It Just Makes Me Want to Sell Them!

Volks USA would be ideal for me, but for one thing: They don't ship outside of the USA, Canada, and Mexico, so I will have to use the Japanese store.

If I had the money I would set up a UK BJD Importation company, but I don't.

Phil.

 

I was thinking that it would be good for you to look through DoA and find someone who sews to create something for you. I , on another Forum, two years ago, did this for a doll. I wrote what I wanted and I had 3 seamstresses respond and then I ended up working with one of them and I LOVED what she did. We really communicated.
The same about a face up. You can "talk" to different face up creators and see who gets what you want.
This time of year, I think alot of people are down. They find it hard to feel positive about things. So I would suggest you just relax, be patient and see what happens.

As far as people not appreciating your dolls-who cares? That is your hobby, not theirs. Maybe they collect something creapy, too.

 

In regards to your "Reason 3";

Who is it that's calling your doll creepy? Is it your family, friends, or just strangers? If it's someone you know, like your husband or friends, you should probably talk to them about how it makes you feel and explain to them that you enjoy your hobby and would appreciate their support, not their criticism. If you take your doll out in public and are tired of hearing comments from strangers the easiest thing to do is simply stop bringing them out. I never bring my dolls out in public unless I'm at a meet or with another doll-toting friend, and even then I'm hesitant. I'm a pretty private person so I prefer keeping my hobbies to myself and enjoyin them on my own time. That way I'm doing something that makes me happy and I don't have to worry about other people giving me a hard time.

Ultimately, though, the decision to stay or leave the hobby is entirely up to you. If you aren't enjoying your small MSD dolls, maybe sell them and give a totally new size like SD or tinies a go. Or maybe choose a different MSD. The one thing you should NEVER do is let other people's opinions dictate what you do or affect what you enjoy. That will only lead to bitterness and resentment towards the people who pressured you to drop something you like, and sadness and unfulfillment for you.

 

Let me tell you, in THESE hard economic times every seamstress who is running a doll clothing business is only too happy to make a commission. Take a look at ebay for instance...dozens of pages of outfits with no bidders. Look over the seamstresses here in the Commission and For Sale sections, see whose clothing and prices you like, and get what you want custom made. Just because someone is only showing things in SD size, it doesn't follow that they can't make the clothing in MSD.

 

Sometimes I look at my dolls and this feeling of anxiety comes over me. There is sooooo much money behind that resin! Sooooooo much! Thing is, though, that if I sold them all I would just... Have more money in the bank. Before I got into dolls, I didn't buy much at all, maybe four or five video games a year and some art supplies. That's probably why I was able to just dive in when I made the decision and spend some of that money I had saved up. If I sold them, I wouldn't go buy tons of other stuff... Except maybe a guitar.

My boyfriend tells me that I should go ahead and get them now, before all my money is demanded in bills and such (I'm still in college and am in state, so the tuition is manageable).

Anyway, I would only sell them if you were tired of them and don't get any enjoyment from them (or if you need to financially, but that's another story!).

 

Because you are reluctant to sell her, we can establish that you ARE attached to your doll, so it seems like the only issue is that you can't find a "personality" for her. Why do you feel so pressured to do so? Do you want to make photostories or something like that which would demand a personality? Quite frankly it is ALWAYS hard for me to find a "personality" for my dolls, and given that they are inanimate objects, there's no real need to. All that matters is that you enjoy the doll and since you are attached to her you seem to enjoy her at least a little.

 

I get so upset with one of my dolls- Jilly that I just want to sell her. :< Nothing I do with her seems right even though she's a beautiful doll. I've considered getting her a new body, but I don't want to spend the money and hate her still. I would cry! I've actually gotten really upset over this and I just want to be rid of her at times, but then I stare at her and she's so pretty.

 

You have my permission to wipe it I'll even do another one for you some time if you want me to try to make her look different.

 

No, I haven't ever wanted to give mine up. About the creepy thing--you have no control over other people and their reactions, however how you react to their remarks is fully up to you. If I were you, I wouldn't let it ruin your fun. That would be giving them an awful lot of power over your hobbies.

The other stuff often comes with time. I've had a few dolls that took me over a year to get figured out. Now how long you want to wait it entirely up to you, so I can't give you any real advise there other than to say it's not just you, some dolls are just a little tricky.

 

"Reason 1 is that I can't find the right personality for my msd doll, and I think a lot of the problem is because all of the cool clothes that would be awesome for her are all sd sized. Why do sd dolls get all the cool clothes and shoes?"

(TxT)...i hate it...wig, clothes...i saw in iple, uh, so many option for sd size (TxT)

 

I see that you have BBBs; I have several, and believe me, I know their bodies inside and out by now. If you don't want to go to all the trouble of taking her apart and hot-glue sueding the joints (which makes a big difference) I STRONGLY recommend adding wire, which you do NOT need to take the doll apart to do. Wiring changed the doll I have on that awful BBB Luna body (believe me, this is a body that makes every other body BBB does look like a work of high art) into something that can keep and hold a pose well. It is VERY easy to do. Pop down to the Workshop section where I and several other people describe how to do it. There are a couple more mods I want to do on the joints but that is going to have to wait until warmer weather when I can carve and sand outside.

 

the only time I have ever considered selling my dolls was to do with relationship issues with a partner of mine, things were messy and at the time everything that brought me pleasure seemed to be too much hassle...that is well and truly passed though!

