Other people handling your dolls

Amen. I might tickle the baby's cheek or pet the fuzzy head, but never without permission and I never hold them unless they say, "Here, hold him for a minute."

Of course, babies I wouldn't want to hold not so much out of worry as it is, spit up, throw up, and poopie diapers. >.<'

 

Answer to your question: Yes

But not jus that, my first encounter with a dolfie person, they gave my friend a mean look when she asked if she was selling her dolls and when I asked if I could see she said sure but hinted to a sign that said "dont touch" and she looked like she'd bite me head off if I got closer...since then I've had a fear of doll owners and shy away when I see ppl together with their dolls.

 

I know three/four of my friends whom I wouldn't mind letting them hold the doll, but I would be carefull about anyone else wanting to. With something like this, maybe if they asked to, but I would have to remind them to be very, very careful with him, and not to touch his face.

With someone else's doll, if I did want to see him/her, I would ask, other wise I wouldn't touch.

 

All of my friends ask before they touch Ko, unless I outright hand him to them x3
One of my friends seemed rather thrilled to carry him to the car for me (due to my arms were full of other things)

Thankfully I haven't run into a situation where someone asked to hold him that I didn't know, I feel bad telling people no, but I'm very protective of my possessions, and don't want to seem mean ; 3;

 

I ask before I touch - including with people, even with my own family. *sweat*

I wouldn't care if someone thought I was impolite for not letting them hold my doll - screw that! I feel the same about anything in my possession; if I don't feel comfortable letting someone touch it, I make sure it doesn't happen. :-)

Unfortunately, most people being used to Barbie and the like, they don't realize how expensive BJD are, as well as how the "care and feeding" differs greatly. Touching a Barbie's face won't ruin it; oil or dirt from fingers can do things to your doll's face-up.

 

i don't really let people touch my doll
first I'm a clean freak and second, i don't want oil on their fingertip to get on my doll thus contaminating them.
oil on my finger is quite enough....
if they are close to me, like my friends, i let them.
but i ask them to be careful not to drop or rub their fingers on the doll'sface..
of course, i tell them the reason.

 

Why care what JoeSchmoe thinks of you? You paid for your right to buy your doll, he didn't.

 

Joe can be interested and kind of heart but not know a thing about these dolls! then there can be the other joes that just want to grab without thought to how you feel.

Ah its not a perfect world! sure we can say f... off but its not my first response either!

 

I would feel a bit offended if someone said I couldn't hold something since I had asked nicely and didn't just grab. I think, in general, the people who will respect your property ask before touching. Those who grab usually are the ones to watch out for.

As a doll person myself I would feel even worse if another doll owner wouldn't let me hold theirs for a moment. That would be a little embarassing and make me wonder what I had ever done wrong.

Though this guy wasn't a doll owner and you didn't know him, so it is up to you whether you want him to touch your doll or not. Even if he did ask nicely it's still your choice. If you upset him by saying no then it doesn't matter, because it's still your decision.

I let anyone who asks nicely hold Faith (well, most people. If they look a bit 'dodgey' or are making fun of him or...children...then I wouldn't let them hold him) but anyone else I'm usually fine with. I'm also ready to jump out and grab him at the first moment I think he might be in danger, and I take him back pretty soon once they've had a look. ^^;

 

As someone who doesn't yet have a little resin person living with her, I want to know about other people's dolls. I'd never touch the face (I've been on here long enough to know that doing that could get me severely maimed in some cases), but I'd really appreciate being allowed at least to stroke once the hair of or "shake hands with" a doll I've just met.

I can understand why you'd want to avoid letting other people touch your dolls... but an explanation of why would be nice, and maybe open up a conversation.

 

I'm pretty liberal with who touches my dolls- at conventions, I let people hold them, or pose them. Perhaps I'm a little too trusting, but y'know, if they seem like pretty reasonable people and I'm standing close by (usually I'll have an arm casually extended, just in case something falls) I have no problems. And I like holding/touching other people's dolls, too (after asking nicely, of course). It's partially curiousity and partially because I connect better with a doll if I hold him/her.

