Other people handling your dolls

I only let people touch them who I know really care for them (as dolls and with their individual personalities). I have a lot of DoA friends outside of the board and I trust them with the "kids". All of them have dolls of their own, and they entrust me with them, so it's a happy medium.

On the other hand... I HATE it when I have their hair styled a certain way, and anyone messes with it. Hate it.

And if I don't know or trust you... Don't even think about reaching over to grab him/them. I will slap hands away, hard.
If I give a stranger permission to touch or hold one of them, it's usually where I know that they
(A) Have no evil motives or
(B) Can't go anywhere if they do...

I consider myself as their protector. If anyone was to harm one of them, or God forbid try to grab one and run... I'd have eternal pity for them...
Because there is no lighter term I could use than an Infernal Blazing Hell for the kind of pain I'd put them through, once he was safe again.

 

Rrr I'm kinda the same x__x I take risks with my boys, like standing them on high ledges and what not... but I get paranoid when someone else is only carrying them @D@

 

I actually had sort of the opposite problem. I brought Miriel to class with me once. One of my classmates who is minoring in sculpture was really interested in her, particularly in the customizability. He wanted to see the inside of her head, what it looked like without eyes, ect... but after he wheedled her price out of me he was afraid to touch her. Honestly I was all right with him poking about inside her head, but he was really intimidated by her.

 

truthfully speaking, i trust others easily..

but when it comes to my doll, i freak out
if they're not a doll owner themselves, my parents or older sister, my close friends (i don't even trust them sometimes, one of them held Yori by his head once! He almost fell cause the wig couldn't support his weight, big surprise >_> ) then no touchy!

then again, i can't even take much risks with him =_=

 

Ha! Let others touch my sweeties?! I barely trust myslef with them!

That may be a slight exaggeration, but I do wash my hands before I touch them. I am terrified that I will accidentally transfer something onto them.

I am taking at least one on a trip with me this summer to meet doll fans of another kind. These girls have all been begging to see a bjd and I'm more than happy to show off a doll or two. Now.. will I let these girls touch my dolls... they'll have to wash their hands first. Then I'll think about it.

(technically, is it still allowing someone to hold your doll if you've still got a hold on a hand or foot? >_< )

 

Here's my 2 cents: I think it's the fact that if something happens while it's in your possession, it's your fault. If it happens when someone else is holding it, then it theirs, and you feel like if they hadn't have touched it, it wouldn't have happened.

That also relates to how expensive BJDs are, I think. While I think it would be terrible if something happened to Byakko, It'd also be terrible that my $400 is pretty much gone. I suppose people tend to feel less guilty if they're the ones who break their things, as opposed to someone else.

 

I find myself in a bit of a situation at work, and would like to hear peoples’ opinion on the matter.

Last autumn I brought the sisters to work, to show my co-workers just what it is I’m on about when I talk about these Asian dolls.

We work in an open office environment. I place the dolls on my cabinet next to my desk - it’s a good height for displaying the girls nicely, making them visible to the whole room and affording me a good view of who approaches.

During the day the sisters visited people stopped by, asked questions, looked at them or perhaps felt the fabric of their clothes or caressed their hair. The more curious touched a hand or a wrist to feel the resin after having asked my permission.
The visit went flawlessly, everyone oooh’d admiringly, were curious and generally charmed by the sisters. And horrified when I demonstrated how you can remove their wigs, open their heads and change their eyes!
Having read many awful tales of ill behaved people I thought myself fortunate to have such well-behaved colleagues.

I didn’t hesitate to bring my new girl Shiori to visit. One of my colleagues, a beautiful girl of Korean descent, had posed for reference pictures when my husband the Dragon was about to give Shiori her face up, particularly important since Shiori is a Soah bought without face up. And I most especially wanted to show her the result!

The day went well, people admired Shiori, they remarked on the resemblance between her and her human model, took photos to show their daughters, and so forth.

