If your family member asks for your BJD, what do you do?

I think you should let her know how you feel and that she is welcomed to visit the doll as a grandchild... but the child should stay with the parents not the grandparents.
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It sounds like your Dad is the real issue. I would not hand the doll over. Your Mom sounds like she'd take care but she can't see to it that your father would so I would not. Don't let her pressure you. Stand your ground. The welfare of the doll has to come first. It wouldn't be nice if you just gave it to her and your Dad killed it. Let her enjoy it with you, but don't hand it over.

 

I don't even have one (yet!) but I showed my nine-year-old daughter a book on BJDs and she was all, I want one! I said maybe we could start her off with one of the, er, *less pricey* and *less fragile* dolls from Target or something if she was still interested...I should be grateful she's still at the age where she thinks everything I do is cool. (Well. Most of the things.)

 

Only my sister and mother would ask for one of my bjds, and I know they always take care of things if they put their minds to it...
Now...the only two dolls in my possession are my first and my grail...so, I might let them play with them for a while, but I'd never give them over for keepsies! If I had any other doll in my collection, I may be willing to give that one over.

 

Just a simple no and leave it at that. I don't feel your mom was rude for asking nor would saying no make you rude. However expensive and precious, it's still just a doll! It's not something vital to life. I wouldn't get into how you are attached, or love her, or how she's the perfect shell, or how clumsy your dad is, or whatever else because it really is not important to the answer. If you don't want to give the doll up just say no.

 

Hmmmm I don't think my mom -or anyone else in my family- would ever just ask for one of my possessions let alone one as expensive as one of my dolls! She might say she liked them a lot and insinuate she would like one of her own but I don't think she would ever want me to give her my own doll. Or she might say to give it to her in jest but she wouldn't actually mean it.
I would guess that your mom didn't realize the price except you imply that she understands how expensive these dolls are.

 

My folks aren't into dolls. I do have two nieces-- the elder of whom is pen-pals with my Volks SD10 boy-- but they're still too young for BJDs.

If, when she gets older, my niece happened to ask if she could actually have Rainey, I'm not sure what I'd do! I guess it'd depend on how I felt about my collection at that time. (I can't see too far into the future, because my crystal ball is in the shop.) If she is still interested, she can definitely inherit him when I'm done/dead, whichever comes first.

But her parents are pretty well loaded, so they could afford to buy her her own BJD at whatever point they think she should have one-- if she even grows up to be interested in them. Asian pop culture is not on their radar, except for Hello Kitty. Right now, little Sofia is only interested in Hello Kitty and American Girls. (And I kind of think maybe that's why she took to Rainey in the first place... he's a SchoolHead B, which is very anime-style... so maybe she recognizes him as something between Hello Kitty and American Girl. )

If my mom WAS interested in owning dolls: I probably wouldn't be able to say no to her. I mean, she's Mom.

 

I was going to say that you should let your Mum have Izzy, bc she has been really helpful with your dolls.. but IDK after hearing about your Papa not liking your dolls. It would be horrible to hear that poor Izzy had an "accident", & was broken.

 

My mom would never ask me to give her any of my dolls...she thinks they are my kids lol which means that she knows how precious they are for me and if she wants one she would just buy one or I would get her one but she is not a doll person so I have no problems there.
I had other people(a cousin and a couple of friends) who asked for my dolls >_> but none of my family members are interested in them. however, I know that if I die or something, my mom would keep my dolls and take care of them because she sees them more as "my kids" than I do myself so it would be awesome if she asks me for one of them and I would, of course, give it away.

 

If a family member asks me for one of my dolls... I would interrogate with extreme prejudice! Why,What for, how long, resin care check list, handle with gloves, don't touch the face, no sun, no smoke, no oil, you break you buy and all the like. In short, I would be chaperoning my doll.

 

I would say for now it isn't a good idea to hand your little girl over. She's your doll, and if your mom would just have her on display (and your father careless about other's things) maybe you could take and frame a nice picture for your mom to keep? You don't sound like you're ready to hand her over, and you don't have to give something to somebody if you don't want to--even family members.

If she really, really wants a doll like yours you can let her know the sculpt and how to get her--maybe you could have a set of twin dolls. But it would probably be better if she were the one to pay and care for the doll all on her own. With expensive things like a BJD, or things that people can get so easily attached to, it's better not to let it get in between the two of you.

I'm mostly concerned about whether or not you will want your doll back, and if that would cause a fight with your mom. Though I'm just looking at it from the outside and don't know your entire situation, I do think it'd be best to let her get her own doll or something rather than give her yours--so that you can still enjoy your doll and she'll have her own to look at as well.

 

If you love her too much then don't let her go !

 

My family would probably think my dolls were creepy, rather than ask for them I'm sure. If they did, like in your case I probably would "allow" them to play a little with the doll but I'd have to be watching. I'd also explain why I'm being protective of the doll so it won't seem you know...much.

 

If someone asked for a doll that belonged to me and I genuinely wanted them to have one, I would either tell them to buy one or buy one for them. Especially if I paid for it and spent the money on his or her customization.

 

My older sister is absolutely smitten with Momiji (YoSD Papi). Whenever she comes over, she asks me to bring her out so she can dress and style her. I know that my older sister would be very gentle and careful of my dolls because both of us played with dolls when we were children and are naturally careful with our things.

So if she asks if she can have Momiji for herself, I won't hesitate because I know she will take care of her very well.

 

If I wasn't planning to sell it and anyone other than my mother asked, no.

 

I know my mum loves my PukiPuki Jack a whole lot, but I don't think I could give him up. I wanted to buy a different PukiPuki for her birthday, but she didn't want me to buy something that expensive for her. I keep asking her if she wants one all the time, so maybe one day she'll snap and tell me I can buy her one.

 

If I knew my mom or sister was seriously interested in one of my dolls for a long time, playing around with it and asking lots of questions, doing research and showing real interest while I didn't really care about the doll anymore and just have it sitting around I'd give it to them. I'd love to share the love for BJDs with a family member. Sadly they don't like them that much...

 

I'm agreeing that it sounds like your Dad might be the biggest problem. If he already dislikes your BJDs and is destructive, I would keep Izzy. Perhaps you should explain this to your Mom as well as the fact that you're not finished with her (Izzy) yet. She should just enjoy Izzy when she visits, or when you go to visit her. I don't think that's unreasonable.

 

when my family asks me about my doll they always ask how much I paid for her. now they tell the children to stay away from her so they don't break her. The rest of my family kind of stays away from her as well. My family supports me in everything that I do, but they don't always like it lol.