 

Logically I know you have a right to deny that I hold someone's doll, but there is a silly part of me that will always be sad if someone doesn't want to let me see their doll. I'm probably a bit too eager to hand over my dolls, I love it when other people show intrest in them, I want everyone to see them. ^_^;;

 

No, but there are two ways to reply:
1. With courtesy
2. Or rather rudely.

I'd go with the former. I don't see why there's a reason to snap back at someone when they pose a genuine question. ^^; A lot of people are curious, especially those who have never seen them. If you do not want someone else to touch your dolls, a kind, "No, please," (with or without an explanation) is sufficient.

 

I'm fine with letting people touch/hold Lutz&co, as long as they ask and as long as they understand that they're not allowed to touch the face. ^_^;

I'd be kind of offput if another doll owner wouldn't let me touch their doll, unless my hands were obviously coated in grease or I didn't have one of my own to reassure them with.

Though I dunno, I tend to get TOO friendly with other people's dolls if I like them. Poor Eiji, I spent half the Charlotte meet cuddling him and stroking his hair. XD;;; And I'm guilty of curling up on Violaine's couch with her Sasha for an hour or so before. XD;;; I might be slightly creeped out if someone liked one of my dolls that much. XD;;;;; Though it is a compliment. XD;;;

 

Maybe they'll think you're a snob, but they'd probably do the same thing. Who cares?

 

This thread kinda got me thinking about when I'll have my girl home, and my sister visits ... I'm going to SO have to keep my girl in my bedroom or with me at all times, otherwise she may get broken (by a 27 year old who doesn't seem to understand the concept of 'yours' and 'mine'! I could scream sometimes).

I don't think that's snobby. Accidentally rude, perhaps, but totally understandable. He was a stranger after all, and had no right to touch your doll. He did ask to see him first, however, and with most people 'asking to see' usually equates to being able to touch.

In the future it may be better to come out with the 'no touching' right off the bat. These small creatures are dear to us, after all

 

I agree with most people in that it's fine to say no.

Personally I think there's only one person who I'd let touch faces... but that's because I know how insanely clean she is and that it's not gonna mess up the faceup.

These dolls are fairly sturdy but in other way's they're very delicate. So it makes pefect sense. Just like with any other possession. Even if someone asks, it's still up to you.

Also there's a difference between holding a doll and moving an arm or a leg. You can let someone touch the doll without handing it to them. *nods* I think that's what I'll tend to do unless at doll meets or around specific people.

 

Not snobby at all! I dont let some people touch my dolls, but Im not rude about it... ^^;;; I usually let people touch em though... as long as the person isnt a young child or dirty... then they can touch em... only warnings I give are theyre heavier than they look, dont touch the face please, and if you drop it/break it - prepare to take out a loan. >_> Well I dont say that... XD but it would be funny to see the persons face if I did!

 

Personally I'd think the person is overly nervous or making too big a deal of it if they didn't let me touch their doll (not talking of very fragile or antique dolls here). Unless the person has dirty hands or is careless, I think it's OK to let people touch. Though of course it's totally your right not to let people touch your property.

 

Well, since I know how much they cost and how much work goes into them, I wouldn't be offended or bothered by being asked not to touch someone's doll.

However, I can see how people who don't know how much bjds cost and just think they are slightly fancier toys would be a bit put off by that. I think they'd understand if they knew how much a doll/faceup/outfit is worth, though.

I don't yet own a doll. When I do, I expect it shall sit on a high, high shelf in my room and I'll tell people it's made of super-fragile porcelain. :P (Seriously, though, nobody I know in real life knows a thing about bjds, so I think for safety's sake I may buy a display case and put it in there whenever company comes.)

It should be noted that I'm not a 'sharing' type of person. Maybe it's a bit of only child syndrome, maybe I just really like my stuff, but I don't like to share my things and I am extremely careful about respecting others' property.