 

Well my own feeling about this is that you should sell the doll. I have had to buy and sell allot of dolls to find the ones that would stick. It is a hobby and thats how you need to put it to your husband its not like buying a piece of furniture you buy it and your stuck with it. You can sell it and someone will love your girl.

Maybe your afraid that once/if you sell her then your husband will not be happy another try out doll is arriving! its very hard for someone not in the hobby to understand the hobby. If its worrying you selling is the best thing. You shouldn't have to struggle with a doll. I have found ones I had to struggle with never work out. (there has been only one exception so far, that one took 4 years to get the look I wanted!!) I never could have waited so long if I didn't have other dolls.

You may also find buying another doll my enlighten you on this one! volks dolls fyi are very nice to handle and if you can find one you like you will probly love it.

There are MANY interesting dolls.... as my sister once told me .....

You have to kiss allot of toads before you meet the handsome prince! um... theres a point there somewhere....

 

I don't know... nothign my boy's done has made me want to sell him. I love him to bits and I thought about selling him yesterday and it just scared the crap out of me XDDD
I don't want to lose him ever!!

 

I dont want to give up on the whole hobby... and truthfully.. Im sick of MSD's =/. I was SOOOO inlove with my AoD Chen but now.. I just want him out of my sight DX.. reason being: I just like SD size SOOO much more :c

*Edit* Oh yah. I can understand the 1st 2 reasons because that can be annoying. But as for your 3rd reason, I personally think that if you really loved and enjoyed your hobby, you wouldn't care if some1 thought they were creepy. Yes, I get upset if some1 tells me my dolls are creepy, but I would never sell them because of it.

 

Ok, Pink Poodle!
I can totally relate but try not to be so immature about it. (Not to insult in any way, just listen to me). Sometimes when people on the forums make me feel outcasted I look at my dolls and I think: "I'm all alone with them ... what good are they if I can't 'play' with other people with my dolls?" It's like joining any group where the cliques all sit in a circle and have each other to happily discuss everything with but leave certain others to basically sit in a corner by themselves, completely ignored. I've had it here in the forum and I've had it at meets.
Then I look at my dolls again (and I cry on the shoulder of a good friend) who makes me realize that MY dolls are for ME!!! They're not for acceptance of others who will most likely never matter in my life, they're for me! Do I love my dolls? YES. I do. They are mine. I went through the trouble of obtaining them, the excitement, the glory of the arrival of each and every one, and I will continue to do that. It's my joy - not someone else's!

So you have to try and try again with the faceup. Maybe ask someone if they will give your doll a faceup. I just did a faceup for my friend, I did not charge her, I was very excited and quite proud that she asked me to do it. It was a compliment. Read some of the tutorials here and try to do what they say. If it's just not in you then perhaps find an inexpensive artist here who will do one for you.
RE: the clothes, it's just the way it is no matter what size doll you have you will find clothes you want that are the wrong size! That's just a simple fact of life in any area!

You have to decide whether the doll itself makes YOU happy. YOU are the one who matters. If you're going to nit-pick the clothes and faceup then maybe you are not happy with this "hobby." Or maybe you need to sell your doll, buy an affordable SD in the MP that has a faceup and then buy the clothes you say you want.
We all have choices. It can be hard making them. But you need to do some soul-searching here. Other people don't matter. Make some decisions.

 

My mom think's the BJDs are very creepy, so does everyone I show them too, but, that doesn't mean I'd get rid of them for the sake of someone else's eased mind.

 

Honey, I think there's a lot of things going on here, and having seen one of your posts in another thread, I'm wondering if you have decided she's inferior because she's less expensive. It's easy to feel that when the forum is full of people easily equating spending with value, and it's hard to come back from that to see your doll clearly. Espree is a really darling doll - she has one of the sweetest, prettiest face sculpts ever. I never tire of looking at my own Sprite, or other people's Sprites/Esprees/Ariels.

Floppiness is easy to fix on a BBB MSD. Open her head cap, take her strings, yank upwards and retie. You shouldn't even need to hot glue suede (although hot glueing is cheap and easy - look at the esthetics forums). The lesser wrist and ankle posability is one of the tradeoffs you get for getting an adorable doll with silky resin for an unbelievable price. You can improve it a lot by adding s-hooks and hot glue, if it bothers you - look through the forum for tips.

As for personality - well, I can understand. I've started to put my limited DiM Choseol up for sale more than once, but something always held me back. I finally found the right personality for her, and it was nothing like I imagined - she's my sweet vampire child now. She's waiting for vampire eyes, and I don't think I'd ever part with her. So the right personality might come. If something is holding you back from selling, I think you might know, really, that she's the same pretty doll you originally wanted, and it's other stuff that's bothering you.

If you've been a) expecting instant bonding and out-of-the-box love, and b) are comparing your doll to others and wondering if yours is good enough, I don't think selling and replacing her is going to fix the problem because you are putting amazing pressure on yourself and on a doll. Some people do have love matches with dolls right from the start, but there are a lot of threads in DoA where people are worried (or relieved to find others) who don't have mystical my-doll-is-perfect experiences and feel let down or disappointed when dolls arrive. It might be worth looking at what you expected to feel, and what hole you're trying to fill - it's a lot of weight to put on a resin toy!

And the last thing, the creepiness - gah. Try saying straight-out, "It's really hurtful to me when you say things like that. Are you really intending to cause me pain? Why?" Sometimes people really don't realise how insensitive they are being, and are shocked when confronted by it. No one has to like dolls, but they should be respectful of the fact that you do.