It Just Makes Me Want to Sell Them!

I can only assume from what you have written above and it seems that you are frustrated. Again, that is an assumption. For reason 3, why does someone else's opinion of your dolls matter?

 

Well, technically someone elses opinions shouldn't matter, but the fact is that often times they do. Ever since I got into a huge fight with my mom over my collection (it was the usual 'weird, stupid, waste of money' speech) and she literally told me she wanted to break them all and get rid of them, I haven't done hardly ANYTHING with my dolls and sometimes I feel like selling every last one of them. I honestly feel so off about them that most haven't left their spots on my dressers and are actually collecting a thick dust layer.

Other times if I get p.o.'d about something unrelated to dolls entirely, for some reason I feel like selling them all, too. Don't ask me why... xD

 

I'll go with Rossyln's answer on #2 And again, and again, and...

Yes, sometimes the frustration gets to me. You'll notice if you look at my profile that I haven't often followed through with the "just SELL the darned things!" impulse. I probably should, a little more often...

I also hear you on the clothes front. But even a lazybutt like me can make clothes; it's not rocket science. It just takes practice and a willingness to be the poster child for Fail every so often.

On the "creepy" side of things - well that's harder to deal with if you're at all thin-skinned. But if I could survive the snorts of disbelief from my 77 year old dad, you can survive a "creepy", too. For every snort of disgust I've encountered there's been a "wow, those are really interesting!" or a "well hey, I wouldn't own one but I can see that they give you a lot of enjoyment!" ... and really, that's all that matters in the end.

 

Yep. So it all boils down to what you really feel is what will help you be happy. Keeping the bjds or letting them go. It's all up to you^.^

 

You could always commission someone to make clothes for your dolls and/or commission someone to give her a face up. You just need to save up for it. (: Or keep practicing and learn how to sew and do better face ups. I can't do face ups to save a life so I bet I'd just cry my eyes out if I ever tried doing one. I know I'd fail. You're brave to have to have tried to do one yourself.

As for people telling you your dolls are creepy, learn to ignore them. ^^

I don't think I'd ever want to sell my dolls as they're very important to me but if I had to, it'd be because I needed the money very badly. But even then, that would be my last resort. And if one broke a finger or chipped himself by accident, I'd find a way to fix it. I would never just sell them off in order to get a replacement.

 

Exactly I have an MSD and an SD and the clothes I want for one are always in the others size. I agree with some above posters that sewing or commissioning are sometimes the best route. I also find that wading through the HUGE amount of clothes on the MP here I tend to find some cool/interesting clothes but without your dollies personality shining through the clothes are not going to make much of a difference.

I think sometimes all of us get annoyed at how hard it is to get your doll how you pictured him/her but that is also sometimes the best part of this hobby. I haven't been into BJD's long and already I know how wonderful it feels to put in those perfect eyes and see a lifeless face come alive, or to put on a random outfit and realize....this is perfect this is the right style. Everytime I change something on one of my dolls and it works out I get happier and happier with them. The high of seeing your long loved and long suffering dollie finally starting to come together is a million times better then the resin high from opening that box for the first time.

 

I felt the same way about my Serendipity Charles. nothing ever looked right on her, and I could never get her a personality or even a name to stick! I've had her for 5 years now and she was my first doll. Gone through major modification and I think 10 different faceups. I always think of selling her but then think "One more faceup, if I still can't get her right I'll sell to to someone who can love her better than me."

But I did find love in another doll, and many more. I don't know if I will ever give up this hobby.

 

I agree with the rest. Faceups and clothes can always be commissioned and there are plenty of people on DOA who can help you in that regard. Clothes especially can be bought on the second hand market and they are a lot cheaper that way. About the third problem..there is always someone who is going to find your dolls creepy. Try to ignore them. After all..they probably have interests that YOU find creepy.

