Other people handling your dolls

I don't mind if people handle my doll - it's how they handle it that is important. I just emphasize that it is an expensive art-doll and if broken, the parts can not be replaced. Generally two things happen after that:

1) the person decides they'd rather not take the risk of touching it or 2) they will touch it but handle it with extreme caution.

I don't see the need to tell people 'don't touch'. I want them to touch and explore and understand. Helps encourage the facination.

 

=/ I don't know I took Reila to school once but no one wanted to hold him. I'd just say no flat out. It's not worth the risk to let others hold them.

 

Believe it or not, I do try to be polite sometimes, but I think this is one of those times that a flat out, "uh, no." is exactly what the situation calls for. If you feel compelled to, make up a BS reason, like "he's very fragile."

 

I let my art teacher hold my doll, and my fiancee...but they are the only ones. Little kids get around me with Nny in my arms and I'm like O.o "nuuuu!!"

As for the problem you're having with her. I had the same thing happen, she stole my friends first, then the guy I had a crush on next...they're just not worth your time. Honestly, I would just say no, and not mention how fragile Spider is or anything, just no works perfectly most of the time.

Good luck in the future, let me know if you need me to come beat her up. XD

 

hey, my name is Grace too~!

 

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Dont be a push-over. Say "no". And keep to it. If something happens to your doll YOUR the only one who will be affected.
Example: I own a sword collection and loaned one of them to a friend for a movie she had to do for cinima class. The actress managed to ruin the scabbard. Oh sure she was sorry but "sorry" isnt going to fix a thing.

Are you willing to allow someone you dont trust to hold something this dear to you?

Also this is from my own experiances but most friends in highschool lose touch. I had four best friends and now i have 2. One started rumors about me and the other chose to "move on to more mature people".

 

I mighta responded to this before, but I have new thoughts!
Not letting total strangers touch your dolls is understandable, and if they think your snobby, it sucks to be them.

However, at a meet-up, it might seem a touch snobby if you won't let other BJD people play with him - especially if you're playing with their dolls.

 

i wouldn't dare to ask if i can touch someone else's doll.

there was a time when i was carrying one of my blythe doll at train and a lady sitting next to me said, "she's lovely!" and ask me for info on her. that was scary enough for me.

 

I think it's not just the whole idea of asking ~ Some people don't know HOW to hold the dolls right, they'll grabe them by the arm or neck or something (I've seen it done).

 

I always ask if I want to see or hold something that isn't mine (^w^)
especially animals--->I don't want to get bitten if it's scared! If someone told me no, I would respect their wishes and wouldn't be offended at all. I wouldn't hand over something precious like a baby sister/brother over to a complete stranger or expect a stranger to do the same either (^____^) (I couldn't think of a good analogy, pardon the cheeziness). It's just not safe.

Last year I met up with a new BJD owner and the first thing she did was grab Lawrence's nose, shake it, and scream how adorable he was (0_0)!!!!
I nearly died of a heart attack (T_T)...after that I just grimaced and said "yup he's a cutie!" and didn't yell at her not to touch his face for some reason - maybe I was still shocked or maybe since she was a newbie I brushed it off (~_~). I learned the hard way that you can't automatically assume if someone owns a doll they'll treat yours very nicely (^^)'.

 

I would understand if someone was uncomfortable with me holding their dolls, plus it's your doll and your descision--don't do what makes you feel uncomfortable.

At doll meets, it doesn't bother me if people hold my dolls as long as they're carefull about the faceups. If it were a non-doll person...hmmm...that would depend on the situation...

 

hey, i wouldn' tlet some random guy in the stree ttouch my doll. If you know them, then let them touch, but if its someone you don' tknow, its none of their business touching your belongings.

 

I agree, it's yours and you have the right to decide if people other than you touch it or not.

Once, I was with Odile on the street, waiting for the bus on my way to a doll meet. And this little girl kept staring at her, then she asked if she could hold her... of course, I politely shook my head, and said "I'm sorry, but no". Then, she asked "Why not?"... I didn't know what to say, it was the first time I had Odile out of her carrier bag. "Because it's really fragile and I love her too much to let her go" was my answer. Then the girl grabbed Odile's leg, and started to pull while beginning a noisy tantrum... "I WANT ONE AND I WANT IT NOW!". My god, was I scared! "Where the hell is this child's mother?!"
Fortunately for me, her mom came (she was buying ice cream nearby) and the situation was solved with no injuries on any side. But I was scared to death! Sometimes at night, I can still hear the screaming "...AND I WANT IT NOW!" =P Not really, but this was a very bad experience that has taught me not to show off my dolls in public. At least not in Mexico city.

 

strangers don't touch my dolls. of course, they don't go out into public too often and i tend to come off a bit on the unapproachable side, so that probably helps, hehe.

my friends aren't really even trusted with my dolls, either, from the standpoint that most of them don't really understand or respect my interest in them all that much. if they can't respect their cost and their relatively fragile nature, they aren't touching them. heck, i can barely trust some people with CDS let alone my dolls! :P

 

These dolls are special...not to mention EXPENSIVE so there is nothing wrong with not letting anyone touch your doll. I don't trust little kids with my dolls, no way.
Haha, nice save by the way!

 

I let most of my friends hold my dolls because they either have their own dolls already, plan on getting dolls in the future, or understand how to hold them. One friend of mine, when I was handing Nariko to her, grabbed her by the calf and was confused as to why I wouldn't let go of her till she was holding the doll by the waist.-_- But other than my friends and my mom, no one has held my dolls.

 

I bet thats because plastic dolls are really solid to hold an won't flop over. People are used to just grabbing the doll by the arm or the leg. eeeksss

 

they will think your mental.....don't toutch my doll!

 

maybe they would'nt think your a snob so much as mental. However you were fast with the wet paint bit.