Other people handling your dolls

Get Along Gang reference? If so, you are official very cool. ^_^

Various lines that would work to explain why you don't want someone to hold your doll:
Human skin oils can damage the doll's skin, so I'd rather only get my oils on it
Part of it was recently broken, and I don't want to risk a recurring accident (sadly, this one is true with lil' Akabane, and it's always gotten people to back down from touching him)
The joints come apart easily by accident, and it's too much of a hassle to put them back together again.

 

I don't think it's snobby at all. You gave him a reason, plus it's your doll! I mean, to someone who isn't into dolls, especially ABJDs, they might not get that they have great monetary and sentimental value. I know that I ask if I can see something I've never seen before or seen up close, but that's because I'm a curious person. I never grab or demand though. I feel a bit miffed or disappointed if the person says no, but now that I'm saving for my girl, I can understand why people would say it (for anything!). I haven't gotten my doll yet, but I know that she'll rarely leave my arms/her bag when we go out. I'd let my friends and family hold her, because I know they would respect my rules (like not touching her face or taking her wig/clothes off). In terms of a stranger, if it was another doll person, or someone who was genuinely interested in the dolls (and not the price tag), I would let them hold her. Briefly. If I was in a good mood. XD

 

I don't consider it snobby at all. I don't get why so many people seem to think that "look" equates "touch" - or why they seem to feel that simply asking to look then gives them license to grab anyway.

I do tend to be a very literal person; if someone asks to see a doll - or, indeed, any other personal possession - I tend not to see it as the person effectively giving themself permission to touch, but as a straightforward request which I can answer with a straight "yes" or "no". It's my possession, it's my right to decide who can and who can't touch it - yet people will accuse you of being rude if you say no. It doesn't seem to occur to them that their insistence on physically touching it (and often invading your personal space whilst they do it; and I have serious issues over personal space - honestly, never try to hug me unless you like sporting black eyes and broken ribs!) is rude in itself, because "they did ask first". Right, because that's supposed to make it ok? Sorry, I don't buy it. I was raised to the mantra "look with your eyes, not your hands" as a child, and as far as I'm concerned "Can I see your doll?" is the opening to a dialogue, not the precursor to someone manhandling my doll.

Personally, I don't care if someone thinks I'm rude or a snob when I tell them not to touch. Did they save up their hard-earned money to buy the doll? No. I did. That means it's up to me whether or not they are allowed to touch, not them. They think I'm a snob or rude? Hah. I could care less. They're probably a complete stranger to me, because my friends would know me better than that - so why should I care what they think?

For what it's worth, people seem to be more wary of trying to touch Marius than my other dolls; his sheer size seems to deter them.

 

I offer to let people hold my dolls. Maybe I am backwards, lol.

 

lol It's not rude to not let someone touch your doll. It's expensive!

For me, it would depend on who the person is and how they approach me. If they seem genuinly interested and curious then I would let them but if they seem grabby (already -_- ) then probably not. I've had horrible experiences with my things being broken by grabby people (who are my friends)....soo grabby ...Nothing's worse than when you keep refusing but they take hold of it...and you're telling them to stop...and the thing finally snaps in half......

I'm way to forgiving...

 

i have showed my doll to a few people no one has actually tried to hold her or touch her i keep her upstairs i have had her on the edge of my desk here and one time i am not sure who but one of my kids or their friends accidentally knocked her off and i could tell because her wig was all messed up they tried to put her back so for me not to notice but of course i did lol! i am particular with my things being a mom of two boys and having a husband, they all tend to break/wreck my things and i get upset lol i didnt notice anything with bella at the time but later i noticed her lip had been chipped just the faceup paint but still i ended up having to remove it and redo her lips and she has a lil wee chip above her eyebrow but its so slight and i cant remember if it was there to begin with i dont think so but it looks more like a scar or somehting unique to her more than a bad thing so i have left it alone she is very sturdy and i wouldnt mind others holding her. people i know anyway i dont think i would take her to work for fear of someone taking her or too much touching and her being dropped or knocked down. same with someone on the street i wouldnt let them touch her just look so i dont think ur a snob lol! most people have no idea how much these dolls cost so wouldnt know what they are wrecking or have any value to it. just out of curiosity how many people carry their dolls around? is it just younger girls or do some of us 30 something or so moms do it too lol i dont know if i wouldnt feel weird carrying my doll around but i could see a teenager doing it. not trying to offend anyone just curious.

 

I'm 33 and I'm rarely seen without one of my dolls. it doesn't feel weird at all; in fact it feels more weird when I don't have one with me.

 

This is something I do not understand. The very act of carrying a largeish sized doll everywhere you go in public while not being 5 years old or younger is attention seeking. Why do people then become incredibly rude when they receive the attention they're seeking by carrying their doll everywhere?

It's rather like cosplayers who are rude when you ask for a picture. Why wear the costume in public then if you do not want people to notice it?

I admit, I like touching things. I like making tactile connections with objects or animals or people. I do always ask if I may touch, and if you're not into it, a simple and polite decline is fine. Not the nasty responses I have gotten in the past.

