Other people handling your dolls

I offer too but generally not to complete strangers...I brought Emil (HM Gye-Do) to a fashion doll luncheon/event and he was handled (with my permission) by probably 50 people...most had never held a BJD before and it's a novel experience...the weight and feel of them is so unique. But random strangers? no...lol

Nancy

 

People I know very well in real life are perfectly free to pick up my kids and pose them, cuddle them, change their clothes, what have you. I know these people. It doesn't bother me.

If I offer one of my kids to you, yes, you can hold him. If I hand him off to you and say "Would you mind changing his eyes out real quick for me?" then yes, it's okay to change out his eyes real quick.

If you ask, politely, and I say yes (which I may or may not, depending on the situation), then yes. You may hold my doll. If, however, I say no, you may NOT hold my doll. If you push it, I will walk away. If you follow me, I will tell security.

If these pre-existing conditions are not in place, you won't be touching my dolls. And if, by chance, you do, I don't care how snotty it may seem, I will tear you to bits for it.

It's the same principal as with anything else. You don't drive my car without my permission, you don't walk into my house without my permission, you don't touch ME without my permission. I see no problem in extending it to my dolls, when the same idea applies to everything else in life.

(edit for spelling errors, ahahaha...)

 

There seems to be some sort of universal rule about the older ladies who work in fabric stores and dolls. ^_^

I was in one this afternoon, getting the material (A medium-weight, sage green, textured silk, and a lighter weight, lighter green smooth silk-) to start making a kimono set for Nameless ('Can't have the poor boy sitting around naked when he arrives. It's winter, after all ). It was slow, so all three of the staff gals were stanading around chatting and they asked me what I was making... When I told them that the cloth and supplies were all for a doll's outfit, they were very curious about him... So I ended up telling them all about BJDs and Luts DELFs and Nameless. (They giggled over his "place-holder" name, too-)

In the end, I had to promise to bring him back to the shop to meet them when he finally arrives. I suspect he'll charm their socks off. With Shiwoo's face, how could he not?

Re: the OT... I suspect I'll treat the "touching and holding" issue with Nameless the same way I do with my more valuable antique books. If the person seems like they know what they're doing and will handle him respectfully... I'll probably hand him over, with the usual warnings about weight and not touching the face. If they give me that "I'm not going to be careful"-vibe, though... No way, no how. Hands off.

With books, a gentle "It's a lot more fragile than it looks" will usually smooth any ruffled feathers. The same line should work for Nameless.

 

LOL you and me both. I've never had a problem with people holding or touching my dolls. I brought Hijiri to Otakon 04 back when there were... maybe 5-10 other doll people with dolls there. People were fascinated but since I had an art table, they would rather accost me than people randomly walking around with dolls. I let them hold him and pet him and it makes me happy.

Yesterday, Duckie and I went out with our dolls (Lahoo and black Camine) and a lady at best buy was so intrigued. She loved them! We let her pick them up and pose them- it was really fun! We never told her their price, but she thought they were super cool

I remember my first time, I saw a big BJD in person (a 60cm). I had already owned a doll (MSD) and I had asked if I could hold him and ended up being completely ignored. O.O This was at Megacon, I think... or Otakon, I don't remember. But I remember feeling like I had done something wrong or perhaps I wasn't good enough since I only had one doll XD. I dunno. But I had really wanted to hold him ;_;

Though once at the last Yasumicon I found this girl with an El and she let me hold him and pose him. I was excited! I've loved El from afar, but finally saw one in person. It was awesome. They're so gorgeous o.o

 

There is definitely a nice vibe to fabric stores. I was in Hobby Lobby last night, helping to mind my friend's doll (my "nephew") in the child seat of the shopping cart and the lady cutting fabric was really nice and asked if she was his son. :-)

 

I guess they'll do think you're obssessed with them, but I will definitely DON'T LEAVE ANYONE TOUCH MY DOLL, sorry, I'm as rude as you can see^^UUU

 

yeah, I think a lot of people would be put off by telling them they can't touch something. But most people wouldn't understand the full context of BJDs. I would understand, but I don't really like people touching much of what I own at all.

 

Oooo I get so mad when people touch Maeve's face!!! I mean... it's not fully coated and she's a dirt magnet!!! And I hate when people turn her upside down to put on clothes... I'm so afraid the eyelashes will fall out!!! o.o
But when I go out, I take Maeve hidden inside my giant bag and only take her out when I feel safe! XD

Of course they think we're snob, but we have the right to be snobs! The doll was expensive, and taking care of her is equally expensive, so... don't mess with us!!! >: O

 

I'm quite afraid of handling my own dolls ot be honest (ever since one of my friends, who works in chemical engineering, gave me a run down of exactly what the compounds found in sweat and the oil on skin can do to vinyl given time). I suppose we all have the right to be a little paranoid about the things we love. I can't see any reasonable person being upset at a 'hands off' rule on a precious doll.

Darren.

 

Everyone has the right to say 'no' if they don't want something touched. ^^ I don't think it would be rude at all, unless you're hissing and biting and such. XD

Hard to say with me, though. I mean, if they asked nicely and they seemed like they were facinated enough to the point of having that look that says 'I'll be super careful', I would probably let them.

Haven't taken Lucciola outside yet, and I'm really iffy about doing it. n_n People aroung here are so very, very rude, and taking him to school is out of the question unless I keep him in his bag and pop him out just to show to my friends for a brief minute or two.

