Other people handling your dolls

I wouldn't let just anyone handle my doll. She's far too precious. To be honest I don't like anyone handling her.

 

Hhmm...but sometimes even Doll ppl, I found it rough in handling dolls X(
Be carefull. But overall, I don't really like when other ppl touching my doll.
Ehm..except my sister ^_^

 

ooh,i really can't stand people handling Ariel,unless it's someone i know that's responsible.i lock Ari up for a while until a visit it over,or hide her far under my bed in her box or something,because people tend to wander back into my room,and she usually gets grabby-hands

 

Tell them if they can't behave, don't come to your house. If that isn't an option, put everything you don't want broken in your gallery rooms, and lock the doors. If the doors don't lock, buy locking knobs. If you already have locking knobs, then buy padlock strips too! And if the little bobbits have some magic way of getting around locks, install an electric door lining that shocks trespassers.

Also, just plain DON'T ALLOW the dolls in the visitor's presence.

And DON'T EVER take "Oh come on!" for an answer.

Being roundabout is no way to get a point across. Don't you love your dolls? So doesn't that mean that they're worth fighting for?

Trust me on this. It's important to be firm about the things you care about and want to protect.

 

As long as the people handling my doll are close friends or know what they're doing (all have to be respectful), I don't mind. I get pissed off when they people take my doll and make him do stupid things and get a little iffy when people start touching the face though.

 

I haven't gotten my doll yet (soon soon, my tax forms have come in!) but I have now played with dolls from my friend (yay for her and Reita!) and at the Indy doll meet in January and have learned that you do NOT TOUCHIE DA FACE, KAYTHX? XD Mostly because I've heard how delicate the face-ups are and partly because I'm terrified of breaking what doesn't belong to me. >>; I'm clumsy and don't want to hurt them?

For some reason they seem like real people and I'm afraid of causing them pain. But yeah, they are fairly sturdy, but still, I don't want to hurt it. I like to pet their hair and pose them. Apparently I had the magic touch with one doll that no one can ever pose in a masculine way, and I was just fiddling (playing to most people, I call it fiddling because some people don't think you should 'play' with them like toys) and posed him in a way I thought looked kinda cool an natural and everyone spazzed about 'who posed him like that?!'

Raising my hand I was glommed on about 'how' I did it because apparently the owner liked it. XD I was happy that they liked it since I was just fiddling.

Back on general topic....

Yes, my doll will probably be handled a lot, I plan to take him with me when I get him, to the store, to the food place, to take pictures, but not to work, work has thievery problems. Stupid Sony peoples.

As long as no one acts stupid I won't break their fingers for touching him or holding him, unless they want to pay me another 400 bucks to replace him when they fudge him up badly. ^_____^ Not evil at all, am I?

Back on original topic.... XD

Kids = Satan. I have two little sisters, one of which I would probably let hold my doll, but my youngest sister will not be touching him EVAR. And neither will my cousins or my nieces and nephews or any other family besides my mom and one auntie.

They have NO respect for personal space or property and would probably break him just to spite me for spending money on him. My mom has seen the pictures of what I want and knows the cost and will be careful, and my auntie is great and wouldn't break him if I explained it too her, but the rest of them?

Uh uh, they aren't even allowed in my HOUSE let alone will they be allowed to touch my DOLL!

Blood relations my butt, they're disrespectful and rude and I don't let that in my house. I don't think anyone should be obligated to let people into their houses that are that way. I'll sick my fag-hag attack chihuahua on them. *pats her LilyBug* ^-^

 

I go absolutely bonkers when people mess with my things and I havnt given them my express permission to do so. I've smacked people for even touching something of mine when they havnt asked first. Have more and less tolerance for little kids depending on the child. If they just dont know better it gets taken away if they do they get smacked and sent to time out. Even if they didnt damage it.

 

Well, when they ask and I know/like them, it's fine for me ^_^'

At a Dollmeet Judas was taken out of my hands right away (it was also a birthday party, but with 100 Dolls as guests too X'D) and he made his round through the room. But it was fine for me, 'cause all the people were Dollowners too and nobody had a problem when someone has taken a doll, looked at it and made photos. Dollowners know how to handle a doll .w.

