keeping in touch with previous owners

I think too it depends on the previous owner. If she likes to be in contact with the buyer then it is ok... but i would fell like bahh.. .disturbed... when someone send me pictures of a item i sold him.

 

I had one of my dolls gifted to me once her owner moved overseas and I always tag the previous owner on facebook in pictures when i've done something new to her doll. We were never the closest friends, but when she gave me Angelique, its was such a lovely gesture and I appreciated it so much, even though she said she never really had time for her doll. When I change her up, I show her what I've done, hoping she'll like it and be happy that I'm enjoying and using the gift she gave me

 

There are some people who I've done transactions with that I would actually want to be friends with, but I'm waaayyy too shy even online to try talking to someone new -__- this is why I have my dolls, I guess they fill the void of the lacking friendships in my life

 

When I got my secondhanded doll I did send the previous owner a couple of pics of the new character and a big thank you. Also did that with the body I bought secondhanded.
But to stay in touch for longer then that...well that would depend on both parties. I wouldn't mind, but I do understand that people would not like to do that for different reasons.

 

I see both the buying and selling of dolls as business transactions... Once I buy something, it's mine. Once I sell something, it's yours. That's the extent of our involvement with each other.

So, no. I don't continue to communicate with people who have purchased dolls from me or who I've purchased dolls from. I'd also be pretty seriously creeped out, honestly, if I started getting notes, or PMs or letters from a buyer or a seller. We *ARE NOT* friends just because we completed a business transaction with each other. o_0

Sorry if that sounds harsh or anti-social to you, OP... But please keep in mind that not everyone is as open to that kind of thing as you are. We're not all social butterflies, and for the more private among us, over-familiarity is A Thing.

 

I have an awesome girl that I've bought two dolls from, I send pics every once in a while say when I completed the girl I bought from her look. She seems to appreciate it. It may very well be a person to person thing. The seller and I have very open and friendly communication. However it may not be something what would work for everyone. There would be a chance it could have a negative response.

 

I would personally love if something like that happened to me ! I love just having snail mail pen pals , and having bjds as a common interest would be so cool !

 

I've only bought a couple of dolls second hand and usually from people I already know in person. I only have one doll from someone through the MP. I've considered sending her a photo of him with some of the changes I've done but other than that nothing else.

 

I have had previous owners sometimes comment on my photo's that the are happy to see their (old) dolls being loved and cared for :->

 

I think this is definitely one of those things that depends on the situation. Whether or not it's appropriate for you to maintain contact with the seller really seems to rest on why the seller sold it in the first place--if, like mentioned earlier, it was a last option to pay medical bills, or a situation similar, then no maybe it isn't such a good idea to continue communication with them after the initial transaction. But, then again, it also entirely depends on the seller themselves, too! Even if they hesitated to sell it, they might like to know that the doll is in good hands and in a happy home, or they might not... You'll just have to judge that for yourself during initial communication, I guess. Or, you can always do what I do and ask them outright if it's okay for you to message them, or if they would like to keep in touch afterwards. Just understand that when you ask that, it's okay for them to say no thank you. xD

I was very lucky when I received my first doll secondhand from someone on Tumblr--not only was she happy to know that this would be my first doll, but she was also happy to answer any questions I had regarding the hobby in general, and since our transaction we've been mutually keeping in touch with messages every now and then and reblogging each other's photos ^^ it's quite nice!

 

I sold a doll that lived with me for almost two years. She was the first doll, so I could not decide to sell her for a long time. I've subscribed to her new owner's gallery, I will watch the life of my ex-doll. Her new owner seems to be a nice person, I would be happy to keep in touch, but do not want to impose.

 

Well... I'm buying my doll from a friend, so I definitely will be keeping in touch with photos and such!

If I purchased her from a stranger, though, then I wouldn't reconnect.

 

I've only sold one doll and we still keep contact with each other. In fact, I'm starting to play FFXIVARR with her. xD

 

I think it kind of depends on the person. I sent a picture of one of my girls to her previous owner via DoA PM once she had her new outfit. But the lady stuck a note in the box that said "thanks for giving her a new home." So I took that as someone who saw her more than just an inanimate object.

I've kept in contact with the lady who a bought a head from, but she's become my go-to faceup artist so not sure if that counts. Plus she and I post in some of same discussions. So if she sees pictures of the doll head she faceup'd and sold me it's in a discussion thread, not in a PM. They're dolls not puppies lol.

I wouldn't mind keeping in touch with past sellers, but not so much with the "look how your old doll is doing" stuff. I'm definitely down for making a new BJD friend though.

 

I think it definitely depends on the person.

There's been a few people I've sold things to/bought things from/traded things with that I've kept in contact with, but you could tell by the way they write/talk that they were happy to keep in touch. They're the kinds of people that are always really pleasant and casual, and they normally include nice little notes in their shipments

However, I've dealt with several people (sellers, mostly) that I could tell were all business about the transactions, and wanted nothing more to do with me once they shipped the item out.

I personally love when people I do business with want to keep in touch. To me, this is such a friendly, niche hobby that it feels strange to be all business about things. I get so excited when people I've sold things to show me what they're doing with them. If I got rid of a doll or head, it means I can't think of anything to do with it, or I don't feel it fit with my collection well enough, so to see that someone else can get joy I never could have out of it makes me so happy :3

 

It would say it's alright if a buyer once showed me how he dressed up the doll I've sent him. That would be cool and I'd be glad that they're happy with the purchase and still excited. But I don't want to get updates to how the doll looks every now and then, I'm simply not interested. I sold the doll because I don't like it anymore, so I don't want to see it again and again once I've sold it.

Simply chatting once in a while is alright with me as keeping up a good relationship to the buyer might lead to more sales in the future ;3

 

I would only talk to a seller if I wasn't sure about something (I'm pretty bad at general socializing!), but I'd totally help my buyer out if they needed any help!

Otherwise, I don't like keeping in touch, simply because of my experience outside of the hobby. When I adopted my chinchilla, I promised to give general updates to his old family. But after the first text update a few months later, I got this guilt tripping 'kids are missing him soooooo much' text that freaked me out so much I never contacted them again. Was she trying to stop me reminding the kids that their pet was sold? Was she trying to guilt me into giving him back? I'll never know, but it put me off being friends with a seller forever.

 

I've had one person say "I would love to see what you do with him" after an eBay purchase, so I will get back in touch with her. Otherwise, I have mixed feelings about recontact with sellers. For some it might awaken bad memories of rough financial times when they had to sell something they cared about. I assume that most of the people I have bought dolls from were DoA members, so I will give them a courtesy notification before posting photos of their dolls here.

 

You have a transaction and never talk again. I don't see anything sad in there. Perfectly neutral. If it were, let's say, a horse or another pet, things might be different. As a previous owner, I'd like to check back every now and then to see if he/she is healthy and happy. But once a doll has changed hands, I'd rather call it quits. It's really none of my/your business anymore.