Is it "wrong" to let younger kids have BJDs?

I dont think its wrong... but in all truth it depends on the child. I know some kids who are mature beyond there years. and who I would trust with a bjd. And on the other hand I know some kids who wouldn't be able to handle the responsibilities of owning one.

 

It just depends on the person, their maturity level and all. Im now 17 and got my Dollmore around a year ago. I really wanted him and had the outlandish dream of owning a BJD when i was possibly as young as 14 more or less. Im not the best with pets but Im very good with my Oliver, ESPECIALLY about leaving him in the sun. hes kept safe under cloth all the time when im out, on his bed or mine

 

When I was a little girl, and I wanted something expensive and sort of needless, my mother made me save up my money to buy it. She later told me that this was a test to see if I would still want it after a month or so. Looking back, I can 100% that this is a wise idea. I managed to save/do the footwork for a few items when I was a kid that I loved for many years . Today's kids get things too fast. If they really want an expensive item, make them work at least a little bit for it. It may save a lot of expense and heartbreak on your own end ^^;.

 

A BJD might not be the best surprise present for a kid but if they want one and know they'll have to take care of it then sure. =]

 

If the child will care for, and appreciate such an item then of course! Why not? I mean, if the child doesn't really care what kind of doll they have, then from a money perspective I'd probably just buy the child a cheaper doll or something. But if they really loved the BJD for what it is, and it would care for it, then I think it's fine!!

 

I am not sure abt that, but, BJD costs too much, not only money. if I have kids, I dong'y have sufficient reasons to reject them, but... minimum age is 20 years is better...

 

I don't think it's "wrong" per say.
If you're talking about teenagers, then a lot of 13-15-year old are really mature, and save allownces and chore money to get their own dolls. There are teenagers that ask their parents for dolls, and end up taking good care of them. Likewise, there are teenagers that ask their parents for dolls and do not. Those types don't last long, so they aren't much of a problem. As for younger kids, I'm not sure. It's definitely not something to give a little kid to play with freely, and if that did happen it'd be more of the parent's fault. I know that if I was a parent and wanted to give my kid one, I'd start them off with a vinyl BJD or a tiny, or if it was a fully-fledged resin BJD; I'd only let them play with it under supervision, and teach them to take good care of the doll and not leave it lying around like other toys.
I can't imagine someone getting their young child a $300+ doll and letting them throw it around, but who knows. There are parents that buy their kids $600 game systems that they mistreat. I know it makes a lot of people in the BJD community uncomfortable, but it's really the parent's choice what they spend on their kids.

Personally, I'm 13. I got my own dolls by painfully saving for months and months. It was a great lesson in self control, dedication, and patience. I did loads of research before even looking for which doll I wanted, every single day was nothing but reading and searching and looking at everything BJD related. I'd definitely say I'm mature and knowledgeable enough to be owning BJDs.

 

Is it wrong? It is an inanimate object that does not pose unnecessary risk to a child so I fail to see how it could be actually "wrong". For all the emotion and personality we put on these dolls they are not actually living beings, they are dolls. They have no feelings of their own and if they are broken all that has been lost is the money spent. There are quite a few dolls out there cheaper than many of the items given to children ages 9-15 all of the time. I can buy some dolls for $100-$200, cell phones, game systems, computers, and MP3 players can all cost well into that range if not more. My son saved all of his allowance and gift money and purchased a $50 video game recently, to me it is a waste of money, but it is his money and he is mature enough to save it and decide how to spend it (he is almost 9). I know that he is a very gentle child and always takes care of his possessions but if that game breaks it is his money that is lost. The rule is any item, whether purchased on his own or given to him as a gift, once broken will not be replaced by myself or hubby. If he wants it back he will have to save to replace it. These are inanimate objects, whether a game system, an action figure, or a doll, they do not have feelings. He has been asking for a doll of his own for a couple of years now, pretty much since hubby and I started collecting. I always told him no not because I was afraid he couldn't care for it but because I thought it was a fleeting interest. The requests have become more persistent recently and the only thing he has asked for for his birthday in a couple of months is his own dollzone rabbit. So I found one on the marketplace and brought it home. I will give it to him for his birthday. I have no doubt that he will be very very gentle with it though I hope he enjoys it as much as he thinks he will. In the meantime he is saving his allowance with every intention of ordering this doll for himself when he has enough, he doesn't know he will be getting it as a gift. I am a firm believer in allowing children to spend their own money on whatever they want so long as it isn't dangerous to them in some way. I don't see any harm in these dolls.

