Other people handling your dolls

I think the next time you bring them to work and he's around, you might explain why touching the face is such a bad idea. Most people come into contact with dolls whose faces are meant to be permanent, so explaining that these aren't that way because they're designed to be customizable might work best. Good luck! I think it's wonderful that you're able to bring your girls into work and that your coworkers are so kind. I suspect it's a reflection of the kindness and respect with which you treat them.

 

When I read "doll molestation" i was thinking something much worse then someone just touching a doll's face ^^;; I assumed someone at the office picked them up and pulled their pants down...

 

I really hate when people do this....especially other doll people. I have a hard time because I say they can touch and hold my doll, but then they start changing the clothes and wigs and it drives me freakin' nuts!!! They are my friends and I don't wanna be mean, but it really bothers me. A lot!!!!
I wish I knew how to let them know too....without sounding like an bitch.

 

You can stick a post it note on her chest: "ADMIRE ONLY - TOUCH ME AND YOU ARE AN INSTANT EUNUCH!!"

 

Something like that happened to me when I was in a store carrying Akina - an employee scurried over and began marvelling over her, and began posing her wrists and touching her faceup, overall being too touchy.
I didn't want to make a scene, though I didn't really like her touching my baby like that. >_o

I agree with everyone else - just leave a sign or make sure people have your permission before touching one of your kids! I'm sure if the boy saw the sign stating 'please do not touch,' he'd realize his error ^^;

 

People who touch things that don't belong to them are the same people who touch paintings and other artifacts in museums. These are people who were not raised with the sensitivaty to art. 50%+ of the world is like this and you can't expect them to know not to touch just out of the blue like that.
My suggestion is that you never leave anything of value out in the open like that. Next time keep your doll infront of you, this way if you see a hand comeing at her, you can easily swat it away, regardless of who it is.

 

I agree with the sign thing. ^^ If I were to be in a situation where I felt I needed a sign, it'd say 'Look with your eyes, not your hands!!' X'3

 

*is so not that person that cares if people inside the hobby touch the dolls*

Outside the hobby however..well.

After a doll-meet my friend and I went to visit one of our friends that lived on that side of town. We had our dolls sitting on the table and were talking about them he was highly ammused, well he appoached Kiyoshi and PICKED HIM UP BY HIS NECK I hate that. I told him no dont ever do that..freaked him out..then *beat him with a nearby umbrella. Now this was a friend so my reaction to a stranger might be a little more polite, but yeah.

Signs are good for offices, friends outside the hobby should just be beat. ^_^

*My friend was not harmed by the umbrella incedent and I didn't hit him hard at all. I love my friends, really.

 

Personally i would handle him like a child. Its one thing to say no. But when you explain things so they understand the consequences, it reinforces the "no". So after telling him that you dont want him touching the doll tell him why it was inappropriate for him to touch her face. (I’m assuming its because it could damage the faceup, and he touched her without your permission)

 

Oh my god! When I saw the topic title, I thought maybe...well...you know. @_@
But yeah, I agree to put her closer to you so that when someone's grubby hands try to touch her, you can smack it away(what I would do, hehe) or tell them not to touch. Put a sign too. ^-^

 

I took my boy into work the other day and left him on my desk when I went out to lunch - didnt want him getting dirty outside. i left a note on him saying 'dont touch me without rebeccas permission.'
thankfully people in the office know if they didnt obey that there would be hell to pay..i am rather territorial about my stuff.

 

I find that signs work fairly well for the few times I have had look at only dolls- but the most effective thing has been to attach them to something like a basket or a chair. If you use soemthing like a ribbon then people are more likely to pick up the whole item , giving your precious a bit of a barrier and making them less likely to drop or handle clumsily.

Most people do not really get paint rubbing off unless it is explained so I would suggest saying that the face should not be touched because oif the oil in peoples fingers. That is heard about a LOT of things and seems to sink in faster.

It is hard not to caress a cheek though and it seems sweet that he did. Clearly the flick was embarrassment at being seen

I would not bring that up again, but if he comes by just start a nice conversation about it with him, and if you can work in how it took your guy friends a while to be ok with it but now they are- well that might help him to feel less awkward.

Then you can say ' Hey you are welcome to feel her arm if you want- they have the coolest resin skin don't they? But we don't touch the faces since the oils in our fingers can leave marks' and I'll bet it goes a bit smoother

As for the one who had the doll tossed- *gasp*! Big butt? yeah unlike his BRAIN!

QZ

 

You don't have to be shy in telling them how to handle your doll as long as you're polite. I'm pretty sure the boy will understand... ^_^ It might embarrass him if you bring it up out of the blue, so just mention it to maybe everyone when you next bring your doll to the office.

