Is BJD really just for adults? And adults, what do you think of kids who like them?

I second that

 

Alright, so I'm 17 and just got my first doll, a boy. My dad asked if he was 'correct' down there and I said yes. He was surprised but didn't care. I mean, even if BJD are anotomicaly correct, they aren't really that correct. They aren't like male Barbies who have nothing but they don't have anything so detailed I would call it inappropriate. It doesn't bother me at all.

 

I''m afraid my wording was too convoluted. I meant the opposite, that a parent had the right and duty to control what her child sees, as long as she doesn't control what I or other adults see, whether on the internet or at a doll show. It is up to parent to work out how to do this!

If I understand what you said about DofA's policies, it already is Disneyfied. I assumed they just banned the really raunchy stuff. If I'd known that, I wouldn't sent the post that started this mess. As it was, I expected to get one or two replies one or two-line replies! No wonder that only one person out of many responses actually addressed the point I was trying to raise.

Thanks,
Osatta

P.S. One person took issue with the size of my type face. Since she didn't seem to any input relevant to the topic at hand, I didn't reply to her, but have now changed to Tahoma 2. If that's not small enough, I can change to 1. As it is, I can hardly read Tahoma 2 on this monitor.

 

I think that one of the fantastic things about BJDs is that everyone can love them, and the owners are all so nice that they don't care about trivial things such as age. But I'm jelous of you, I'm 18 and only have one doll, you're 13 and have two. lol, you're lucky I think that people should follow their hearts, I mean physically you maybe 13, but phycologically it can be a different story.

~Chaos

P.S. I didn't feel like I was an "adult" so I couldn't answer in that aspect, but at the same time I don't feel like a "kid"... I guess I'm just in that middle area at the moment.

 

You've answered your own question in my perspective. You are not old enough to have a job, and pay for your own very expensive doll. I doubt you could legally do more than 2 hours at a time for some baby sitting gig. That means some ADULT paid for your doll.

 

I think if mentally you are an adult, then yes, it seems fair for you to own one.
To me, working for the BJD money is critical in proving your maturity or if you at least paid for some.

 

When I was little, I remember only having a few barbies...which ended up getting buried in my backyard by my best friend. I was a tomboy, so giving me one of these dolls then wouldn't have been a good idea. I probably would have either gave it away or just lost interest in it. When I got into this hobby, I was 21...so I can't say I was a kid, but I don't really feel like an adult either. I'm 23 now and I have to say that younger kids getting into this hobby is totally ok, they just have to be mature enough to take care of the doll properly. That and I think it takes some good parenting to get the child to commit to not losing interest after getting it due to the price. Cause that is how some kids are...they want it cause it's the cool new thing and then when another fad comes around, they'll drop the previous one. So I'm pretty sure whenever I have kids, if they want a doll like mommy's, they have to at least want to play with it for awhile. If anything, if they tire of it...it'll be property of mommy. LoL!! Course kids for me is still aways off. I think I'll stick with my resin babies and furry animals til then.

 

I am actually planning on getting the daughter of a friend her own BJD when I place my next order with junkyspot. The child really is a child at the tender young age of 5. She has played with all of my dolls before and she really wants a boy >_<
I will be getting her one of the dollzone 44cm girls and make a dress or two.

 

I'm 16 and never really considered it an "Adult Only" hobby.
I mean, as long as the kid (no matter how old) is capable of caring (and I mean sincerely caring) for such a doll, and is mature enough to appreciate the doll, it's just fine.
I know the difference between a so-so doll and a nice one (like a barbie versus an ABJD). And I know how to take care of one


I totally didn't get across what I wanted to...
I'm so tired.
Blech
I'll go to bed and try to respond later.

 

I'm sorry, I probably did not make myself clear. What I meant to say, is that I found your comments a bit "over the top", and the huge letters rather distracting- once you get to know the board better, you will probably notice that they are very rarely used. Aaaand... back to the topic. I do think that if a 16 year old European girl is old enough to collect BJD's, then so is a 16 year old American.

I don't consider BJD's to be childrens toys, as they are fragile and very expensive. But I don't really believe in an "age limit" either- it depends on the person. When it comes to stuff like this, it is really up to the parents to decide. And about the "anatomically correct" thing... tbh I find the genderless Ken dolls way creepier than a BJD.

 

I think its ok for kids to have BJDs if they are careful with them. I had other expensive dolls as a kid and I always took good care of them.

 

Erm, I might be one of the youngest people on the whole entire forum! I'm 12. I think those that are younger than 16 are possibly more mature than most. (Except me, I'm extremely immature.) Most under 16 would probably give up on getting a 300+ doll, but some are very dedicated to the hobby and are willing to mow some lawns to earn some money. It's also the (large) care and attention that goes into these dolls is what sometimes drives younger potential buyers away.