 

aww PinkPoodle, I hope you can work it out to stay in the hobby longer. I think the things you sew are adorable and so does my daughter. I've purchased several of your things for her RS Mei (I don't have an MSD size of my own) and they all look so lovely on her. I've purchased the dolls I have based on the fact that I really like them and they all happen to be inexpensive ones (because I'm a tightwad!). I love to look at the more costly dolls, knowing I would probably never pay that much for them, but I also see sooo many dolls that are affordable that I love just as much. My next doll will most likely be a Resinsoul because they are so dainty and elegant looking in my mind. As far as your husband thinking they're creepy, I would suggest to talk to him about how you feel. I know my husband doesn't share my fascination with my dolls and he rolls his eyes at me all the time, but I would be hurt if he kept telling me they were creepy. Hang in there! I think your dolls are really lovely! *hugs*

 

If I have a doll that I don't find has much of a character for me, or I can't seem to find the look I want or is right, then the doll gets sold..there is reason I don't find the look, personality whatever.

there are clothes I wanted for my dolls so I've learned to sew...I never knew how before so I can honestly say, having these dolls have helped me grow..{and I learned metric!}, I personally don't like EMO, Jrock, Lolita styles and wanted certain looks..so either I really hunt out the styles I want or get patterns, and from them make what I want.

I guess I am lucky as I have never had anyone say my dolls are creepy...I wouldn't care anyway..I didn't buy them for the other person.. and if they kept saying it I would tell them, "well you're an idiot and I still hang around with you" LOL well I wouldn't say that...um yeah I probably would..

 

This is so true! I find myself wishing for my little YO back because of how darling all the cute clothes are!

 

aw, Pinkpoodle, I gotta say, up until your reply I really wasn't able to connect with you. I don't assign characters to my dolls (currently 'doll', but with a second on the way) so its not a problem for me.

And as for the faceup, my doll stayed without one for over a month and was still beautiful to me and still made me happy. I did her first faceup and was pleased, then decided it should go darker and I darkened it and am still pleased.

Ok, now#3 is where I can see your frustration. My first thought was 'gee, that's rough, but I don't have that problem. everyone's been so supportive of me and my doll' but then I read that it was your husband. My boyfriend (might as well be my husband after 6 whole years!) sometimes can be really nagging and hurtful about my hobbies. Example: he would complain ever single time I turned on DanceDance Revolution, and one day I just couldn't turn it on anymore. I was fed up and it just hurt too much. And even though I sat him down and tore him a new one about how much he had hurt me, I still to this day can't turn it on.

My doll just brings me so much happiness, I really hope it works out for you. *ehugs* I know every relationship is different, but I really hope you can get it worked out. Maybe after he accepts your hobby you can buy a new doll that you'll reallly love.

 

Reason 1 and 2 : Maybe if you can sew then you can make them the cool clothes you would love to get for them ?! I collect ideas, search through the mags I own and see what I can do out of this.
Also maybe the eyes or wig is not right ?! Maybe the face up is still not the good one ?! I have the chance to know exactly what I want and until now all has been ok ( have to say it can take me 1 month before to buy a pair of eyes lol ) but I know someone who crawl under wigs and eyes because don't find the right one. Be patient and continue to search.

Reason 3 : It hurts, people can be cruel and stupid but you can't live on people opinions.
When I took pics for the Sock couture contest one of my stupid neighbour, first spy me behind her window until she comes outside to smoke and giggle like a real retarded ( thought to call asylum for a moment ) with her daughter. I was ready to shot her but thinking twice who is the most ridiculous, me and my doll or her smoking like hell and smelling bad and most of all acting like a mental o-o ... *has no love for smoker u_u* so she can laugh as much she wants, I really don't care even more when someone else came and made compliment !

To be honest reasons 1, 2 and 3 are not good reasons for me to sell a doll. Because there is always a way to solve those 3 points. That hobby ask effort and patience and also the fact to feel frustrated and more. If you don't like the doll sculpt then yes sell them, if you just dislike a face up, change it. And there are so many clothes around that I doubt you wouldn't find something.

