If your family member asks for your BJD, what do you do?

I would feel really flattered ;w; my grandparents helped me to get them with a big part of the money. At first they didn't trust the idea or liked it neither, but once they saw one they felt everything was worthy and now my grandpa has a picture of them in his desk, is really cute

 

I personally wouldn't give them the doll, I mean.. It's sweet they love the doll so much, but it's /mine/. And considering how much each doll costs and the fact I have to pay for it myself, it's not really a thing I would ever 'be done with'. Maybe I'd try and get everyone, dad, grandma, grandpa, all that, to pool in with me to try and buy them their own version of the doll.

 

My best friend who is like family to me wants my planetdoll riz. She was so cheap to begin with and has had such wear and tear over the years on top of that that she wouldnt be worth selling anyways, and I hardly ever play with my dolls these days. I'm going to give her to her because even if she just takes her out of a drawer every now and then and looks at her, she'll get more use than i get.

 

I think maybe getting her one of her own could be a good idea for a present, but I wouldn't give away yours!

 

My mum loves my dolls and calls my first doll her grandson. I've bought her two, one for Christmas and one for Mother's day, and she adores them and uses them as display pieces with the other ornaments. I don't think I could ever give my dolls to someone else unless it's in my will; but I especially wouldn't do it if they specifically asked for them when I wasn't thinking of selling/giving them away.

 

I can relate to destructive parents. I don't let them in contact with anything of mine in fear that something terrible will happen to it. But if someone in my family like that wanted a doll, i would explain to them what its like to have one and how they are fragile, expensive, and sometimes rare. And if they are willing to commit, then I would consider giving the doll away, especially if I didn't have much time for it anymore. Just make sure you take lots of pictures before giving them up, so that even if something happens, you can still look back at what they used to look like.

 

No way should you give her your doll. If she wants one there is nothing from stopping her from buying one for herself. Explain to her that you bought your doll because you wanted her. She is a character that you have created too. Help her search and find a sculpt she likes and get her involved in choosing all the accessories. I feel if you gave your doll up it will only cause tension and resentment particularly if she is damaged by your mother or father. You could also buy her something like outfit, wig etc for a present such as her birthday.

 

I actually gave my DZ Fox (I got him with my DZ BB Jing) to my mom but that was because I wanted too. If you have any doubts, don't do it- trust your gut! Only hand over a doll if you feel completely comfortable with it and even then I would recommend teaching the new owner (family or not) how to care for them if they haven't owned a BJD before.

 

I couldn't give away any of my dolls (I'm too bonded with all of them), but if someone fell in love with one of them I'd definitely consider buying one for them as a gift. Only after making sure they really want to own one, though! My mother adores my Hati, but she wouldn't actually enjoy owning a BJD. She'd get frustrated with the posing, and the way wigs can get tangled and clothing can be hard to change and so on and so on. As much as she loves my Hati, she'd rather enjoy her by proxy, rather than owning a wolf girl of her own.

 

I personally would not give away my doll. I think it is very sweet that they like the doll so much that they would like to have it, but dolls are personal. I would nicely explain that I cannot give them away because I'm very attached to them.

 

I've never had it happen. lol But my wife bought a doll a while back that she wasn't very pleased with when she got it, and I thought it was really cute so I offered to buy it from her. I just gave her what she paid for it and now it's mine. lol

Also, I bought a mermaid version of a doll one time and then decided the tail was too annoying for posing. My wife loved it. I loved the doll, just not the tail. So she bought a human version, and she swapped me his legs for my tail. XD

 

Oh, this happens to me every time I go visit my sisters. They're still teenagers, and when I see them, they will each at different points of my trip ask for one of my dolls. (I always bring two or three of the little ones with me.) Specifically, they want my customhouse ange ai Hani. ^^;

I've considered it. Actually, somewhat tangent: This thread gave me a great idea! (Specifically Swivelchair ^^; ) I just reshelled my kid delf to a littlefee, and I've been at a loss as to what to do with the kid delf, because he is much too old and damaged to sell (he was my training wheels doll -- I learned everything through him, so he suffered my love. Hahaha) but maybe I can give him to one of my sisters! Brilliant! Of course, that means restringing him...

Children aside, I too think it is rude for a family member to ask for one of your dolls out of the blue. Maybe if they offered to buy it... or trade for it... sure. But then, I guess I would take into consideration the closeness to said relative. A mother I am close to would be different than a cousin I am not close to. And I actually like it when my sisters ask for my dolls. We have a huge age difference so I sometimes feel like we're from different worlds -- it's nice to know they have the same tastes as I do. ^_^

Just know that it is always okay to decline. You can even be honest! "She's worth a lot of money and I'd rather sell her to earn funds to put towards a new doll," should sound perfectly reasonable.

