unpopular HZ Huika is special to me and nothing else matters. There is no other doll like the one you really want.

 

If you just gave up soda pop and you drink three cans a day, that's $3/day you can save for him. At the end of four months you would have every penny you need for that doll with faceup and wig. If you gave up sweets, you would have more than enough to order outfits with him as well.

But if you aren't willing to give up something that trivial in order to have him, then I don't think you want him nearly as much as you claim you do.

 

I'm currently dealing with such an issue myself. I would love to have an IOS infernale but because it's not in ordering period/out of stock and I don't have access to the market place yet on the possibility someone might be selling one I have to settle for staring at photos of it and crying lol. But at the same time I really like their Co sculpt, so I'm saving up for it now. I'll get him even if I have to do it piece by piece.

 

I just believe that I will either get a doll better than the one I liked a lot, get one second hand, get one similar, or just not get anything like it, period. I hope the last option NEVER happens. I know, it's hard. It's happened to me twice before. But I am OK with not getting one of them, it has been years so time has helped. But the other one just sold out recently and I had no money to buy it, so I was gutted. Still am.

 

One of my early grails in the hobby was a Dollzone Leslie. I have since SORT OF fallen out of love with him the more that I see owners photos. I had another one I LOVED, can't remember the name, so I began to try to mod a head to have similar features. It helped ease the desire some.

 

There's one doll I'd like, but to buy it and all the accessories for it will be close to $1,000. I'm just not sure I can justify spending that much money on one doll. I could, however, sell some of my other dolls in order to buy it if I really wanted to. I think there's always a way to get one if you want it badly enough. You just might have to give up something else in order to get it. Where there's a will, there's a way.

 

When I first joined the doll hobby I thought I'd NEVER get any dolls, I'd just love them from a far, because they were so expensive. And for a while, dolls were absolutely out of my reach. But things changed. I eventually got a better job, learned how to save money more effectively, and shopped second hand with people that would give me flexible layaway. Once I had my first doll, I was worried I'd never get her any clothes. I decided I'd give up my morning Starbucks run for a month to get her a new outfit, and it worked (and I got over needing coffee every morning, win-win situation). The MP is a good option, but I bought one of my grails because her owner posted a "for sale" pic on instagram that I clicked on because I love her sculpt. Just last week, I posted in the CP Delf thread about my grail doll, and one of the popular posters in that thread asked a friend to PM me to offer me a doll! It will happen. Don't give up.

 

Besides saving up I also strongly recommend you to join some doll meeting first. My first dolly love was Dollmore Ipsae. I stared on her promo pics, count pennies and believed what she whould be perfect for me. But luckily I visited doll party in my town and see other dollmore girls in person, and they came out totally different from that I'd imagine from the pics. Not bad or ugly, just different and definitely not my dream . So try to contact some DOD owners in you town, better to check if you grail is really what it seems.

 

I cried over an announcement that the sculpt I like is no longer available

 

How do you guys get over feelings like this?
I see if the feelings pass over time or stay strong, then decide from there.

Deal with this kind of thing?
I tell myself that if it is meant to be, it will happen. If not, then it wasn't meant to be, there may be something to look forward to later down the road.

Do you buy it?
If it is something I cannot afford, no. I may wait for a summer sale or it to show up second hand. If they are discontinuing it or it is a limited release, I would feel more pressure to buy, but I would do my best to save up and decide from there.

Replicate the look in a less expensive doll or a doll you already have?
Possibly, it depends on what I like in that doll. I may look at dolls like it to see if I feel the same way, if not sometimes it is just a waiting game. I may buy the head and body later or the head and find a less expensive body to hybrid later.

What is the right thing to do?
I don't think there is necessarily a "right" thing to do. I think that it depends on the person and their financial stability and support.