 

Uh, no, you're not evil. They should offer to pay for it without you even asking; it's just what you do for expensive things like that. If I broke the mirror off of someone's car I'd offer to pay for it, even if I didn't have the money--money can be made, but friends can be lost if you disregard the things they care about. It's about respect and common decency. If you can't afford to fix it, don't mess with it.

In any case (OMG so much necro on this thread, why am I replying? ), I'll be okay with people who ask respectfully and clearly understand how precious he is holding my doll. If they don't ask nicely, I won't feel bad telling them no.

 

Children under 13? 100% no. Even if they are my sweet little cousin, no. Teenagers? Unless I know them well...certainly not. Adults? Close family and friends who are careful are definitely allowed, as are other dolly people. I'm not that protective of wig styles (a furwig is easy enough to put right and the others have straight fibre wigs that don't muss very easily) that I flinch at the thought of someone else styling my doll and if asked nicely I wouldn't hesitate to let someone else dress my doll as long as I was present and I was the one to put the discarded outfit carefully away. I wouldn't want someone else to be responsible for the loss of a shoe or a belt, so I can take away that risk by making sure that I know where everything is.

Close family and friends who are not careful? No. I don't feel that I have to let everyone who asks hold my dolls, I'm not afraid of saying a polite 'no' to people. It's their problem if they think I'm uptight or whatever...I'm just making sure that they won't break my expensive doll and have to pay me £300 to put it right.

 

Speaking as a dealer of dollhouse miniatures, some of which can cost as much as a bjd, I say.....let them meet you at chuckie cheese or someplace that is set up for weapons (i.e. =kids) of mass destruction. I have family that has no idea how much items in my collection cost, except for my parents. One time my grandmother broke the base on one of my 1/12 scale vignette scenes- then suggested I sell it at a yard sale! Let family come into your home with a known stepsister and two known kids who LIKE to break things?? I say, NO!NO! don't be snuckered into letting the kids handle the dolls. I have zero tolerance for people who wantonly allow their kids to destroy things that belong to others. I have dealt with adults at shows who pick up delicate items and then exclaim over the piece's cost--- and who claim to be serious collectors.

If you have, have to let them in- (I know they are family- but that's no excuse) be up front with your stepsister. Let her know there's a price tag for the little darlings breaking whatever their heart desires. If she still comes over, lock up the studios and the dolls. I have seen both ends of the spectrum- complete strangers who were very careful and a pleasure to allow to see my collection of miniatures and dolls, and supposed close friends and family who don't get it, and don't care. Most of my friends now are dolly and dollhouse miniature people, so they get it.

 

Spray pepper spray all over a pretty object.

Put it in plain view of a small brat. Tell them NOT to touch it.

Leave the room. Get the hose ready.

Lather, rinse, repeat a few times.

And ta-da! Your dolls are now safe to roam the house and the brats will never touch anything of yours again

 

The people that soooooo gentle with Malice are my 7 year old cousin who love to take pictures of him. I think its because they help my care for my infant cousins and son. My friends who are all 16 and up are much rougher and I rarely let them hold him but Anna and Elena are so gentle and delicate with him.

 

I don't personally own my dolls yet but I had a very similar experience with my two youngest cousins and my aunt coming over unexpected whilst I was out at University. Their mum has no understanding of "Don't go in Tekaru's room."
So what did their mother do? She let them go into my room whilst I was in class and play "dolls" with my LE anime figures How the logic works there I'm not sure, if someone understands the logic please enlighten me.

Anyways, long story short, I got back from my classes, went up to my room to dump my stuff and found my cousins bashing Mizore-chan on the floor, Rin and Len's hands and hair on the other side of the room to their bodies and finally poor Lacus falling off her stand

My instant reaction was shouting at the top of my lungs telling them to get out, raging at their mum about my figure's sheer price and that they are NOT toys when she told me not to shout at them for playing with my "children's toys" after all, in her words "I can always get another one" and finally a small asthma attack from not breathing properly. My aunt still didn't seem to understand after I told her that most of my figures are LE and now discontinued and thus CAN'T be re-bought. Nor did she seem to get how much money one of those figures costs me. After a while, the aunt I live with ended up telling her to be quiet and tried to explain to her that my room is not a playground and that there is a good grand or two's worth of collectable's in there.