 

PinkPoodle - i had that issue w/ my husband a little at first. Explain to him how it makes you feel and how you'd really love to have his support in this hobby that makes you happy. Also, sometimes men (making a huge generilization here i know) don't like how they LOOK at first but get interested in the stringing and the mechanics of BJDs and how they pose, it's worth checking out to see if your man is one of those. Once my husband got over seeing my dolls as pretty things that sit there and started seeing them as complex customisable objects he got a little more enthusiastic.

 

Spend some time thinking about what you want this doll to be you don't have to rush and either learn to sew or get to know some one who can to help you make the clothes you envision and for people who call it creepy give them give them the one finger salute.

When people get down on me or my hobby i tell them where to stick it how hard and politely offer to buy the lubrication, when they are done picking their jaw off the floor they usually leave me alone

 

My reasons for wanting to sell my dolls... I want to have a college education and a couple of these heads would guarentee that. But... I love my dolls too much. I listed them for sale just recently and then realized I couldn't do it.

When other people insult my dolls by calling them creepy. I just feel protective of them even more but it doesn't make me want to sell them. And as for clothes... they look fabulous even without them. But some outfits do kinda not go as planned.

But there are things outside of the hobby that make me want to sell them.

 

MSDs have all SORTS of awesome clothes! They really do! Even if she is a mature mini or a regular chubby kid MSD, you can find all types of awesome clothes for her.

Here are a few links for you.

Anotherspace makes awesome clothes for slim minis, regular msds and SDs too.

Volks have loads of normal MSD and Slim mini clothes. I'm sure you can find some nice things there as well.

And I wouldn't worry about people calling your dolls creepy. In fact, you could just tell them "Hey, you already told me you didn't like them, I don't need to be told again." That should shut them up.

 

1. I can't advise on this because part of the fun for me is trawling for hours, going through the BJD Companies list just to find *the* right piece of clothing for my dolls, and it feels great when you can finally bring it home

2. Have you tried looking around the customisers threads to find a faceup artist who's work you love and maybe commissioning them? I adore Ladious' faceups (and now have 2 ) and have recently comissioned Bread17 because I think her work is outstanding... when I sent my LuWen off to be painted by Ladious, he had no character/bonding whatsoever, and now he is one of my most cherished dolls

3. I am lucky in that my husband likes BJD's, and even adopted one of my guys when I wasn't bonding with him... I think your husband should be more tolerant if I am honest with you. Tell him that his name calling hurts, if he cares at all for you he will stop being so immature and let you enjoy your hobby. Anyone else doesn't matter.

Failing the above.... do you think maybe it's the sculpt that is not inspiring you? Have you maybe thought of selling the doll you have currently and maybe looking for a fresh new start? Maybe leave the hobby, but hang around in case someone else catches your eye?

Good luck in your decision

 

I find it funny how you seem to find the clothes you want for your MSD in SD size. As me and my friend always find clothes we want for our girls in MSD size. Lol. XD

But yeah. I do get annoyed sometimes at some things. Like, how my girl will probably be doomed to only own one pair of of long pants. Haha. She's a bit of an odd size, kinda in between. And her measurements are close to some other dolls, but I suppose not close enough. I bought her two pair of pants that might fit, but ALAS! They didn't. = A=
I also bought my new boy some pants and a few shirts, which seemed to be to small on him. Now I have to spend more money on getting him clothes that will fit. OTL
I don't have a problem with face-ups, as I got defaults. And personality, that came easy to me.

I don't think I'll ever feel the need to sell the two dolls I have now. As I love them to death! But I wouldn't be surprised if one day I get a doll that wasn't what I expected. Maybe then I'd feel the need to sell the doll. But not for any reasons you've suggested. XD

Sometimes it just takes a little time.