 

If I was thinking about getting rid of her cause I wasn't bonding, and my mum showed interested, I would give her to her. I know she might end up being discoloured or looking like I don't want her but that's not my problem anymore. She won't be mind, she'd be my mums.
But if I was selling due to money issues, I wouldn't give her away, I would only give her to family if they paid.

But I don't have to worry about any of that cause my family would never own one! Hahaha

 

My mum would never ask for one of my dolls (she is a doll collector) but I have gifted her dolls in the past. I think if my mum fell in love with one of my dolls I would simply have to save up and buy her one of her own. This is down to the person that my mum is though. If mum ever asked for a doll I'd know she was truly in love with it and she would look after it without a doubt in my head so I'd be happy to do that.
Love,
Lee

 

My mom loves my dolls but the only one that to her was: "I want it." was Doll Chateau Elizabeth...I was a little surprised but my mom loves how much of a fantasy doll she is...Heck we got plans that when we're able to we're buying TWO one for her in the default everything and one for me with company face up but no body blushing so I can do a black widow theme.

 

If you still like your doll that your Mom wants, I wouldn't give her away, but if you particularly don't care for her anymore then I don't see why you wouldn't give her to your Mom - especially when she has other 'fragile' dolls and probably understands the importance of her. I also do like the idea of getting one for her if she truly wants one.

My Mom doesn't ask me, she takes them over Guy has a particular image from an OC that I created, but she has told me on multiple occasions what I should do with his - like give him short black hair or get him clothes that don't match the personality I have for him. Since I moved to China, I had left all but Guy. Now David, who was a geeky/nerdy character, has been changed into something else - a more modern everyday kind of guy...not that I mind to much as he was originally supposed to be my Mom's gift, but at the time she didn't want him....now she has claimed him I know for a fact if I had left Guy, she would have changed his style as well.

 

I doubt I would have this issue, as my parents/family are anything but interested in BJDs, but in most circumstances I would never give away or sell my dolls to a family member. The only time I would possibly consider it is if it was one of my unfinished dolls that didn't have a solid character, and my family member had fallen in love with it. I have three unfinished dolls, two of which are floating heads and the last is a full doll. However, my unfinished full doll has a solid character and I can picture what he'll look like when he's finished. So, it would only be my two floating heads that I'd even consider selling if they seriously loved them and wanted to get into the hobby.

 

Im a doll collector since i was little. Starting with Barbies, going for Saint Seiya Die Casts (they was the first Cloth Myth generation),Saint Seiya Cloth Myth, CBC, Petit Chara and last than 2 months i arrived on The BJD world. My mom and my family had helped a lot when i was little collecting Barbies. But when i start my teenies and the Saint Seiya anime came out i fall in love with the little and innovated figures who you could attach the armory on the dolls, and the same way create the objects of their zodiacal sign or constellation. My mom find a bit scary for me to ask her about them, because on her mind what she think that was boys dolls.... i dont know how i convinced her a watch some episodes...for my surprise she start understand and like too! So on the same year at christmas each one of us( me and my 2 brothers) won 2 Die Cast Saints. More than 13 years had pass, we had grow up, but we never had buried our childhood iven after grow up. I got married and start my own work and 2 years ago talking with a friend i rediscover The Saints.... on the actual version the Cloth Myth...in 2 years i had 32 dolls already.When my mom first saw them in my office She say - But you don't gonna grow up? I got a little bit mad... but i dont say anything.... One day she made me mad and scared saying one of my little cousins had been in my office when i was traveling and had touched 1 of them, he falls and take together with him the ones who was around..... Guys...in the hour i got pale... feel dizzy, when i see i was shouting and nearly crying. When she told me was a joke. I remember feel angry and relieved. Hum some funny episode was one day my younger brother came to visit me.... he knows i dont like had my Cloths touched. He got my favorite and change his pose like.... he was doing some sexy thing XD Hehehehe when i saw i feel like i want kill him....but i found funny and i know he will never let happen nothing with my Aquarius Saint. So i gonna give him his Sagitarius for Christmas. About my BJD's i had buy 2 already, but they don't had arrived yet. One Is Caroline from the first Brazilian BJD brand, Morningstar. She probably will arrive in January. The second one is a Fairyland Feeple65 Chloe who i purchase in US and my mom are bring for me! Its nice ... but is better if she don't know how much cost... or she gonna start saying oh! you have so much things to do before you spent all this money....Once i told her... is better my addiction for dolls( who i don't think im really addicted, but she say i am) than be sniffing all my money and be doing really crazy and weird stuff. Just to not happen any accidents with my dolls i made plates (some of them hold one and another i made and framed) saying....You See With your eyes... do not touch Us! Or be prepared to our owner fury! XD Hahahahahaha

 

I cant even imagine letting my mother hold my doll without first washing her hands, much less give her away! She's your doll and you have every right to keep her for as long as you want; your feelings are completely justified

 

Unsure since that's not very accurate in my case,perhaps in this case it's for the best that none of my family members have an interest in BJD's.