I was not pleased in the slightest. I ended up having to glue Len's ponytail back on, put Rin and Len's hands back on and fix Mizore back onto her stand. The worst one was Lacus, who was coming off her stand....despite being screwed on I managed to fix her after an hour or two with a screwdriver and a pair of pliers though. Thankfully nothing worse had happened to them

So my advice for you would be to lock away or hide your dolls when they are over. It may seem cruel but it's for their own safety. Also, when your stepsister and her kids come over lay down the ground rules and take no . from them. If they break something, they're out. It may seem harsh but if they have no respect for you, why should you show respect to them?

The other option would be to tell them that they can't come over uninvited as you'll be too busy or something. Arrange to go out with them and take them somewhere where they can run riot without breaking anything.
I don't like parents that don't control their children at all. It's unfair for anyone else who has to deal with the children.

As long as you lay down the ground rules and tell them they're out if they so much as touch them let alone break them, then I'm sure you'll be fine.

 

That sounds like hell
My house is also full of small children, but thankfully they're all quite understanding about not touching other people's things.

Like others are saying, I suggest just putting them away for a while. I'm sure it's difficult to just "put them up" but it sounds like the safest route.
And have a serious talk with the parent about how expensive and precious your resin babies are.

 

I would never, ever let kids handle my doll unless I was sitting right besides them. So far I do have had good experiences with kid holding dolls; at a local fantasy fair, a girl of 8-9 asked a BJD friend of mine to hold her SD and she was very careful with him. So, some kids can behave themselves, but sadly others can't.

I'm also not very comfortable with random adults handling my doll, but friends, family and other BJD owners are free to mess with them. Well... not my Mum anymore after she broke both my doll's feet! >__>

 

And THATS the reason I don't like children :P And this kind of parents, who think their kids are little angels and they can do EVERYTHING, no matter how does it freak out other people. If I would have to face such situation - I wouldn't care who is that my family or not, they would regret it. I hate when people are selfish and careless about others. I would - like you - shout, probably I would claim money back for destroying MY collection (even if I couldn't replace some items, fair enough for broken nerves). From their irresponsible mother of course.

 

WOW. Honestly, if they weren't going to respect my house and the parent wasn't going to enforce some respect - they'd have to play in a designated 'safe' room or outside. My mom NEVER child proofed our house growing up and my grandma loved us - because we were taught not to touch things that weren't ours. So I know there's no excuse for that kind of behaviour. My cousins kid was only like 6 and has a head injury but she still understood "Those dolls are special, you can't touch those okay?". In fairness I found things for her to do and she was mostly supervised but I did have to leave her unattended and she listened wonderfully. Do you have a basement or something that's relatively safe? Maybe designate that as the 'play' area? My Aunt, the grandmother of said 6 year old has taught all her grandchildren that's where they're allowed to play when they come over and not to touch her things.

Either way, I'd have a big talk with your sister and even her kids when they come over. Make sure they know the ground rules and they get enforced and hopefully they'll learn how to behave - even if its just when they come over to your house!

 

I can't stand kids like this - I was a 'curator' as a child too! Personally, if it were me, my dolls would be having an extended sleepover at my friends house. She also has dolls, and while it would be really hard not to see them, I would still feel safer with them somewhere that I knew they would be looked after and happy.
Failing that, install bolts and padlocks on the rooms they aren't allowed in (this won't work too well if you are renting like I am) and just lock the rooms while they are over. Unless they are VERY intelligent kids, I can't see them getting through a padlock! Even attaching the bolts up high on the door so that you can reach them and the kids can't would work too.
Or lock the children up

In case you didn't notice, I don't really find children all that....important Unless they behave, in which case they are wonderful!

 

I have always enjoyed showing my toys off. My two boy cousin are very good with my thing they are young but they are good about look but don't touch. My mom and sister and father the same. Other people Unless my close doll friends are not to touch anything be it doll, FFVII figure, KH figure, or my transformer collection.
Case in point my mom had a really nice friend come over with her two kids. The kids are not bad kids just ruff normal boys. They got bored and ask to play with some of my Transformers. I gave them two that were pretty sturdy and could easily be put back togther. I said don't transform them. What did they do they grab my Leader (my biggest transformer) Optimus prime off my table and I hear is his foot suppost to do that. They grab at my Tan godo Ra head more than once I finally had it and call my mother who polite told them to go outside. I sat on my bed the rest of the day and when they peeked in I was LIKE GET OUT NOW.