 

I carry my MSD around a lot (I'm 22 btb for those who were discussing the ages of those carrying thier dolls) and I also have what I refer to as 'everyday cosplay'. Coats and shirts and things that I have made based on anime characters. I don't mind people coming up and asking me about the clothes or my doll, but I *DO* mind when people are rude to *me* about it or my doll.

I do understand your point. People who do such things really could find nicer ways to say no. I don't snap at people and polietly answer their questions and I will give them a better veiw of her, but I don't often let complete strangers grab her and hold her. I do let people touch her when they are interested in her material, but never her face. I have yet to give her a real face up since I'm no good so hers usually just rubs off >_>;

 

I think I would be hurt if another doll person told me I couldn't hold their dolls. I understand its theirs and their right, but as I have 5 dolls (one of them being very heavy *cough Kisten cough*) I feel I know how to act around dolls. But with this said, at this point, I have been to kats, otakon and local meetups. I have never had a problem with other owners not wanting to hold their lovlies. Of course I ALWAYS ask frist and am very gentle and careful with them. I admire them. I have never had anyone say no.

As for what I would do when someone wanted to hold one of my "kids"? If they are doll people that I know from DOA (aka reconize their ID name). Sure, I'll let them (I'll say something like "careful" though and watch them). Non-doll people are a different story. Is it a person around my age? If so do they look clean and nice? do I know them? if yes, then my answer is most likely yes. If not, then I go on a case by case bases. But there have been only a few times I would say no ( they were really sketchy people or my younger male cousin who is, if you'll excuse me saying, a real brat).

just my 2 centos.

 

I don't take my dolls to school with me, but I drag them along everywhere else. I don't feel uncomfortable but that may be for two reasons:

1) I don't look people in the eye, so I don't actually know how many wierd stares I get.
2) I'm sixteen. Maybe it's still regarded as "cute" or something, haha. x__x

 

Cyrus i would allow ONLY doll people to hold him. They know how much he is and what to expect weight wise and such. There is a respect that other doll people have that the general population lacks. However, NO ONE touches Arion. He's my all time favorite mold and I don’t want anyone responsible for him but me. If ANYTHING were to happen to him I wouldn’t be able to replace him. And I don’t want anyone to feel the guilt of knowing that they ruined/ destroyed/ maimed something so special. (Before they died under my wrath)

^^ that’s why I avoid holding other peoples dolls unless i MUST. (like if a doll is falling and i can save it or something)

 

I've just decided how I'm going to handle it if someone I don't trust wants to get physical [heh...]

Untrustworthy party: "Hey, can I hold her?"

me: [sidelong glance, Mona Lisa smile]: "Okay... she bites, though."

The reactions to that oughtta be pretty interesting.

 

omg, that reminds me when not one person but two people called my doll Michael Jackson. I was so just like: ...D: Noooooo! T_T

but personally, if the person seems nice enough I'd let them touch my dolls. but like.. whenever I show people them when I'm frolicing about with them, they usually dont ask to touch. I think they are scared @_@ ... cept when I went to the fabric store. some older ladies where like: "OMG! CUTE DOLL!" so I went ahead and let them since they were nice XD .. but then again I may be too nice >.<

but ANYWAY! XD; I think it should be your own buisness if you should let people touch your doll or not, its your doll and they dont know how dear they are to you (not saying I dont love my boys, I love them to death but Uriel is an attention ho >.>) So it really depends on you if you want someone to touch your dearest.

and for pissing off wise, I'd be dissapointed I didnt get to touch but I'd respect the owners stuff D: you wernt rude. he was just like spoiled.. or something. O.o

 

You two crack me up! And that last quote would make a great t-shirt! :wink:

 

well...i'm not sure...but i've try once touch my fren's doll before i know anything about doll..she let too...so that was the first time i touch a doll finger...*sweat* hahha..but if someone would touch mine...i think i probably like u...hahaha...cause i scare ppl damage my stuff. but if they touch it softly i dun mind... I'm also worrying about this question when my girl reach..my fren wans to see her...but i scare they touch her here and there...sigh...but if dun let them touch feel like very selfish though...*confused*

haha...

 

There's nothing wrong with other people touching dolls really given:

1. They were respectful in asking for the doll
2. Have clean hands *Once the child arrives, I'll be bringing hand sanitizer in one of the pockets of the carrier for those people or for my use
3. Know how to handle fragile things
4. Will not destroy my things

All doll owners have the right to say yes and no depending on the situation. It's all a matter of personal space really.

 

It wouldn't piss me off, but only because I don't let just anyone touch my boys.

I don't think it matters if it makes you seem snobby or not.

 

I'd probably let anyone who doesn't look like they have dirty hands or look like they're going to steal him handle Tristan. I don't worry about him being broken really, he's an Obitsu, I think you'd have to take serious effort to break him. I'd be miffed if his eybrows got messed up, but his face wouldn't be too hard to fix.

The person who was going to put a sign on her doll at work reminded me of how I'd let my co-worker's 12-year old son play with my PSP/PDA because I'd tell him "If you break it you owe me $$$" and his dad would look at him and tell him how many years of his allowance that would be.

 

I would not be angry at all... I think.
I think it might bother me a bit but I wouldn't do anything ridicules, I never like when people touch my dolls without my permission, so yeah.
I think that man over reacted. -snort- what a childish thing to do!