At cons, I would probably be more than happy, unless I get one of those uneasy feelings. That or if they're kids.

 

Do you think that by holding the doll "over to him" he might have taken it as an invitation. I too feel a little weird about strangers touching my doll, but when strangers seem to take a genuine interest, I try to keep in mind that at one time I didn't know about BJD and would have loved to have had someone introduce them to me and to be able to hold one. So when it comes to holding my doll, for me it depends on what I can ascertain about the character of the person who is asking. In Disneyland, I had the White Witch hold my doll, sleeping beauty, the White Witch's attendant was curious about her weight and one of the gentlemen working in the heraldry shop. All of them treated her with respect, asked many questions and were quite pleased to have had the experience. However during my photoshoot in the Heraldry shop a little girl ran up to her. It was like she saw her as another Disney Character, I spoke really softly to her (of course i'm thinking OMG please dont grab Celeste), I said something like. Hi honey you can look at her but you cant touch ok. She just stared for a little bit, lost interest and ran away.

Just my 2 bits

Hugs,
Anna M.

 

The other day I took my doll in to school -- I had just gotten her a new wig that looked so amazing on her I've decided it's her default, and I was so in love with her all over again I didn't want to be separated, even for the day. I received the normal amount of attention ("what the heck is that?!" "... why do you have a doll?!" "Uh... Grace? Are you all right? In the head?") and it was all fine. Very few people in my group of friends and acquaintances feel the need to touch my doll (they're all a bit freaked out by her ^^;; ), but there's this one girl...

Well, er, it's an extremely long story. Basically, a few months ago she tried her darndest to ruin my life. Steal my friends, make everyone hate me, the works. It was very distressing, especially considering I've known her and been her friend since she was twelve.

... and she wanted to hold Spider.

I didn't know how to say no (I take great strides to be as nice as I can), so I just said "oh, er, okay" and handed Spider (reluctantly) to her. It was one of the worst experiences of my life. I felt like I was going to cry the whole time. I couldn't do anything but stare at her like a madwoman, the whole time imagining her breaking one of Spider's legs or smashing her head or something. It was... not nice. When she gave Spider back I just clutched her for five minutes.

So. Basically.... I need to figure out a good way to say no in a way that won't make people decide I am the Devil In Blue Jeans. ^^;;

Any suggestions?

 

Awwh that sucks!!

You just need to stand up for yourself, and say something like, why should I when you do your best to wreck my life? and just turn around and walk away.
Don't let someone intimidate you. I am not in highschool now, and trust me, when you finish you see later that highschool's social system really is not much more than a big silly game.. don't let some mean little girl intimidate you

Tell her she is pathetic, and you feel sorry for her

 

Awu~ That's sad. -sends over virtual hugs-
My friend and I took our dolls to school just this past week and we got the whole "What IS that?!" and when my friend told them the price... one of them even started to rant and lecture us.... but that's a whole other story. (We weren't insulted at all! We were amused ^^ but then, we're like that :smile: )

You should tell them: "I'm sorry, Spider doesn't want others to hold her." ^^ She may think you're insane for a bit, but then, at least she won't ask next time, right? l0l

 

TT^TT I wish I had the guts. This girl just seems to make a hobby out of making friends with my friends, and she's just so... guh. Let's just say I was pretty sure everyone was at least a little good before I met her. Now... not so sure.

Hakai -- o__o That's actually a really good idea! Everyone I know is already pretty sure I'm touched in the head (XD) so having a "tempermental" doll would hardly be a stretch. And thank you for the hugs!!

 

I know it can be very hard sometimes. I find the best thing to do though is just be honest. I'd just say that I'm very cautious about my dolls safety because even though they arn't that delicate the doll is super important and impossible to replace. I say the same thing to people who ask to hold my computer. Unless I know them really well AND believe that they won't be clumsy I tend to just say I'd be uncomfortable with it.

I have more of a problem with people touching Clovers face.... I don't mind if someone knows how to hold a doll head but when they try and touch his nose or something it really bothers me and I usually can't say no fast enough. >< I'm thinking of till his body arrives just putting a little sign on him or something. It already looks like I'll have to wash a little then re spray him to get the shine to go away.

Edit: lol. Just noticed this was post 666.

 

Hahaha... XD I noticed that too. Interestingly enough, your username is the name of one of the creepiest villains in the Discworld book series, which I find strangely ironic and unsettling.

Remember, kids... evil is AWESOME.

 

If you really want to be polite, tell her - and everyone else, really - something along the lines of: "No. I'm sorry, but letting others hold her makes me so nervous."

If it were me, though... I'd just say "No." and turn around and walk away.

 

Creepy, but isn't he just lovable! XD I'm vaguely tempted to replace my icon with one of Mello instead of L, just so that those in the know will start thinking of Mr.Teatime and Mello in the same bubble. hehehe

 

(Sorry, head to butt in. I love Mister "Teh-ah-tim-eh" ever so much. Second only to the Disc Elves in fun and chuckles )

My opinion? 'Polite' must take second place to 'firm' in this case. From what you said, she's the kind of person who cares little for your feelings, so why should you tipoe around hers? What's important is Spider and her safety, right? That's your priority, not the bruised feelings of, from what you say, a rather nasty piece of work.

Edit: TeaTime, you just broke my brain with Teatime/Mello Why... why does it work so well??