I was in the same situation and this girl immediately reached out her dirty hands (she had just ate a pie...using those hands) and touched my boy's face. My reaction was very immediate though polite and I explained that his face-up could be removed with touch. Also...she has the habit of stroking his eyelashes...which is not of the good since Luts didn't glue his left eyelash down properly. -_-

Though...to bluegirlwish, I admire that you didn't blow up at shoe evil, evil girls. I wouldn't have had the same restraint... O_O

 

I agree don't bring up the past it happened, He WILL remember it and understand when he sees a sign saying Please don't touch, ask if you want to know more about her.

 

I had a similiar situation involving a lady at a fabric store.....She was intrigued, and touched Damien's face. I wasn't rude...but in the process of telling her about the dolls, i casually mentioned "And their face painting is VERY delicate, so u shouldn't touch it....." she immediately apologized, and felt bad...but we continued our convo, and she didn't make an attempt to touch his face again.

 

honestly tho, i will make a friendly suggestion......i learned the hardway....if you are afraid of people touching the face or messing with your girls or boys, u probably shouldn't take them to work.....when ur working, you don't have time to linger with your boy or girl every minute....it's inevitable that someone is going to touch them. u know? My suggestion is don't take them to work. I learned this lesson the hard way. I quit taking them to work, even to SHOW people.....instead, i'd take pictures....or, i'd come in on a day off and show them.

but that's just me.

Jordan-Mykal

 

Yah, i agree here, however, when ur working you can't do it.....
personally, i'd think that a doll at work is inappropriate, for that very reason. u know? Once i left my boy at work, (i'm a waitor) and he was on a table within my view, and when i came back from serving a table, the manager had his partner there, spreading my dolls legs. and laughing about it. Work just really isn't the place for dolls....(unless of course you work in a doll shop) LOL

Jordan-Mykal

 

Thank you for all your advice, it has been both funny to read and most practical! I have found it immensely useful!
Reading of incidents some of you have endured makes me feel very, very fortunate that this is the worst scare I have had regarding my darling dolls.

Don’t laugh… I never thought of putting a sign saying, “Don’t touch” on my dolls. Eh… I most definitely will write something and put it on the next doll that gets to visit my work.

It does sadden me somewhat, though. I want to invite curiosity and give a pleasant impression of BJDs’, and I really liked when people reverently caressed my girls’ hair, admiringly felt the cloth of their dresses, or carefully touched a hand or arm.
A sign will stave off thoughtless handling, but it will also scare off the more timid from even asking if they might touch my girls at all. But I never want to have a scare such as I had last time… Something will have to give, I suppose.

I really wish the young man had only caressed Shiori’s cheek. That would be both sweeter and more understandable… But he rubbed her cheek like you would rub one of those scent stickers to get it to give off perfume. And then he flicked her face like you would flick away a speck of lint from your clothes.
If he had caressed her, poked her or generally just touched her I would at least have had some understanding of what he thought he was doing…!

I have considered placing visiting dolls directly on my desk where I would have more control over what transpires, but I’m not greatly attracted to the idea since that would mean that they would be very invisible to passers by. The cabinet obscures the view of my desk, unfortunately.
I enjoy startling people dropping by from other departments – most often men of technical persuasions and mature years – by having a large doll on my cabinet. They are usually quite interested!

I will see if I can bring the subject to the painstaking craft of face ups and the general preciousness of these dolls during a coffee break or a lunch when the young man is present. He’s so new he has missed my previous dissertations on the subject.
Which is probably why my other co-workers behave as nicely as they do – they’d gotten the full lecture in the course of general info about my mad hobby before I ever even thought of bringing any of my girls to visit!

But even if I can’t work the subject into the general conversation, I think a “Don’t touch” note will do the job. I’m certain my young colleague was merely being ignorant, and will surely heed a proper warning.

I’m very sorry that the title have caused some of you to think that unwanted touching of dolls of a more particular nature was going on. That was not my intent!
The only one pulling down their pants and undressing them to show off their nipples is me, when I demonstrate the gorgeously naturalistic Volks sculpt! When I had stripped Yume in this manner on the sisters’ visit, one of the older ladies looked worried and said: “I hope she didn’t mind…”

 

Instead of the sign saying "no touch!" maybe you can have it say "please treat her nicely "?

I'm ticked off from just reading about the guy that poked her and flicked her cheek--- it's very rude! How would he like that if someone did it to him? I'm sure he poked many animals with a stick as a kid (^^)'''...