I've been reading some threads where significant others, parents or friends express concern, outrage or even forbid the buying of dolls. When I was growing up my mother had that attitude. No money, gift or item was actually mine as she might take it at anytime for any reason. I find this behavior capricious and abhorrent. I wanted to ask others the following: How do you feel about the our money, his money, her money issue. as it concerns luxury items such as our precious dorries. You might mention how you deal with it in your household. My opinion: Regarding the "my money, his money, and our money" issue in households where one person works outside the home while the other, with the dorrie habit, is either a homemaker or unemployed. It seems that the working stiff frequently guilts the homebody into giving up on their hobby by saying they aren't earning the money. Who does the house work or the majority of it? What about the cooking? Do you sit on your behind and do nothing all day? If you do housework or care for your children, then you are also "working". Further, housework and cooking are 7 days a week. What I am saying is that you deserve compensation for it. In our household we have the three types of money listed above. Our money is for household stuff. The other monies are our own. I don't ask nor do I guilt my husband into not spending his money in ways I won't approve of (he plays cards). He never asks me about where my dolls come from or how much I've spent. As soon as money passes into the category of his or hers, it actually ceases to exist for the other person in our family. Really it comes down to respect for the autonomy of the other person. I've known more people that fight about money than almost anything else, and they are always the ones that insist that they have to have joint accounts and merge all the finances and then have a huge fight when they see a big withdrawal that they didn't agree upon before hand.