But in the afternoon I got a good scare:

I was on the phone when a boy, a recent addition to the department, walked up to Shiori from behind me. I didn’t see him until he was standing in front of the cabinet where Shiori was. I looked up just as he reached out a hand and rubbed her cheek with a finger. I was shocked! He then proceeded to flick her cheek, proclaim her pretty and walk off.
Some while after this, my heart resumed beating…

My problem is this: I didn’t say anything at the time of the incident – partly because I was on the phone, and partly because I was too stunned. And now, months later, I still don’t know how to bring it up with the boy. And I must warn him off molesting dolls if I ever want to bring a doll to work again!

He’s new, I don’t know him very well at all, but he seems to be a decent enough kid. I’m absolutely positive that the youngster didn’t mistreat Shiori out of malice – it was obviously sheer ignorance on his part. I also suspect that he snuck up on me the way he did because he was curious but a bit self-conscious being a young male and still wanting to look at a doll…

How do I warn him off touching my dolls sternly, yet without being unpleasant?

 

Just tell him that you would rather he didn't touch your dolls without asking first, as they are very expensive and you'd hate for anything to happen to her. I'm sure he'll understand :}

 

Hmmm, for something that expensive and dear to you, i myself would just say back the ***k off! or i'll hurt you! But, that's just me.

 

yeah i agree with Makime. next time he comes around wanting to touch your dolls just tell him to ask first because theyre expensive and can be fragile !

 

uggh. I had a very similar instance happen during Spring Break...

I was on the phone with my parents, and Adelais was sitting out on the table... I was there on a church retreat and kept him hidden away most of the time, but I had just taken him out to take pictures of him in the laundromat... Anyhoo- he was sitting there and I was watching him, when a group of girls came in and picked him up while I was on the phone. I covered the phone up and said, "please don't pick him up or touch his face..." but they just rolled their eyes at me and proceeded to hold him by his feet and turn him all around and tap at his face, before tossing him on his back on the table and replying, "His butt's big." I was just like you, in such shock that I didn't respond...

I think the best thing to do is to, if you bring her in again, have her sit closer to you so you can monitor her at all times, and 'catch' prying hands before they touch your sweetie.

And honestly, if you're very concerned, perhaps you shouldn't bring her back to the workplace. After all, who knows what curious interns are capable of! o.o

 

Maybe if you wait until the next time you bring a doll to work, and give everyone the talk about how to properly handle them, not to single him out. And keep an eye out for him. It might be awkward to just bring it up out of the blue without the dolls being present.

Good luck!

 

I think it'd be cute if you just put a little propped up piece of paper saying, "Please do not touch without asking!" It shows that you're obviously protective of these dolls, and that they are valuable and not to be treated roughly.

 

I like Nakitama's idea. You could also pull him aside and remind of him the incident, saying that you think it's great that he is interested in the dolls, and you would be happy to tell him about them, but please don't touch her face as it can mess up her faceup, and that it holds sentimental value.

 

People from outside this hobby are not familiar with paint from dolls rubbing off.Most of the times a "sorry, that's handpainted and is not fixed like commercial, dolls, be careful" it's enough. It's more effective if you can do the "horrified smile/kid about to break the vase" face and voice.

 

Maybe just saying "Oh, hey, could you be careful with her face... it's very easy to chip the painting off and it takes a lot of time to do." would keep him from touching it. It doesn't seem like (unlike poor bluegirlwish) your coworker touched her to be rude, he probably just wanted to see what she felt like... and probably assumed her faceup was barbie-like and practically indistructable.

 

I agree kuro. Leave a note letting everyone know how fragile the doll is, and not to touch unless you have permission.

I am kind of uncomfortable with confronting him about the past incident. I think I would be really embarassed to be singled out and adressed, even one on one. Espessially for an incident that to him I am sure was just a passing glance months ago. But thats just me... I hate uncomfortable confrontation.

 

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I'd just put a note on your doll saying 'Touch my face and I'll KILL YOU!!'

Seriously, just gently explain to him that faceups are delicate and that next time, you'd appreciate it if he asked first.

 

It's much too late to bring up this specific incident with the kid. If you bring a doll to work again, I agree with the idea of putting up a "Please do not touch" sign beside them, and if this particular person comes into your work area, I might give him a particular warning, such as "please be especially careful of her face; the paint can rub off", as not everyone sees signs.