How do you know when to sell?

Oh my gosh, he's totally a cutie, Cyphermage! I love that carrot wig.

He doesn't seem to quite fit with your other dolls, though, and I think it does have to do with the coloring--the others have this lovely sense both wild and subdued at the same time which has to do with the mix of eye/hair colors and makeup. Maybe you could play around with the faceup and the eyes so that he has the same feel as your other dolls?

(By the way, your Momo is one of my all-time favorite dolls.)

 

hmmm when i first got ami i hated her she looked like a snob for some very weird reasons after getting a new wig and a new dress she looks better and yes i try to bring her out more

 

i've had it happen ... and i've had it NOT happen! One of my favorite girls Inari, a BW DES) was supposed to come with a soft peach sweet faceup from Luts and they made her very dark with exceptionally evil looking eyebrows. I was totally dissappointed, but i did think she was beautiful. She just kind of became who she wanted to be rather than the character i had planned for her. It all worked out.

However there was at least one time that i got a doll and i disliked her to the point i cried. Maybe that's crazy but i did! I really fell in love with her photos on the site i got her from (there were no owner photos at the time) but when i got her she was just wrong. I had her in my house for months and we never got any closer, it was kind of sad.

so i guess it depends I'd say give it a little time at least, play w/ your doll and see what direction the doll wants to go in ...

 

When I first got my girl I did not entirly love her, but as time went on, and she got more used a personality developed...not the one that I had made for her before her arival but a new one. And now about a year later I cant imagin parting with her.

 

It seems to me (just from the pictures) that the thing that really makes his faceup different from the other boys is his mouth - Griff and Akiko both have darker, glossy detail - whereas Asha's look is very pared-back and natural. I'd suggest coating - and maybe even darkenning - his mouth. You could even just one of your own lip-glosses, perhaps, just to get an idea.

The other faceup detail which, I think, possibly makes the MOST difference to how a doll comes across is the eyebrow shape. I can't really see from the photos, but maybe you could compare that to the other boys - if Asha's brows are really different, that'll be giving him a completely different attitude, which might be making it harder for him to fit in...

 

I had the exact same problem with my first BJD. I knew it wasn't right from the start, but I ignored it as best as I could. Went on for nearly a year...

It got so bad that when I actually thought about how blank and lifeless his face looked to me, I got a horrible knotted feeling in my stomach, and a very bad sense of dread. I hate the idea of selling my first BJD >__<

However, I decided to face the music, and replaced him with my Hound. It was probably the best desition I have ever made! I say think very carefully about who you bring home, expecially if you don't like the idea of selling.

 

I'm kind of in the same running as the post above x_x

When I got my ren a month ago I thought she was gorgeous and loved her, but now over a month later I hate to look at her, she only aggrivates me. So even being my first doll I would much rather her be in a loving home x_x;

 

When Lysandra (Notdoll Aletheia White Vampire) first came home to me, I was NOT enchanted -- I'd been in love with her photos from the Notdoll site, but I was spoiled by my CP girl's very realistic hands and easier posing . . .

. . . but after wiring her and discovering that she stands quite well with boots on and having a dress made for her by a friend (she's wearing it right now, in fact, it's her default outfit), I completely fell in love with her all over again, and now I wouldn't dream of selling her, she's one of my favorite dolls!!

A big issue with me was eye positioning -- Lysandra just STARED with her eyes straight ahead, but with them turned slightly to the side, she can look anything from silently pleading to coquettish, depending on her pose and mood . . . play around with eye color and eye positioning, and, as other people said, try repainting the lips.

If he still doesn't grab you, put him away in his box for a while and see if you miss him. If you don't, find a new home for him, he's a cutie and I'm sure that someone out there would LOVE to have him if he doesn't fit in at your house!!

Good luck,

-- Andi

 

Holy crapsack Cyphchan!!! ::glomps:: He's so pretty! The faceup of his is stunning! And OMG, his body is home to you. ^^ You do wonderful faceupsssssssss!!!
Heeee!

I'm very happy to see your boy up and together. Give it some more time, spend a little extra time here and there just cuddling and stuff. And make sure that there's nothing wrong with his wig, eyes, faceup, body, clothes, anything on the outside that could be fixed.

But babe, I know what it's like for it to simply 'not work out' with a doll, and there's nothing you can do. It hasn't worked out with quite a few now of my Dears, and it kind of sucks, but in the end it's the best feeling to know that they're in a home where they're appreciated Don't dwell on it, go with the flow for a while longer, because you've waited so long as it is, what's a month or so?

