My friend doesn't like my doll's name.

Don'tcha just love control freaks?

I had a friend once that was like that. It's good that you haven't backed down, nor do you intend to, because that would only make it worse. Unfortunately, her getting her own doll may not make this problem go away. If she is a control freak, as you say, then she has obviously exhibited this behavior on other occasions. I'm afraid all you can really do is keep putting your foot down, making it clear to her that you've named *your* doll what you wanted to name it and that is that.

If she insists on still trying to make you change it, you may just have to refuse to talk to her about dolls period for her to get the message. It may not be something you want to do, but it would honestly be better than having constant unpleasant experiences with her all because she cannot grasp that she has no say in what you do with your belongings.

 

You need to have a serious talk with your friend, I'm afraid. Remind her that respecting each other's opinions is part of the whole "we're friends" gig, and that it is a two-way street. Mention that you're aware of how she feels, but that ultimately the dolls belong to YOU, and so you get to make the final call. By the same token, she'll get to call the shots with her own collection. "Think about how YOU would feel if I tried to rename a doll of yours" might get the point across.

It's just not a Good Thing to try to go control-freak over something that isn't yours, and she needs to understand that.

 

Sadly some people are like this, I do advice you to sit to talk with her and be really direct with her. Say you are not liking the way she's acting, she's controlling and this bother you. The dolls are yours and the names are not up for discussion. Do not dance around the subject, say if she can't stop acting like this than you two should not talk more about dolls.

Being your friend and seeing how this affect you should make her realize her problem and make a change, she may still slip but let her know when she does and she will learn to control her habits better.

 

Some people are very controlling, and that can be very frustrating. Like you said, hopefully she'll cool it when she has her own BJD to be in control of, but until that time all I can suggest is remaining firm in your position. If she says anything, remind her that as a friend, she needs to respect your wishes about your own things. Hopefully she'll get it.

 

I'll just say - if a person I thought was a friend turned out to be a control-freak and tried to control me, well, then they'd have been my friend for the longest time. I don't take well to that kind of attitude. It's your doll, you get to pick the name, the style, the outfits, wigs, eyes, shoes, background story. It's nice if she offers her opinion or feedback but that doesn't mean you MUST go along with any of her ideas. If she doesn't get that - well, it's up to you but I'd really have a serious talk with her about her behaviour.

 

I had a problem with a doll's name and a friend's opinion that was a bit different than the OP's. One of my oldest friends isn't into dolls for herself but likes watching the progress of my collection and the projects I do with them. When I ordered my first (and to date, only) male doll, she got super excited. She loved his company pics and was looking forward to seeing him when he arrived and excited to see what I did with him. His name was supposed to be Michael, but because my friend turned out to be really into the doll and Michael is a name with some trauma attached to it for her, I just couldn't use it knowing that it would ruin the doll for her. So his name is Neale instead.

In my case it wasn't a question of anyone controlling anything; I never even told my friend that I'd been planning to name him Michael before I saw how much she liked him. I just decided on my own that the doll would be more fun for me if I could freely share about him with her without her being uncomfortable, and that was worth picking a different name to me. If someone WAS trying to dictate to me what to name my dolls or how to design them... well, that just wouldn't happen and if it did it wouldn't last long. I don't have time for that kind of nonsense.

 

Ah this is tough... You do not have to change the name of your doll, no matter how much she presses you to do it. You bought your doll, not her. Tell her that you are grateful that she is trying to help but you like the name of your doll and that is that. If she continues just tell her that your aren't interested in creating stories with her. You shouldn't have to change because she wants you to.

 

I hope you can work it out with your friend. It's nice to share a hobby with a friend, but only if they respect you and your collection.
You could ask her "Why should I change MY dolls name, to make YOU happy? I am content with my doll family, and would expect that your respect for it is without conditions"