"Its a doll, its not a real person."

It really... really has. I'd suggest doing a search as there are a lot of threads like this already and really the topic of 'are dolls real/people/my babies' is starting to feel like a dead horse and we just keep on beating it.


Anyway, I'm afraid they're right, as much as we might love and enjoy our dolls they're not people, they're lumps of expensive plastic we like to lavish attention on so really, if you're going to speak or behave in a way that isn't generally encountered in public, such as speaking for your doll or talking about them in such a way then I think it's pretty understandable that others who aren't into dolls are going to think you're a little tapped. I don't see why they should have to worry about offending someone because they don't happen to believe their doll is a person, because really, it's not.

 

I talk to my boy sometimes.
Especaially when i'm putting pants on him since he's so stuborn he kicks me everytime.
I swore at him too, when his knee joint pinched my finger I was all, "wtf Aubrey that wasn't nice."

And my dad was all like, "your talking to a doll!?"

Though, he's loosened up a bit, yesterday I left Aubrey in the living room and my dad was all, "whats up dude, dudeee, whats up? Dude can't you talk?"

LOL.

But yeah, my boys not a real person, but he's a character from a novel that took me a long long long time to write, so it's a huge part of who I am...considering it took me 5 years to write the thing.

My friends, at least the girls, are really supportive of me as well. One of them knows my doll by name. I've never really been on the dot mainstream, so me owning and talking to dolls isn't really odd for me. I think if we feel this way for our doll/dolls theres nothing wrong with it. I don't like calling things by this or that.
But when I really think about it I think each doll does have a personality. Mine is so kicky is made him out to be really michivious in a way. To me, its like my dad and his cars. A lot of people name their cars. For the longest time we called our car a she >.<. Then when it was really icy out we used to always say things like, "common girl, you can do it," when going up hills. It's wierd but theres more of an attatchment to something that you've gone through a lot of difficulty with.

If there's people out there that think i'm strange because I talk to objects, *shrugs* they can think that, but I'm not about to change to fit in to society. I've learned who my real friends are, and I know that nothings going to chase them away now. >.< lol.

 

Its an imagination thing. There are just some really unimaginative people in the world.
I mean it may sound a little strange to people when we talk to our dolls or talk about them as if they are real.
We all have incredibly different perspectives. I at least try to be a little careful to who I talk to. I try to see if the person is ok with this kind of thing or not. When i tell people about my dolls I talk about them like they are characters. and not like a little kid when they say, 'Oh my dollie doesnt like eggs D:.'(nothing wrong with that! ;D) Or something.
For an example, if someone asks something of Knox for example, I'd say like, oh hes the kind of person who wouldnt do that, or He's the kind of guy who would like that.

 

I understand what you are saying and I am thinking you are probably young. This is not a bad thing to be young. As I have gotten older my dolls have become more works of art for me to dress up and admire. I don't talk to them in the sense that they are real but more of look how gorgeous they look. I also do not have feelings for my dolls such as if I take out their eyes or remove their clothing. I have children in real life so that may be part of it. But don't ever let anyone make you feel bad for how you feel. If your dolls start talking back to you, you may have a problem. As long as your happy who cares what other think. That being said I rarely talk about my dolls to non doll people and when I do I describe them more as artwork than a play thing and for me they are.

 

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I've had the Hubby remind me my dolls aren't real when I've said something he thinks is odd. But, he's also made comments in a similar vein (i.e. "Your doll just tried to grab my butt again. Make him stop it.").

All my dolls are character dolls. Some of these chars have been living in my head for a short period of time (less than a year) and some have been there for close to 20 years. This makes the character very real to me, which I believe helps me as a writer, but ultimately I know that these are just the imaginings of my quirky mind. Same deal goes with the dolls. While I may have attached a particular character to a doll and love them to pieces because of the connection doll and character have in my head, I know they are still nothing more than a very pretty inanimate object.

 

I don't have a doll yet, but I get that a lot when I say things like "Oh he's SOOO adorable!"
and I usually ignore it. It's my thing, and I enjoy it.

 

I dunno, they may not be 'real people' any more than a beloved book character is, but TO ME, that doesn't mean I love that 'person' any less...
I kind of think of them as vessels for positive energy, and so it's not uncommon to catch me cuddling or talking to them while watching a movie or whatever, hehehe...
It's all in the mind/mindset of the beholder I guess, I know other ppl who name and cajol and encourage their cars, bowling balls, etc. *shrugs with a grin*

 

I always get that from my parents. Sometimes it makes me feel bad but usually I ignore it. Some people talk to there cars, or yell at the tv when they play video games so I WILL talk to my doll or comment on his mood.

 

While I don't necessarily see my dolls as 'real people', they have names and the characters have a personality that has been formed in my mind. Because of this I do feel affection and may treat them at times in a human like manner. It's not because I think they're 'real' but rather I know the personality that my mind connects with the doll so I know how said character would 'feel' and think etc. I don't expect most people to get it, but I do expect them to be somewhat respectful atleast. Some of my friends have hobbies I just don't get, and we'll tease each other light heartedly, but we're respectful and appreciative of the differences that make us quirky and love each other. (Even my friend who plays tough guy and is scared of my doll saying to burn it or it'll kill me in my sleep - I find this hilarious btw)

 

Hell, I talk to my dolls, not all the time but I do, and when I occasionally bump into them I apologise, over politeness or am I mad? Who knows. I'm one of the people who knows a bunch of RP/LARPers/Gamers/Artists so our imaginations are constantly erm, frantic? My friends don't really care, my friend is very attached to his material things which are video games and dvds. The one friend who does comment merely says "I think they have been breeding, there are more of them" xD

 

LOL Yes 21 is young. I did not mean it in a bad way just in a your thoughts and tastes will change and that is okay. Being young is awesome that is why so many of us miss it so much. I am almost 40 and 21 seems so long ago. But enjoy it , it was my favorite age.

 

Im glad I have a syndrome I can blame on when it comes to giving mortality to my dolls (and various other objects)

Due my Asperger Syndrome, I attach myself to objects (and pets) better than humans. I talk to them like real people, and treat them as such. But of course I know they are just objects, and when Im maintaining them, I know that. Its not like I weep my eyes out like I am slaughtering them when its time to restring them.
- My friends and family accept that aspect with me, mostly because its a part of my child-like charm... And that the dolls give me comfort, so I wont feel sad or alone.

 

I get very emotionally attached to my dolls, and feel very concerned about them if I neglect them etc... I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

Even within such a small hobby there is inevitably variation between enthusiasts: some people feel that their dolls are like their children, others keep them behind glass for display only and never play with them. Those are both totally valid ways to interact with bjds, in my opinions.

Clearly I know in my logical mind that they are not humans, but I enjoy treating them as such and interacting with them that way. That is part of the fun for me! I don't want children, and I don't have any pets so they fill that role for me I guess.

Luckily most of my friends like dolls (all kinds) and treat them as though they are little people. They ask to know their names, and are very gentle with them.
I'm lucky I guess!

 

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Hahaha your comment cracked me up. You are not odd you are actually super sweet. The first time I ever went to a doll show you chatted with me while I waited for my friends. You may have odd tastes, I did see your 6 armed girl but that is what makes life interesting. Who wants to be "normal" anyway.

 

Hey, I figure, if a guy can name his car and call it his "baby," then my doll can be talked about as though he were a real-ish person. :P It's all for fun. If someone thinks it's weird, then they're just not fun people to begin with.