If past that, put him away for a while and see what happens. If you put him in a box, out of sight and for after a week you don't even miss him, maybe he should be passed onto a different home. There's nothing wrong with having bonding problems, in the end I promise your beautiful boy will find a loving home. ^^

Oh, and Abacus says he's sexy. ^^;

Abacus: NO I DON'T. THAT WAS YOU.
:: pushes him under a pillow:: (Shut up!)

^^ Yea, Abacus digs Asha. ^____^

 

I'm currently in the process of selling one of my resin kids, so it's nice to read through this... Like everyone says, the grace period is important. I gave my little guy about a month to grow on me, and although he's gorgeous he just doesn't fit in with the other two boys. Even though he came into himself as a character, it wasn't enough, and he needs to find his way to someone who can do him justice.

Asha is a real beauty!! Give him a chance and maybe he'll surprise you. If not, then I'm sure he'll find a good home. I mean jeez, I'd take him! I hope you guys manage to bond ^^

 

Yep ^^ When Kyran came we had a good bond alrady but then I got him a white fur wig and BOOM instant unbreakable bond... See in my mind he had black hair so in his black wig he was unhappy bcause he had white hair really...So thw white wig really made his personality go OOMPH! So yea I took his default DOD wig added in alot of long hair dreaded and natted it up and it looked good but not on him... So I decided to try and sell it... but never got around to it... so about a week ago I tried it on Liam (( Delf Ttory)) and low and behold it was the perfect look for him... his delf wig was too prim and proper for his spirit anyhow I was surprised that I could get Kyran's wig on liam and it really cemented Liam and I's bond... So I think changing wigs can be a relationship altering expierience.. then again when i do a new face up on them It further the bond.. and now I couldn't bar to sell them...

Just wait a couple weeks try new things on him it might be that his personality hasn't been allowed out yet ^^

Hope it helps

Jen

 

I kind of had the same thing not with bonding, as I've always had a great bond with Vasiley, but he always had long wigs, and then he got an adorable, short fur wig(from the Christmas swap )and a whole different side of him came out..with his long wigs, he's more of a high-class, soft and shy wig, and with that fur wig, suddenly his more boyish, playful personality came out So, I agree on trying different things, you never know what might come out

 

I almost cried when I opened my AR Jade. He's version 1, and I'd always had my heart set on version 2. And even though I knew I was getting v1, when I opened it up and he had black hair and green eyes ... I was horrified. Of course, those are easy things to fix, but I was still heartbroken.
I've grown to love him though (even the green eyes). I bought him a new wig that suits him far better than red ever would, and he wears very very nice clothes. Plus, he's an absolute cutie.

That said, I never want to experience that again. I always want to open the box and only have tears of joy.

 

And you went through a lot of things with your babeh, remember? You finally got the head, then it took a while to get the faceup, and then HOLY CRAP THE FRIGGIN BODY.

That's enough to really screw things up! It happened with my Jun too. Sometimes you gotta start over. ^^

Heee... He's a cutie though. ^^

 

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I think that if you feel that way, you should sell him. :/ You just want the best for him. I used to have a Dark Prince Michael, and he was my dream doll, but he was far too big for me to handle for my first doll, and I simply wasn't giving him the love I should have been, and I thought I would feel awful if I sold him but I'm happy I did. I'm sure he's in a better place with a better owner than me.

 

i dun have my own boy yet, but imo if you find it hard to bond with your doll even after you've really tried, it's better to sell it to someone who can. not much point leaving him lying in his box collecting dust when someone else can give him the love you can't give. but perhaps you should try bonding with your boy again before your make your decision. take him out and play with him and see if things will get better.

just my two cents worth.

hope things will go well for you.

 

I had the same problem with one of my dolls. The advice I got was to write up a listing for him in the Marketplace, and if I couldn't bring myself to hit "post", then I didn't really want to sell him.

I did exactly that, and when I went to hit post, I started to feel really upset and couldn't do it. I did the same with my Isao head, because he didn't fit in with my "family"; but with him, I WAS able to hit post on the ad, and I don't regret it.

I also had people suggest putting a doll back in their box for a while; if you don't feel like running to get them out again, then you're probably ready to send them to a new home. If you're already leaving him in his box, then you probably need to sell.

 

I second this, absolutely.