 

I agree that it depends on the child and also the parent. Children can be taught how to handle things if they're interested and have a willing and patient guide who'll be consistent and lead by example.

 

If only considering the costs of owning a BJD, I'd probably step back and reconsider if a younger child is ready to handle such an expensive thing. But taking a way that factor, I think if a child is capable of giving proper care to their posession, it's not much different than an adult owning the same thing and giving it an equal amount of proper care.

 

I know that this isn't entirely ontopic, but 2 years ago my sister (then aged 11) saved up birthday/christmas/pocket money for over a year (aside from a couple of small things) in order to buy herself a laptop. If she had instead chosen to save up for a doll, I don't feel anyone would be able to tell her she shouldnt have it just because she was young. If the family can afford it, or the child is willing to save up for it, I would have no problem with a child having one.

 

I see nothing wrong with letting a young child own a ball-jointed doll. These dolls are beautiful. If a child feels that they can take proper care of a doll, then why stop them? I don't see age as an issue. Plus, who's to say adults always take perfect care of their dollies?

 

I think kids can have a BJD as long as they appreciate it and treat it with care. They have to understand first that BJD are not like normal barbie dolls or whatever else they play with cause some kids can be really aggressive in playtime.

 

I think a good age to let someone have a bjd is 14. Not all of us aren't mature. I love my dollies very much and they don't have a scratch on their face!

 

I've seen parents buy their kids $500 backpacks and all sorts of other crazy stuff. I think it's rather foolish just like I think it's foolish to buy an extremely expensive doll for a child who may not care properly for it, and may find BJDs to be a passing fancy. However, no matter how stupid, annoying, irresponsible, or foolhardy I might find giving overly expensive items to children, it certainly isn't "wrong".

 

I don't think that it is wrong at all. I believe that it is just a matter of how much passion that person have and how much effort he/she puts in in taking care/saving up for the doll.
I started loving BJDs when I was 14, started saving up when I was around 15 and finished saving up for my doll around two months before my 16th birthday.
The last two month of 'waiting to be old enough to get a debit card' was nearly unbearable.
I have now ordered my first doll (a luts Delf) ^w^

 

I think if we are talking about an individual child who would appreciate and care for the doll and who would be conscious of the value of this as an item, then why not? I would have loved these dolls when I was a kid but would have been pretty daunted if one was given to me as a gift, I'd of been terrified to touch it!

On the other hand, some children, and I'm talking personal experience here, have absolutely no idea how to treat their own things and are very careless. They have no concept of the value of money and when they wreck their latest computer, game station or whatever, they don't turn a hair and expect a new one to be supplied immediately...

Those children should banished to a dark dungeon somewhere and forced to eat worms... and definitely no BJDs for them! Can you see why I don't have children?

 

I think it depends on the child my daughter was 13 when she had her first doll, she allways took very good care off her.

 

I think its normal for kids, but slightly can be unnormal for doll itself. When kid (he or she) taking care of her (his) dollfie, i think it will be even some good experience for them.

 

like what many said , it really depends on the child....However I think it's best to give the young ones a chance to save up their own allowance bit by bit to get one,it's one way which will ensure that the kid will definitely take good care of the doll.

Although I see that I have no rights to say that ......since my current love and the coming ones are all gifts from my parents.....
Yet that doesn't apply to a kid only ,adults too-_-; I swear I hate showing dolls to adults during 70% of the time,the words from them(mostly) were nonsense....So I guess it really depends on the person him/herself instead of just judging alone by the age....The same question apply on both parties,nobody says that adults will definitely take good care of their stuffs especially one who came from a rich environment?