Other kids that don't know of the hobby will most likely give you weird looks for having such a doll. (And it's bits.)

But sometimes there are kids that can't be trusted with a doll..... Not sure how to describe it, just plain old carelessness?

(How dare I speak like this! And I'm 12! *smack*)

 

I think kids in all hobby that cost money are dependent of they're parents.
And some parents have better use for the money but can't say no to their children. And I think most children do not know anything about their parents financial situations. I mean parents lie to keep the family going. And so some kids can easily make more immature decisions when wanting a doll instead of a 16 year old who works to get to pay of her dream doll.

And I think kids these days are spoiled as h3ll they got cellphones, computers, game consoles ye name it and still they want more T_T. And non of them can afford them mes gawd. Come to think of it I don't think that a BJD matters that much some kids get expensive phones or laptops. I think my biggest fear is that it's just a wannabe fase and I hate that the most. That they use it to give themselves a special position.
Like they're embarrassed for not having a phone and stuff jeesz I was 18 when I got my first phone and I didn't care. And the people around me knew I didn't care so it really depends if a child is sensitive to those kind of talk.

But honestly I think it depends on the child but I wouldn't give her something she would never be able to pay herself when she's 16 orso.

 

Ayeeee >< That wasnt what I was saying, though I do apologize if it came off that way. From my understanding of DoA's rules with posting PICTURES of dolls *just pictures I'm talking about...* it's basically rated PG-13, now please, dont quote me on that because I've only heard hear-say, I havent actually looked at the rules for photography yet ><

If it was Disneyfied, than one, there wouldnt be a link in another thread to a doll thats a hermaphrodite, and also, you wouldnt have yaoi/yuri-esque photostories and all that fun stuff.

I think DoA is just being safe since younger kids are starting to get into abjd's and dont want parents suing DoA because they saw a doll's er...parts? Which is why, if you look in the Artist doll's section of the gallery, they're all censored *nodnod*

Once again, I think DoA is using their rules concerning what can and cant be posted here so that the forum is safe for those of all ages, sexes, religions, etc etc etc, and yes religion can be thrown into that due to the yaoi/yuri thing. THeyre not 'Disneyfying' anything really, just doing what they see best to bring the entire ABJD community together in a central forum where anyone of any age can feel like they're not the minority.

Legal Statement~! : Ok I'm doing this to cover my own hiney so DoA mods dont get upset with me for this post >< What I just said above is strictly my thoughts and feelings on the situation and has no connection whatsoever to what the DoA mods may have thought of when they set the rules for the forum. As for what I said concerning the photo galleries and the PG-13, that is all from hear-say that I have heard from multiple sources concerning what you can and cant post on DoA

*deep breath* Ok I think I got everything in there ><

 

I agree. In a Disney-esque place, homosexuality wouldn't exist, dolls wouldn't have man-parts or lady-bits, and people wouldn't be able to objectively discuss these things in a doll context. I think the DoA rules protect everyone's interests.

 

That, and every single doll in the history of the BJD area of dolls *including the much frowned upon off topic dolls* would be allowed...and we'd all be happy and cheery all the time and it'd be SCAREY, mass chaos, and total anarchy
*and for the record...i love off topic dolls*

 

Age is not the problem...
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ is the main problem = =+
I don't think kids can pay $7xx-8xx USD to get a doll.
Unless...the doll is from their parents, or they are in a rich family.

 

Man, they're not THAT anatomically correct. I mean, if the man in your life had a winkie like these dollies do, wouldn't you be really disappointed? I don't think our little girl is anatomically correct at all, except that she has nipples, so unlike Barbie, she will be able to breastfeed her children, and they will grow up well-bonded and with much better immune systems.

 

I'm sorry, but I severely disagree.
This isn't alcohol we're talking about, nor cigarettes. These are DOLLS.
Expensive, gorgeous, fragile dolls, albeit. But even an 18 year old can be irresponsible.
I'm 16. I take care of Emma. I love her. End of story.

And life for the growing 16-17yr population would be sufficiently more dull should we suddenly be banned from a meet.

And what do you mean about Disneyfixation? They aren't a fad. (Though Disney has been around since foreverandahalfago...)

 

Excuse me?
What biggoted spaceship did you come off of?
It seems as though you pull much of this stuff off of television and movies.
I promise, we aren't like the movies. We don't say "fuck" 190 times within 170 minutes (reference to In Bruges) and we aren't "inferior"

Please, do research before you insult an ENTIRE COUNTRY.